Originally Posted by Chamomile Girl
I have to ask...have any of you experienced grade acceleration personally? Meaning you, yourself and you and not your children, nieces or neighbor's kids?
In the thread I linked earlier, a mom posted who had been skipped. She agreed with my main point -- if you are going to skip your child, treat them like they are the age of the kids they go to school with. If you feel you child needs all the responsibilities and pressures of older kids, let them have the same perks. Let them see the same movies and download the same songs. Let them have facebook pages and cell phones when their *peers* get them. That's really my main point. Don't put them with older kids but treat them like babies. It just makes the social thing more difficult.
Originally Posted by Roar
As I understand it, this is a gifted support forum. Of course that doesn't mean we need to have a single mind on grade skipping or acceleration, but I don't think this is a place for scare tactics.
We got a lot of that nonsense as we were making educational decisions and it was not at all helpful.
Are you talking about my post? Seriously? Suggesting that parents might want to figure out why this goes OK for some kids and not for others is a scare tactic?
Originally Posted by Roar
Originally Posted by Linda on the move
I've personally known kids who were accelerated and who it went badly for. It's very, very sad to watch a child you like and care about go through this
And, I'm sure most of us can think of kids we know who should have been grade skipped and weren't and how it went very, very badly for. Disciplinary problems from acting out, misdiagnosis of ODD because the kid is so bored, and of course there's always just total apathy.
Oddly, I'm not sure how what you said follows from what I said, and I'm pretty sure you have a higher IQ than me. I'm not gifted. My kids got their brains from their daddy (and their good looks from me )
I never said "no child should be accelerated." I said "for some kids, this blows up in their face 'round middle school."
Part of the reason that I'm not a big fan of acceleration is that I don't see it as the answer. My kids were not a nice, neat year ahead of their peers thorough their schooling. The idea that bouncing a kid with a high IQ up a grade will solve the problem seems simplistic at best. My kids learn faster than most other children, retain more, make new information, and ask VERY different questions. Being with kids a year older wouldn't address any of that. The difference between them and "average" has increased with age because they learn at a different rate.
I seriously doubt that your hypothetical child misdiagnosed with ODD would have been a happy camper if acceleration was seen as The Answer. Possibly it could have been part of a whole package to address the child's needs, but I just don't buy that it would solve the whole problem. A kid with a high IQ isn't in the same place as kids a year older -- they are on a different track and moving at a different speed.
Personally, I think if a child is basically happy where they are, they shouldn't be moved. A kid who is unhappy, bored, apathetic, etc. is obviously a kid who needs to have something tweaked -- some different instruction, a whole different school with a different approach to learning, a grade skip -- something. There are a lot options, and for me, grade skip would be the very bottom of the list because it can't easily be undone, and it does cut a year out of child. It's just too much of a package deal to not try everything else possible first.
The school offered acceleration for one of my kids this year, and DH and I said no. She takes classes mostly with kids who are older than her and does some independent study, but is classified in her age appropriate grade and won't graduate until she's 18. She's happy with that. We all feel that it would chop a year of her childhood (or teenagerhood), and there's just no reason to do that, esp, since the school is willing to meet her intellectual needs while allowing her to be her age.
My other DD does math two grades up.