Every time I get near ovulation I want a second baby but . .

[Snapdragon]

the rest of the weeks of my cycle I want to stick with my only!

Does anyone else go through this?  Whether you have one or more kids, does anyone else feel pretty sure they don't want to have more babies- but then really want another when you get close to ovulating?!

I know this about myself very well at this point. But it still surprises me with its strength each month. I am so clear about only wanting this one great child I have, but then as I gear up to ovulate I want another. every single month.  then the other three weeks or four weeks of my cycle I really don't want another. anyone else go through this?

[BaileyB]

I went through this before off and on, mostly on. I think it has more do with being aware that I totally have the power to create another baby and almost daring myself to do it. I have a 7 week old and I'm already getting obsessed with, 'when will I ovulate? when will my period come back? how do I not get pregnant when I don't want to since I don't have my period back yet because of breastfeeding? How will I get be able to get pregnant when I want to if I am still breastfeeding in a year?' So many questions...I think it has mostly to do with just knowing how powerful my body is and realizing how amazing it is to be able to push a mini human out of your body even when you aren't ready to have another or don't want to have anymore.

Sorry, those are some long sentences I have in there.

Don't feel like you are the only one. There's at least 2 of us!

[Snapdragon]

thanks for the response! I am kind of fixated on this right now as I am getting closer and closer to ovulation this cycle. For me it is also an age thing as I am 38 so I don't have forever to wait if I do want another.  I can't decide if these strong feelings mean another baby is right for me, or if the strong feelings the rest of the cycle mean we shold just stick with one. I feel like in a lot of ways I do want another child- but I am scared of the amount of work it will require of me. I really like my downtime. But in the bigger picture, maybe I will feel sad if I miss out on a second child while I can.

I always thought I would have 2, but was surprised at the amount of work it takes to raise even one- harder than I expected! So dh and I are like- let's make this easy on ourselves and stick with one. He would go for two if I wanted to though.

Ds is one year old. I am not sure what we will do!

and the other thing is that I had a c section for my birth so the thought of another birth makes me nervous and very unsure. I think if I had had an amazing irth that I would be more inclined to do it again.