I began my April by sitting in the ER of our children's hospital with my kids last night. :(
We've been having some issues with my son, who turned 12 in January.. His behavior has gotten progressively worse over the last several months. He's been getting in fights at school, fighting with my daughter, being rude and beligerent at home, ignoring the rules, slamming doors, yelling, stealing, lying, and he even started a small fire while home alone sick one day. I've been trying to find him a therapist but haven't been successful.
Well, after the whole kids fighting while making crepes last night I broke down and called our county MHMR crisis hotline and they said that I needed to take him to the ER for evaluation. He'd hit me twice, in the belly, while flailing around and doing his best to ignore me and run out the back door and he said that he wanted to snap his sister's neck.
So we spent several hours in the ER waiting, naturally, but we did talk to an LPC who did a psych eval on him and talked to the psychiatrist for the hospital's behavioral health program. He'll be starting a Partial Hospitalization Program as soon as they have an opening, which will probably be some time next week. He'll go to this program from 8 am until 3 pm for however long, I think it's usually 5 days. They'll work with him on getting a definitive diagnosis, work with his meds, and help him learn some coping skills. Then he'll start going to a psychiatrist for med management and therapy, or a therapist for the therapy.
I'm finally feeling more hopeful about this situation. Middle school is sucky and hard anyway, and it's worse with emotional and mental health issues coming into the mix.
I wish medication didn't have to happen either, but I tried everything I could for 6 YEARS to help him manage his ADHD without meds and nothing worked well enough to enable him to function. So meds it is.
I just want him to be safe and to feel better. Being a mom hurts sometimes. :(