My DS2 is 16 months old, and I'm concerned he may have some signs of autism. For what it's worth, ASD is very prevalent in my family (2 uncles, 2 nephews, possibly brother). DS1 was very verbal at this age, and very social, so I'm not sure if I'm just comparing when I shouldn't, or if there is something else here. I did mention it to his dr. last month who completely brushed me off because my DS looked at him and shook his head no when he asked him something. The dr. said that kids on the spectrum didn't engage that well, and that I was imagining things. Here is what I'm concerned about:
-no real words other than the occasional mama (in context) and dog (he also uses it to mean cat);
-very poor eye contact when in my arms. He simply will not look at me;
-started spinning and toe-walking a few weeks ago. He seems to find it funny, but he's hard to distract from doing it;
-as an infant, hated to be held unless it was to nurse. He does like to be held now and will give hugs;
-seems very serious and rarely smiles, although will sometimes return a smile;
-seems distant at times, like he's here but not really.
Here's what he does do:
-he points with his finger at what he wants;
-he has fairly good eye contact when he's not in my arms. He'll look at my eyes when I talk to him, but will immediately avert his gaze if I get too close (about a foot). I have never been able to gaze into his eyes unless I am tickling him;
-shakes head no, nods, waves bye-bye, can clap when asked, although rarely unprompted (to show excitement, for example);
-understands 2-step instructions (take your shirt off and put it in the laundry hamper, take the blue ball out of the closet and give it to DS1...);
-responds to his name consistently;
-plays great with toys (knows how to race cars, feed dolls, pour tea, build towers...);
-follows my gaze when I look at things and say ''look'' (even without pointing).
I can't think of anything else right now, but I'm sure there is more...
I know that there are things here that seem very normal, and others that are ''flags''... anyone have any insight? I don't know if I`m just overly paranoid because of the family history, or if I'm just in denial.
I did do the M-Chat by the way and he doesn't fail any critical questions. The other quiz (the PDD one, I believe) gives me a very low score.