MDC was down for a while earlier and a post I made got lost in the shuffle. But, I have trouble with the gender thing. I watched Disney moves, including the older princess ones (Snow White, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty, which I didn't like as well as the other two, except that I loved the two fairies arguing over the dress colour). I never internalized any of the messages that I hear people talking about from this stuff. DD1 does like princesses...but she also loves digging in the dirt for spiders, snails and worms. And, she gets most of the princess stuff second hand from a neighbour, and banning Disney from our house wouldn't change that at all.
I certainly agree that everybody needs to make their own decisions about this stuff, and if I hadn't married a man who loves Disney and whose parents love Disney, we wouldn't have anywher near as much of it in our home. But, he is their dad, and it's not like I'm the only one making decisions here. If this is a hill to die on, it's a hill to die on, but there's no way the OP can actually stop her dh from liking Disney or sharing it with their kids. I suspect that arguing/debating it is going to make it a bigger deal that it already is.