but i dont want to discuss the word. i want to understand the people who are using the term (teenagers mostly yes, but not all). what and why are THEY using it. race gives the term its definition
i am not talking about you or me or how the general word is seen. there IS nothing positive about that term to you or me. i want to know why the kids are using it (and some adults too). to the kids its a term of solidarity. THAT is what i was trying to understand. to them n***A is a term of solidarity and IS positive yet n****R is a derogatory term they would never use except to insult one of them.
Have you ever read Bury that Sucka: A Scandalous Affair with the N-word by H. Lewis Smith? There is not a solidarity between n***A verses n****R. He states changing letters do not change meaning. If it did why are other races not allowed to say n****A? NAACP also condems both terms.
One problem is taking one persons view is applying it to the whole group and assume the though it static and unchanging. Richard Pryor use to use the term liberally, however in his later years he states it is wrong, reduces usage, and change how he used n***A/*R. People indivdually and as a whole evolve.
Chimamanda Adichie, is a Nigerian writer. She gave a speech titled "Dangers of a Single Story." http://www.ted.com/talks/chimamanda_adichie_the_danger_of_a_single_story.html I believe with the term n***a/n****r debate we need to remember there is more than One story and One point of view and that ONE cannot speak from all.
I am white and I am against the use of either term. It is disparaging even if the person saying it doesn't agree. If all other groups cannot say it because it is a derogatory remark and part of the group you are in doesn't want it said, then it is most best left unsaid to be respectful not to other groups but to the people in your own group.