All touched out ?

[MegEliz]

Ok i always wonder if it is just me so i am here to ask you all ---- I always feel like my DD wants 100% of me, my DS wants 100% of my and my DH wants 100% of me everyday. I am not complaining but some days by the END of the day i just want me to myself with a good book and a warm bed with no kids in it or a husband trying to cop a feel. So ask me why i feel so guilty on those days? Does anyone else go thru this? Please share or tell me i am being selfish - i won't take offense :)

[goldenwillow]

I do not think you are selfish at all, completely normal... at least to me.  There are times I feel this way too.  When I do, I get a little pissy then I just remember when I was single and baby-less....  I have more joy now. 

[lizzie]

I get that way, and dh is rarely around (he travels every week) to add to the annoyance! But both kids are homeschooled and we spend a lot of time together, plus I'm way PG right now. I just tell the kids "I love you, but sometimes I need my space - now is one of those times" and later when I'm out of that groove, I'll initiate the cuddling so they know for sure it's all good. Of course, they also opt out of physical affection from time to time, and I treat that as their right, as I feel it is and should be. We have a small home, so we have to respect whatever boundaries we can find around here!

Totally not a selfish thing - you give and give to them, the way they can give back to you is by giving you some space to relax and get back inside your own body! :)

[brackin]

What Xantho said!  

I feel that way a lot, too.  Very touched-out.  I've been nursing at least one baby for 8.5 years without interruption now, and I just have days when I need a tiny bit of personal space.  But when I think back to when I was single, pre-baby, I realize how much I love the now, even when no one can get enough of me. 

[MegEliz]

Oh yes don't get me wrong i love the now way more than the then .. lol ... Just curious if i was alone in this feeling at times :)

[*bejeweled*]

I feel like this often. I usually go in my room and close the door for an hour. Bliss. Also, DH and I now sleep separately. I think it's the best ever. I don't think he does, but sometimes I just need some time for myself!

[megannt]

Originally Posted by Xantho 

I do not think you are selfish at all, completely normal... at least to me.  There are times I feel this way too.  When I do, I get a little pissy then I just remember when I was single and baby-less....  I have more joy now. 

I agree ! I feel touched out all the time too. The baby is hanging on me all day and wanting to nurse all the time and then my hubby comes home and wants to cuddle and just want to be by myself and I hate ignoring him. But, thinking about, I would rather be touched out than alone and never touched at all.

[31rubies]

It is funny though!  My husband is gone all day, or busy all day, and some nights I would still rather read or knit instead of him copping a feel, just like the op said.  lol!  I think it's totally normal, especially when you have a nursing baby!  Wouldn't trade it for the world, though.  I don't think dh understands that when all the children are asleep, I feel that is the only time I have for peace and quiet!  He gets to do whatever he wants!  But I want to be busy with my children.....aren't we mamas contradictory sometimes?  I think it's safe to say that although we love our children and busy life, we still have a need for peacefulness!

[AFWife]

Totally normal. I also can't seem to make my DH understand the feeling.

[D_McG]

I felt like that a lot until I started to make more time for myself. I got a little PT job, I joined a gym with childcare (my kids are about the same ages as yours. it's perfect). I have my son in preschool. I got comfortable saying "go play!" so I could get a little time to myself to relax during the day.

All of these things made a HUGE difference. I don't know what I was thinking before, honestly. A little insanity, in retrospect.

[xzaviers_mama]

I'm currently nursing my 3yo son, and my 20 month old son.  I'm also 16 weeks pregnant... I feel like someone is ALWAYS touching me, grabbing me, pulling on me, etc.  I feel bad for DH, but most nights, I don't want to be touched.  I want to get in my bed (if DS3 happened to be okay in his own bed that night), and sprawl out, without anyone touching me.