My almost one year old DS is bedsharing and bfing. He usually goes to bed anywhere between 8 and 9pm, wakes up maybe 2 hours later, I nurse him back to sleep, then he'll wake up around 2 or 3, nurse back to sleep, sometimes again at 5 (because the alarm goes off for DH), nurse back to sleep, then between 7:30-8:30am for the day. There will be more when he's teething, but generally that's the pattern on a good night.
So here's the problem. I haven't had a full night's sleep in a year. I'm not complaining yet because he goes back to sleep very easily as long as he gets the boob. However, I would really like longer than a 2-3 hour stretch of sleep at any given time. I know at this point he doesn't NEED to have so many feedings at night, but if I refuse and try to pat his back, or anything else, I get kicked and he cries. I really don't want to deal with a crying, kicking baby at 3am, so he gets the boob. He is still nursing about every 3 hours during the day AND having 3 small meals of solids, so I know it isn't reverse cycling or anything like that. I am a SAHM, so I still feed him on demand or offer a feeding if it's been 3 hours, hoping that he tanks up during the day and sleeps at night.
Is there an end in sight if I don't do anything to change this situation? Or do I actively have to night wean by trying to cut feedings? I feel like he's too young to understand any kind of verbal explanation, so if I really wanted to refuse him he would be left to CIO which I am NOT going to do. However, I am tired. I have read so many other posts about older babies who are still waking up for feedings and it makes me feel like I have an indefinite amount of time to keep dealing with this. I really miss sleep. It doesn't help that it's always on me to deal with it, since I'm the one with the boobs.
Anyone BTDT? What worked for you and your LO?