Here's the background: I met DP 5 years ago and he had just rescued a very energetic black border collie-aussie shepherd mix that was abused badly. This dog is very sweet and loyal, but can bark aggressively, jumps at people, climbs all over people like a lap dog. She's also an alpha female and gets in fights with some other dogs. We were young, went backpacking all the time and she got all the exercise she needed. We were able to make sure that we avoid situations that could cause a problem.
Fast forward, we had a baby. She is now almost 2. I have done a good job of keeping an eye on her and the dog. They have generally been fine. If the place feels crowded and that things are stressful, I usually send the dog outside. She will bark continuously and the neighbors will complain.
Now our problem is in the mornings-- I have a very hard time dragging myself out of bed sometimes and our DD likes to run in the living room. I've caught the dog nipping at her so I sent her off to the crate. I try my best to keep them separated. DD is energetic and just wants to play with the dog. It's hard with our one bedroom place. And since then, the dog has nipped DD a couple times. I know they're warnings and I do not want this to lead up to DD being injured. So this was it for me.
I talked to DP about posting up an ad, contacting the community and seeing if we could find her a new home. We both know it will be hard finding her a new home, but it's for the best. He agreed, but now he's been very avoidant. I'd like him to write the ad. I'll help, of course, but would rather have him do it because this is his dog and i know he might not forgive me if i just went ahead and did it for him. I've tried talking to him on a few different occassions, but he avoided it every time, getting frustrated and leaving the room.
I'm a stay-at-home mom and I'm the only one dealing with the dog, feeding her, making sure she's cared for, and trying to give her as much exercise as I can. I can't even take her to the dog park because she'd probably attack the other dogs and it's so hard taking her on a walk with a two year old in tow.. she really drags. DP works all day, all week and is out playing basketball and on meetings often. I really am at odds here.
Please help me find a way to communicate this and get my point across in the best way possible. DP absolutely refuses to place her back in a shelter. I know it will be hard finding her a new home and want to start as soon as possible and look into all the options we have. I really want peace and harmony in our home.