The Whatever Ladies Graduate! - Page 21

[onetwoten]

Yeah I think for most people it's still a UC as long as there's no trained medical professional. Although wow, I give a lot of kudos to the women that can literally do it on their own. I feel liek I'm going to want to be left alone, but I can't imagine not having the option to call DH into the room and help if needed (and he probably will be there with me for support, regardless). 

For us, I would still "count" it as a UC, because he's never attended a birth before, medic or not. What he knows is the same as what any well informed MDC mother knows before a delivery (as opposed to what most mainstream mamas know, you know?). But he still would probably be freaked out about the birth itself. It's more his skills in recussitation that make me feel more comfortable. He's never done a newborn before, but he has dealt with that general scenerio, and I know he knows what to do. But for the most part, any birth complications that came up, I would be the one directing him I think, not the other way around. 

But, of course that's all assuming I could convince him to UC, and I don't know I could. But like I said... I do respect his feelings on that. It was a long way intitally for him to become supportive of homebirth, and I think without any births under his belt (ours or someone elses) it's asking a lot of him to be ok going it alone, you know? Maybe for a second child. 

BFS: I've thought of that too. I've never labored before obviously, but my mother's labors were all increasing speed. I'm the oldest, and was about 10 hours I think, then around 4, then 45 minutes (born juuuustt inside the room, almost a hallway baby). Then with my youngest brother she was a bit older, but that one still was... I think max 10 hours. She left during the night, so I don't know what time, and had him at 10:45am. So I know I have to keep in mind the possibility of it being a quick labor. I'm ok with it being an "oops" UC, but I'm not sure if DH would be upset. Time to talk about it I suppose... 

[akind1]

For me UC means no professional people present.  Honestly, part of me secretly hopes this baby will come very fast and I can have an Oops homebirth . . . generally since this is my first VBAC, if I were to have a true homebirth, I would want a professional there, just for reassurance, and to bolster my confidence. Also, as much as I believe in listening to our bodies, sometimes an outside pair of eyes - especially professional ones - can see things that we cannot. Either way, I don't thing I could go UP - without outside prenatal care - I like, to a point at least, to get checked out, and while I don't see the need for excessive ultrasounds (like every visit, unless something is clearly wrong) I do see the importance of having at least one for anatomy and to check placental placement.

JJ hope you can find a care provider that suits you!

As for the mucous plug, I think I lost mine 2 or 3 times. There is no doubt when you have, it is a big wad of mucous, and it isn't, but often is, bloody, at least a little bit. (all that and I still hadn't gone into labor by 41+6; I think I lost it the first time around 38 weeks)

2 weeks until our big ultrasound! yay! and I found my stethoscope, so I can listen to baby!

[Baby_Cakes]

I'd have a LOT to learn if I wanted or had to UC, so I give you props JJ for even thinking about the possibility.  How far are you from the US border? 

AFM - Looks like I'm going to be a SAHM for a bit after the baby is born!  DH and I have had plenty of talks about this over the past 6 months and it's always been the same song and dance.  He wants/needs me to work, b/c the extra money helps.  Well, my spa has been pretty slow lately, and I'm barely bringing home $100 a weekend.  I brought it up again the other night that I wanted to stay home longer than a few weeks, and just threw it out there that I would like to just leave this job, and when baby is like closer to a year old, look for another job.  In a busier spa!  So that it's worth it to leave both kids.  And he agreed!  So now I just need to make it thru til July!  Huzzah!  I get at least a few more months off!

I have a prenatal visit tomorrow!  I'm wondering if she'll be able to help me figure out the baby's position.  I know it's early to "worry" but I still just want to know.  

When do we start having appointments every 2 weeks instead of every 4?

[MarineWife]

With UC, I think it's definitely something where you have to completely trust the natural process. I can see how that would be very hard for someone trained in medicine of any kind to do, especially since the possibilities of what is normal and ok are endless. Western society is so brainwashed with the idea that childbirth is dangerous and needs medical attention. We don't know what truly natural childbirth really is anymore.

I can't stop palpating my belly. I want to feel that baby and know where he is and how he is positioned all the time. I keep trying to feel specific body parts, too. My MW said it was safe when I asked dh if he wanted to feel. DH made some comment about the baby being poked and prodded. She said baby is completely cushioned and protected. IDK.

What do you all think? Do you think it's still ok even if I do it several times a day? I'm getting worried that I'm going to poke an eye out or something. Stupid, right?

That changing table from Target with all the baskets is now on sale for $144. I think I need to get that one now. I want to return the clothes I bought first, though, because I used a gift card and I don't know if they'll put the refund back on the gift card or on my credit card. I don't want to use my money to pay for the changing table and then be stuck with gift card money. KWIM?

[MarineWife]

Carrie ~ We cross-posted. That's great about being able to be a SAHM for a while. I read a while back that unless at least one parent makes at least 60K a year, it's not financially beneficial for both parents to work. That was assuming the extra expense of childcare, though. If I remember correctly, you don't have that because you work on days when your dh is home, right?

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

When do we start having appointments every 2 weeks instead of every 4?

I'm starting 2 week appointments now. I had my last 4 week prenatal at 26w and they scheduled my next one for 2 weeks. It seems kind of early to me but maybe not.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

Carrie ~ We cross-posted. That's great about being able to be a SAHM for a while. I read a while back that unless at least one parent makes at least 60K a year, it's not financially beneficial for both parents to work. That was assuming the extra expense of childcare, though. If I remember correctly, you don't have that because you work on days when your dh is home, right?
 

Yup - I work only on weekends, and my MIL watches DD for free on Fridays. So, there's no expense for us at all. Except that DH loses the only free time he has (weekends) to work on the house, etc.

I palpate a lot.  I even bounce the hard round things to see if it's head or butt!  I think they're fine in there.  If it was going to hurt the baby, I don't think we'd do it.  I think we'd "know".

[MarineWife]

I started a new thread for May since we are up to 21 pages here. We sure are a chatty bunch.

http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/1311030/may-2011-whatever-ladies-graduates#post_16421456