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Baby's Gender - Will you find out??

post #1 of 34
Thread Starter 

Hi ladies!

For those that will be having a 2nd trimester U/S, it's getting close for some!  DH and I are struggling with if we should find out the gender, or let it be a surprise.  I'd love to hear your thoughts on the topic.

-Will you find out the gender?

-Did you find out the gender with previous pregnancies, or were they a surprise?

-What do you see as the benefits/negatives of finding out or not finding out? 

post #2 of 34

We have chosen not to with any of ours.  With the first, it was partially a $ thing. We figured we would get all gender neutral stuff.  The big things were more an issue for us because if you have more kids, who wants to rebuy if you have the other gender next time (should there be one) and also it's easier to resell I think if it's GN.


Also, I just like the surprise :) I love that my DH announced the gender to me both times.  

post #3 of 34

We found out with both boys and most likely will this time.  It was really exciting at the time.  This time I am tempted to wait to find out just to keep everyone from commenting on whether or not we will be a family of boys or their thoughts  on our first girl...however....I will probably have to know at the ultrasound :)  I can understand the excitement both of finding out at the ultrasound and of waiting until birth.

post #4 of 34
No finding out here! We found out with our first, but not our other two and we won't with this one either. Partly because we aren't going to have us, and partly because I loved finding out at the birth WAY more than finding out early with #1. It was so special for hubby and I to discover our new little family member together while holding them in our arms and to find who had just joined our lives. So much different than an ultrasound tech telling us while we looked at a black and screen.
post #5 of 34

We found out with our second but not with our first.  And aren't going to find out this time.  I found it to be more exciting to wait till the birth to find out, and maybe even a little more motivation while pushing ;)

 

post #6 of 34

We are on "team green" right now, but the past couple days I've kind of been wavering...I've just been in a bad mood and need some retail therapy lol!

 

I did find out with both of my other children, and this will definitely be our last, so I kind of just want the experience you know? I have already bought some really reeeally cheap girl and boy newborn clothes at the giant twice a year consignment sale we have in our town. And I found an FRB of gender neutral clothes on Spots for $20.

 

But I might have my u/s next week so it's kind of hard to stay strong and NOT find out :P

 

post #7 of 34

We have always sworn that we do not want to know... but I have to confess that the temptation is killing me!  I really wanted to see if I would be able to "tell."  Well, I'm 16 weeks and I have no idea.  I have no really good reason to find out, as it won't change nursery decor or what we buy for the baby - I'm big on neutrals anyway.  I just have this urge to know the baby better, you know?  To talk to and about him/her as as girl or a boy.  I never thought I would feel this way. 

 

It's unlikely we will decide to find out in the end, just because my DH hasn't waivered and I know that in that moment after delivery the surprise will be awesome. 

 

I'm going to have to grit my teeth and resist the peeking in the 10 week U/S!!!

 

I would say of my friends and cousins, it's about 50/50 with those who found out at 20 weeks and those who did not.  There clearly is no wrong answer here - it's a surprise when you find out - no matter when that is!

post #8 of 34
Thread Starter 

DH and I were leaning towards not finding out for a while.  But now I've had a hard time finding gender-neutral clothing (suggestions for shopping locations, ladies??).  That's really the only advantage I can think of for finding out... well, that, and picking names and being able to communicate with the baby by name.  But it would be so fun to be surprised the day of.  And I like what someone said about it being motivation during labor... interesting concept, and something I had not considered.

post #9 of 34

I have had a hard time finding cute gender neutral stuff too! It's either a rubber duckie theme or it still looks totally boyish to me :/

 

I am actually planning on going in July/beginning of August to buy a bunch of outfits in both genders and save the receipts, that way I can have DH or MIL take the other stuff back :D

 

post #10 of 34

This has been a struggle for me.  We have to get an 18 week u/s to make sure baby isn't growing too big due to my diabetes.  I wanted to wait, but now I'm too excited that we can find out the sex and call it by name before he or she is born since we are pretty positive on the names.  I guess I really want to see if its a girl this time.  I really want a girl.  I'd take either, but I wouldn't mind experiencing having a baby girl this time.

post #11 of 34

So, I was staying team green for a while, but we did not have an ultrasound in the first trimester, and then we thought maybe it was twins, so we scheduled one at 16 weeks, and when the doctor asked if we wanted to know ("because it's really clear!"), we caved and said yes... it's a boy! It took some adjusting. The whole ultrasound was really emotional and then to know it wasn't twins and it was a boy... I don't know. The whole day I was just an emotional roller coaster, but now I feel great. Pretty sure I won't be doing this whole pregnancy thing again, so I think it is good to know for me. Plus, my mother is thrilled to be able to shop for more specifically boy clothes. LOL

post #12 of 34

Also the motivation during labor was brought up to me by another NCB friend...I love the idea! It's like you'll be so excited to find out that it might give a little extra energy during transition/pushing lol!

 

post #13 of 34

i am still on the fence, but am really leaning towards finding out.  i didn't find out the last two times (and i guessed wrong both times, so it really was a surprise!)  i really didn't want to know last time, and i had no problems waiting until the birth, but this time i find myself REALLY wanting to know.  BF says he doesn't mind either way, so it's up to me I guess. 

 

i've felt differently this pregnancy, mostly because of my recent loss, and the scares i've had with this one.  i think it would really help me enjoy the pregnancy more if i know a bit more about who is actually in there, lol.  i think it would help me bond more with the baby, something i've almost been scared to do so far.  i have one girl and one boy already, so i would be happy with either.  i didn't have an issue the last times with buying gender neutral, but every time i look at baby clothes this time, i end up not getting anything because i don't know what to buy!  everything is just so different this pregnancy!  i loved the surprise at birth, but i think for something "different" it would be cool to know beforehand.  so that's probably what i'll do...but i just don't know.  lol

post #14 of 34
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Also the motivation during labor was brought up to me by another NCB friend...I love the idea! It's like you'll be so excited to find out that it might give a little extra energy during transition/pushing lol!

 

 

My cousin also mentioned that the nurses (if you're in a hospital) really get a kick out of it being a surprise - they find out with you.  Excitement all around! 
 

 

post #15 of 34
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My cousin also mentioned that the nurses (if you're in a hospital) really get a kick out of it being a surprise - they find out with you.  Excitement all around! 
 

 

 

My midwife says it's like Christmas LOL!
 

 

post #16 of 34

Our first was a surprise and I was really into not knowing but I think we'll be finding out this time for this reason. Our u/s is on Friday and I keep going back and forth about whether I want to know.

 

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i've felt differently this pregnancy, mostly because of my recent loss, and the scares i've had with this one.  i think it would really help me enjoy the pregnancy more if i know a bit more about who is actually in there, lol.  i think it would help me bond more with the baby, something i've almost been scared to do so far. 

post #17 of 34

Ooooh my goodess...my ultrasound is now scheduled for next Monday! I hope I don't cave in and find out lol!

post #18 of 34

OT - JessiFish, I love your picture!!!

post #19 of 34

I found out with my first and second (a boy and girl, respectively) but not with my third (another girl) and we will definitely not find out this time.  It was so much more fun anticipating the surprise at the birth.

 

 

post #20 of 34

We found out with our first three, but will not with this one. 

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