I really don't feel like I'm getting much done. It seems like everyone I know has gone back to having a career and manages to do a good job with their kids (and running their homes) in a fraction of the hours that it takes me.
Most weeks, my kids (who are 12 and 14) are in school full time and fairly independent. This week, they are on spring break. It's just one thing after another.
Here is yesterday:
1. Orthodontist appointments at similar times, but required me driving back and forth 3 times, and took nearly 2 hours altogether. When I scheduled it I though it was a school day so I had planned around that, but since it wasn't a school day, the way I set up the appointments was kinda stupid, but by the time I realized that, it was too late to change them.
2. Cleaned up the house together for 2 hours.
3. Dropped one DD off to see a movie and shop with a friend, drove other DD to a different mall to go bra shopping, which was a total bust. Turns out, bras in her size are not sold in stores. Consoled her by going out for smoothies. Went back to other mall to pick up other DD.
4. Went to grocery store altogether.
5. Come home really exhausted, researched bras on the internet. Think I found one.
6. Kids made dinner, which was quite good. Then we cleaned up the kitchen together. At this point, when they cook, the cleaning is really, really difficult. They help with it and try, but they get every single dish in the kitchen dirty, and are just really messy. They are getting a bit better, but it's slow.
7. walked dogs with husband.
I never managed to exercise, and I felt drained by 7:00. I didn't feel like we'd accomplished anything. The house is basically tidy and we ate healthy food, and we all feel connected. But that's it. It seems like other families manage to do those things while the mom does something impressive for a living.
Right now, I teach 2 yoga classes a week and I want to add more classes, but I feel really busy. When school is in session, I volunteer 2 afternoons a week in the library and on the play ground. I really love my time at their school.
Some basic things happen that didn't when they kids were little -- DH and I have quality time with each other every week, we both spend one on one time with each kid, we do lots of fun things together as a family, I have time to myself to do things I enjoy or go out to lunch with a friend, and I usually exercise.
I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance that even though my kids are as old as they are, it's OK that I'm not accomplishing much in life besides parenting them.