Originally Posted by Snowflake777
I'm guessing your mother didn't BF? Either that or she's completely forgotten the logistics of it. Even if you were willing to leave a 3-month-old overnight, it would mean a bunch of extra work for you pumping so that the baby would have enough to last the night, then you would also have to get up in the middle of the night to pump to relieve engorgement while baby wasn't there. So much for giving you a break!
She briefly BFed me, I think for a few months, and I was her one and only. So yeah, it's been a while (35 years).
I absolutely know my mom is going to be one of those types for whom helping consists solely of holding the baby on visits convenient for her, or trying to have her for overnights. The first time it came up was because she asked what sort of crib she should buy for her house and I was sort of flabbergasted and said it wouldn't be necessary, which was followed by her grilling me for 10 minutes about when I would be comfortable allowing it. She even laughed at how obviously uncomfortable I was with the topic, like I was just being some sort of crazy overprotective sort. I have no problems laying down boundaries about it, but TBH I am anticipating a quiet war over this once LO is born.
Originally Posted by nikie23
I'm having name angst! I love the name Athena, but DH vetoed it because he says it's pretentious. So I moved on, and we found a name we both like, but the closer I get to my EDD the more I think, the name we picked is just okay. I don't hate it, but I don't love it, either. Should I get over it and move on, or should I reenter the name-choice boxing ring? Do you ladies think Athena is pretentious?
Not at all! It's actually a very common name among Greek families, maybe you could sell DH on that angle. I personally think it's a lovely name, and went to elementary school with a couple of Athenas (and none of them tainted the name for me!)
Originally Posted by Smokering
LOL! Why anyone would want to spend the night with someone else's three-month-old baby, deprived of its mother and from-the-tap breastmilk, is beyond me. If she thinks it would be fun grandma-grandbaby bonding time, it's clearly been a while since she had her own kids. :p
Unfortunately I can't talk about this with most of my friends IRL, 'cause they all just think I'm nuts for cosleeping and EBF... and their kids have been sleeping over at Grandma's since they were eight months old... so, yeah.
I hear ya. I think my mom is for some reason casting herself in the role of third parent. I'm 35 years old, planning on being a SAHM, in a stable loving relationship... I don't need another parent in the mix. I actually tried joking with her that my stepdad would probably be grateful if I said no forever to the overnights thing and it flew right over her head. *sigh*
Originally Posted by Buddhamom
Anyone else notice a large increase in round ligament pain recently? I have had a huge increase within the last week as well as a huge increase in peeing. And when I say pee, I am talking as soon as I stand up or she pushes on my bladder I have to make a b-line to the potty and quick!
YES! On both counts. I barely had any RLP up til now, the occasional twinge. Now it seems to be multiple times a day and sometimes it is a doozy. On the peeing thing, I can go from not needing to pee at all to "OMG, find me a bathroom or I'm gonna wet my pants" with one swift kick to the bladder from my girl.