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I love the name Athena and I don't think it's at all pretentious. It's really pretty and if you love it then it should be back in the running. I always tell my friends who are expecting their first babies to make sure they LOVE the name(s) they're choosing because it's forever and you'll say it and write it about a trillion times in your lifetime. I can't imagine my kids having a name that I wasn't crazy about. I'd probably have to change it! lol  When I was about 8 mos pregnant with my DD I had a sudden freak out and decided that we HAD to find a different name for her. The name we had chosen was Cameo, which I liked, but it wasn't her name. It took many tears (on my part, because I was so frustrated with not finding "the" name) before we settled on her current name (Hannah), which I love.

 

On the peeing thing... YES!! This bub is transverse most of the time, which is great for not putting a lot of pressure on my bladder. But when he moves to vertex or breech and especially when he starts kicking my bladder, I have to run for it! Thank God for Kegels and great bladder control or I'm sure I would have peed myself several times by now.

 

No complicated sleeping situations here, thank goodness! I need less complicated as much as possible! My daughter has nightmares so she'll come crawl in with me every so often. She did it again last night, actually, because we had a HUGE thunderstorm and she gets scared. But she's 10, nearly 11, so it's easy enough for her to relocate herself if necessary. I have a pack'n'play right next to my bed that is going to be the bed for naps and such, but at night baby will be in bed with me. At some point he'll move in with big brother but that's a ways down the road, like at least a year or more. I'm really not worried about it, we'll just see what happens and go with it.

 

Our weekend was pretty good. The weather was beautiful! The kids had their games on Saturday and I ended up working for almost 3 hours in the concession stand at the ballpark instead of the hour that I was supposed to be in there. But, I could sit down when I wanted and it was cooler in there than on the bleachers, and I could see Hannah's game, so I was happy. Sunday we spent most of the day out in the yard. My mom and I are putting up a combo trellis/fence along one side of our driveway. We have a wisteria and 3 grapevines that need something to climb on, and the dogs need to be contained in the yard. This fulfills both purposes. Plus we'll be adding kind of a pergola thing that goes over the driveway so the viney things can grow across that and shade the side of the house that is in full sun all day long. I did a little weeding too, which is good for practicing my deep squats. :)  My niece and younger nephew came over in the morning so my BIL could go on this mud run thing with his friend, and my niece ended up staying all day instead of going home with her daddy. The girls played all day and had a blast, which was nice. Kaleb entertained himself across the street with his friend. All in all it was a good weekend. I didn't do any school work, which is bad because I have a case study due Friday, a ton of clinical paperwork to finish, a simulation lab to get ready for, a research paper due Friday, and an exam tomorrow. I'm about to start working on some of that in just a bit.

 

This morning was also the start of DS doing his intensive OP therapy program. I spent a few hours at the program this morning answering questions, giving background, and filling out paperwork. When I left, he was in group with some other kids. I'm really hoping that this helps and that we can use this as a really good starting point for further therapy for both him and our family. The program does family therapy and parenting education, both of which my mom and I will be going to. I hate to see my sweet boy hurting and I pray that I'm able to help him past this rough spot. He's such a good kid, so smart and funny and helpful and sweet, that it just kills me to see this rude, ornery, belligerent man-child taking over his body.

post #142 of 367
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I love the name Athena and I don't think it's at all pretentious. It's really pretty and if you love it then it should be back in the running. I always tell my friends who are expecting their first babies to make sure they LOVE the name(s) they're choosing because it's forever and you'll say it and write it about a trillion times in your lifetime. I can't imagine my kids having a name that I wasn't crazy about. I'd probably have to change it! lol  When I was about 8 mos pregnant with my DD I had a sudden freak out and decided that we HAD to find a different name for her. The name we had chosen was Cameo, which I liked, but it wasn't her name. It took many tears (on my part, because I was so frustrated with not finding "the" name) before we settled on her current name (Hannah), which I love.


I read the bolded part as "It took many years before we settled on her current name...". I was so confused, wondering what you must have called her in the interim. lol.gif

 

DH still won't discuss names with me because "It's too soon". I know I've vented about this before but it's driving me up the wall. I'm nearly 32 week pregnant for heaven's sake! He did the same thing last time around and by the time we discussed it I was so fed up that I pretty much agreed to the first thing he said he liked. I don't want that to happen again. We have really different taste in names and I know it'll take a while to find something we're both happy with.

 

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Oh, yes. My 3 year old is still nursing to sleep and nursing in the morning before he wakes up, and waking up crying to nurse once or twice a night between 11:00 and 6:00, which is when I have declared milk to be "closed" so I can get some sleep. Theoretically. When he finally accepts it. He had been nursing something like twelve times a night until we started night nursing a month ago, and he's incredibly stubborn. He is also a very restless sleeper, and I have been counting on my husband to be a buffer between us so the baby doesn't get kicked - but my husband is having horrendous allergies that make him snore deafeningly all night long, which means he has been sleeping upstairs and occasionally appearing to help out during hysterical crying episodes in the middle of the night. I don't see this changing until after the first frost, sometime in October, so what on earth we are going to do to balance all those needs I don't know. I'm just trusting that God knows what's up, and we'll get through it somehow. Phew.

I hear ya. I'm hoping things will work themselves out because, well, they just have to.
 

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I like the name Athena :)

 

So for all my "feeling better" talk yesterday...I'm sick again. My stomach is tore up all over again. I woke up at 4 am and thought in my half awake fog, that baby might be coming because of how bad I was cramping. Trying to push fluids again and take it super easy today.

 

I did get to make a bib last night :D I think it turned out well for a first attempt and trying to wing it. Loving my machine though.

 

I'm sorry you're still having tummy troubles! I hope you feel better after a quiet day.

 

I meant to comment on the new sewing machine - your DH rocks! Are you good at sewing? Or a beginner?

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Kawa, great links.  I just shared them on FB to help my friends and family get the hint!

 

Mommy2Austin - what kind of machine did you get?  A new sewing machine is so exciting!!

 

Wow, Jenni, you are really in the home stretch of school!  Good luck with all your upcoming projects and stuff.  I hope your DS has a positive experience in therapy today.

 

Is anyone else feeling overly emotional these days?  I have started crying at the drop of a hat and can't seem to get a grip.  I think my hormones are taking over my common sense and I keep going into meltdown mode!

 

 

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Big yes to this. I love that people love my new baby (though they're all minimally involved with newborn/toddler/preschooler/etc) but it irks me that it's about them. I plan to delay the visits until, at the very least, the birth pool of gore is taken down and I've had a nap. It's kind of like the unwanted and not needed baby shower thing - I need nurturing and help, not to entertain and accumulate possessions. On the other hand, I also know what it feels like for no one to care and no one to want to visit or even acknowledge the baby. There is no pleasing me! orngtongue.gif

 

http://avital.blogspot.com/2011/03/how-to-be-best-post-partum-visitor-in.html#ixzz1I6Y1fOoS

 

http://www.glorialemay.com/blog/?p=34



Everything is about my mom, so issues there all around. And yeah most of my family and dh's family have barely acknowledged we are expecting a baby so hurt there, ugh. I have read the two links previously and they make me cry every time.

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Awwww, Annabelle, I can relate. It is upsetting. I told DH the other day that I always imagined me being pregnant/having a baby would bring my mom and I even closer, but in reality I have never felt more distant and uncomfortable with her. It's basically just shining a spotlight on any issues I thought were minor or was able to shrug off in the past, but they just seem so glaring now. Lucky for me my MIL is the polar opposite if my mom and has been very loving and supportive even if I do think she secretly thinks I am a weirdo crunchy granola hippie.

Jenni, I have no idea how you are juggling everything. You need a superwoman cape, stat! I am such a bum and DH only encourages me to be one, which doesn't help. smile.gif

Tracy, I haven't been crying a lot or having meltdowns but I seem to have so little patience lately. Things just kind of eat at me, that I would normally let slide off my back. Its been really noticeable to me, and it's not making me happy.

Question! For those of you that cosleep in the bed, do you have anything like a bumper or anything? I am curious about logistics. I am thinking of side-carring a crib to appease DH (former EMT and he says he saw way too many suffocated babies, despite his liking AP) but it seems so... Clunky.
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I'm a beginner as far as the actual sewing goes, but have been reading and researching for years about it, just never had the ability/gumption/time to do it. I think I'm doing pretty well so far :) DH is setting up a "station" for me tonight. I'll try and take a few pics to share!

 

ETA: He bought me a Janome Mystyle100. Its the basic model, but I'm happy :)

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Any of you ever used flats for the newborn stage?  I suppose I'll play with folding.  Oh, also 4 bumgenius one-size that need to be stripped, which I have yet to research.  I did a round with bac-out 2 years ago that didn't work.  Guess I should check out the diapering forum for stripping advice.  It's been so long!

 

My mom is throwing a shower for me May 1.  I'm kind of shy about asking for stuff for a second baby, but I realized we really don't have much besides the diapers and a Boppy... we'll need another convertible carseat when s/he outgrows the bucket, and I have my eye on a few other things like a Gypsy Mama wrap, diaper sprayer, a couple kimono tops.  It seems kind of weird to ask for things for a second baby, but I guess if people want to give us things, I might as well ask for things we'll actually use!  Have already made my mom promise no silly shower games, just ladies chatting and snacking, so it'll be fairly painless I guess.

 

DS is so BIG these days.  We got him a balance bike and he's actually big enough to reach the ground.  And he has done bedtime at two different friends' houses, completely successfully without a peep, while DH and I went out to shows.  Amazing.  Just when we're about to add a baby, my baby becomes a kid!  He's been wearing new Batman pajamas for 2 weeks straight, and insisting we call him Batman.  The only way I can get pants on our little nudist!


I got flats for this baby, used prefolds for DS. I'm on diaper swappers a lot and they have a great tutorial thread with tons of folds. I'm liking origami and mini-kite very much in practice.

 

I LOVE my Gypsy Mama wrap and intend to live in it this summer!

 

My DS has a balance bike as well. I love it. He's also a big super hero pretender.
 

 



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Anyone else facing a complicated co-sleeping situation when the new baby arrives?



It doesn't seem complicated, but DS (3), baby and me will all be in the bed. I'm getting a co-sleeper for baby, just to feel a little safer. New, floppy babies make me too nervous to sleep. I'm really excited at the idea of all of us bonding in the bed together. DH thought we should consider moving him, but I don't want DS to feel like he got bumped, yk. Plus, I genuinely enjoy sharing sleep with him.

 



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I've just this past week or so started experiencing occasional RLS at night. I need to pick up a cal/mag supplement it seems like. The worst seems to be if I wait until just before bedtime to do my Hypnobabies CD/script for the day. I end up in center switch the whole time and it never feels like a good practice because half of my brain is focused on either trying to hold still or just irritation at the needing to move again.

It is kind of a relief to hear y'all talk about your kids still not doing overnights. My mother and I keep butting heads because she wants to take my LO for overnight visits and I'm not comfortable giving her an age at which this will happen. She asked me "Is three months old enough?" Um, no. I pointed out I will be BFing and she said I could pump and bottle. eyesroll.gif I have no idea where she got the impression I would be OK with her, in her words, "stealing the baby for a night." In some weird way, I think she thinks she would be helping?


I'm all twitchy during my Hypnobabies, lately too. I don't even have restless leg, I just get randomly itchy.

 

DS has never done an overnight. I'm not comfortable with it. My mom has stopped asking. My stepdad started asking when he was, like, a week old. Um, no. It's annoying. I'm hoping that he will be into coming to the hospital to watch baby sister be born.



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Is anyone else feeling overly emotional these days?  I have started crying at the drop of a hat and can't seem to get a grip.  I think my hormones are taking over my common sense and I keep going into meltdown mode!

 

 



Sorta. My main emotional state lately seems to be irritated with dumbasses. :P I don't feel irritated with DH or DS, so I'm starting to think maybe it isn't just me and hormones.



 

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Question! For those of you that cosleep in the bed, do you have anything like a bumper or anything? I am curious about logistics. I am thinking of side-carring a crib to appease DH (former EMT and he says he saw way too many suffocated babies, despite his liking AP) but it seems so... Clunky.


We had a sidecarred crib with DS. I'm doing an Arm's Reach mini for this babe as the crib takes up soooo much room. Once baby is less floppy, I'll get rid of it or at least move baby to the bed next to me and use that as a rail. The crib is still sidecarred for the moment, mainly as a rail. DS now sleeps in it for stretches from time to time.

 

I've been wondering if anyone will offer me a shower. I really only want a few things, like a new monitor, but, so far, no one has asked for any ideas.

 

I'm definitely feeling clunkier lately. I'm outgrowing some clothes, so I don't have as much summer stuff as I thought. I'm trying to figure out if maternity pjs would be worth it. Do they make maternity/nursing pjs? That would be better, last a little longer.

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Wow this thread has really gotten away from me and I was really planning to be active this month. I think I will have to start from here unless I find some time to go back and review what has been going on...I am taking an online class that is just insane demanding and so most of my computer time is doing work irked.gif Oh well, I am just glad to get it over with before baby get here.
 

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Is anyone else feeling overly emotional these days?  I have started crying at the drop of a hat and can't seem to get a grip.  I think my hormones are taking over my common sense and I keep going into meltdown mode!

 

 


I totally relate to you on this. I am an emotional wreck these days. I thought I left all this behind with my 1st trimester but, it is back. I am crying over everything, way too sensitive and my emotions are running wild. I am positive my hormones are going wild and are the cause. My poor family...they are starting to think I have gone mad!

 

On a fun note, I had my baby shower this weekend. It was very nice and I appreciated all the hard work my mom and friend put into it unfortunately, I only got 2 things I needed and the rest was stuff that was cute but, not practical for our needs. The good news is I went to the swap meet on Sunday and scored a bunch of stuff I needed and my friend gave me a few big ticket items that her baby doesn't need. I finally found a full size co sleeper on craiglist and I am picking it up tomorrow so baby stuff is getting there.

 

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The only "help" she ever gave us was in the form of a bunch of outdated, unsolicited advice. To be fair, I think it's largely how she was raised - I doubt she had any help from her parents either. I don't think it even occurred to her to offer it.

Both my mum and MIL, and a few older ladies from church, have commented a lot on how little help they got from their parents when they had kids. A few of them sound kind of bitter about it - almost like "Well, I didn't get any help and I survived, so my daughter shouldn't get any either!"; and I always feel like saying "Well yeah, but didn't it suck for you to have no help? Why would you wish it on the next generation?".

 

MIL and FIL will probably help by babysitting DD a bit, although SIL recently had a second baby so their attention will be divided in that regard! My mother will also babysit DD, and will theoretically be willing to help with housework and cooking, but DH refuses to eat her cooking and I'd feel uncomfortable asking her to help with the housework. Oh well. It shouldn't be too bad - DH works from home and will be trying to take some time off when the baby's born as well.

 

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Is anyone else feeling overly emotional these days?  I have started crying at the drop of a hat and can't seem to get a grip.  I think my hormones are taking over my common sense and I keep going into meltdown mode!

Well, I slapped DH on the face yesterday. I wasn't angry... what happened was, we were having a shower and he started whistling a tune, and it was so loud and piercing and really hurt my ears. So I said "No, too loud, piercing, stop!" and he kept whistling - he claimed later that he was whistling more softly, but it was still incredibly shrill - so I panicked and slapped him on the cheek. Fortunately he found it hilarious (and it worked!). lol.gif I was all "You were gonna shatter the baby's fetal bones with your resonance!" and he was all "I'm telling my dad". He didn't, though. I don't think FIL would have understood. :p

 

Also, I had the weirdest dream last night. We were visiting the USA, and I was booked into this swanky birth centre in a fancy mall - not a nasty one, all classy with chandeliers and gold and decorated for Christmas. So I was in labour, but I couldn't concentrate on the contractions because there was so much to look at in the birth centre - a mini-golf course, at which I pwned DH (thus proving this was a dream!), and a Harry Potter-themed gift shop with a real-life Professor McGonagall walking around haranguing the patrons, and all these other cool shops. And because I couldn't concentrate on the contractions I stopped having them, and my older sisters got all panicky because they thought I'd be there for days. So they persuaded me to book into my room so I could concentrate, and we got the "Fantasy Suite", which cost $118 and had a four-poster bed draped with floaty canopies. But my credit card declined so I headed out into the main mall to look for DH, only to realise that I was naked from the waist down, and bleeding a bit, and only had a pillow to preserve my modesty. So people in the food court kept giving my funny looks, which I suppose was fair enough, but in the dream I was all "Get over it, people, there's a birth centre right next door, aren't you used to seeing half-naked labouring women?"

 

And then I woke up. Fascinating, no? I think the only relevant part of the dream was the credit card declining - I've been a bit worried about money lately. Not because we're struggling on the day-to-day living stuff, but we were supposed to go to the USA this December, and we don't seem to be saving up at the rate we should. Also, DH's new Atkins diet is costing a MINT in meat and veggies.

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Is anyone else feeling overly emotional these days?  I have started crying at the drop of a hat and can't seem to get a grip.  I think my hormones are taking over my common sense and I keep going into meltdown mode!

 

 


I am crying all the time. On Saturday at the kids safety fair they had a shaken baby to show how easily a baby can be harmed by shaking, and I cried, right there. I cry most days, some more intensely than others.

 

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I'm ridiculously emotional these days. I don't know how anyone lives with me. I want to feel like my own self again not some exhausted, emotionally unstable, GIANT mess. 

 

RLS! I thought this was some sort of made up crazy thing until I got it last pregnancy. It's back! 

 

In scenes from bizarro world: I brought home the baby's car seat today. It's even more strange feeling than a drawer full of baby clothes and paying off the hefty HB fee.   

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Smokering, I find it amazing that you remembered all the details to your dream!  It almost sounds like it could be a movie, someday... Harry Potter and the Wandering Birth Wench...headscratch.gif !!

 

I have to say that my RLS (which I had last time around, too) is completely relieved by the cal/mag I take every night before bed.  I missed it a couple of nights in a row because I was out and kept forgetting to go to the store and BOY!! What a difference!  I could not believe how uncomfortable I was.  

 

And yes - the peeing... I pee when I sneeze, when I laugh, when I lean over something or my belly gets a little mashed up against the counter, when I cough, etc... the list goes on and on.  But mostly I pee ALL NIGHT LONG.  I have such pressure on my bladder that I have taken to a 'no fluids past 7pm' rule in order to survive the nights.  Even with that, I am still waking so many times. Bah!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How many of you are exhausted? sleeping.gifI don't mean third trimester tired but to the bones can barely function nearly devastated by tiredness tired. sleepytime.gif

 

This isn't my first day on the job but I cannot recall ever feeling this way in my third trimester. For me, this is the stuff of the first trimester. I feel like no matter how much I sleep it's never enough. I'm very used to going without enough sleep, it's not only that. Every moment of every day I feel like I've been doing the most strenuous physical labour and, in reality, I can barely keep my household out of chaos. My body is exhausted. There are times that I can't get the kids to bed quick enough because I HAVE TO go to sleep RIGHT NOW. Same during the daytime. I've sometimes had to put a baby gate up in my girls room, let them play while I drool and snore away in there. Or ask my 12yo please please watch your sister for 15 minutes so I can sleep. I've felt like I need to pull over on the side of the road during typical errands because I'm so tired. I usually know what's going on and am awake at the first morning peep or aware when someone has escaped the baby gate barrier but not now. The kids can carry on like mad and I'm unaware. It's affecting how I am as a mother. It's affecting the relationship I have with my DP - even though I think he's wildly attractive and the best lovemaking of my life I can't find it in me to exert intimate energy. He's feeling neglected and rejected. Thank goodness I don't have to work outside the home, I don't think I could. Everything is seemingly great with my health so what gives? Could this just be a symptom of pregnancies spaced (for me) very close together? Is there something I should be doing or asking my MWs to check?  

 

  

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Kawa, how are your iron levels? Have you had your thyroid checked? Part of that could be closely spaced pregnancies, that can really deplete your resources. Part of that can be just having kids and being pregnant. I have nights where I have to sleep NOW so I can sympathize. Actually, probably 4 out of 7 nights I feel like that. Like I just hit the wall all of a sudden and I'm just done. I noticed that once I started being better about my sleep hygiene, which helped me sleep better, I wasn't as emotional or tired all the time.

 

Of course, I'm still convinced that the entire world is out to irritate me as much as possible. It cannot be a simple coincidence that 95% of the planet is that annoying without them all trying to do it on purpose!

 

I went through the peeing all night stage, but the cal/mag seems to help with that somehow. I still get up once or twice, but it either doesn't bother me or I'm sleepwalking to pee and don't realize it. Or I'm just so good at getting up, peeing, and getting back in bed and going back to sleep that I don't notice I'm doing it at all.

 

Smokering that dream is BIZARRE!! And here I thought my dreams were freakishly weird... lol.

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How many of you are exhausted? sleeping.gifI don't mean third trimester tired but to the bones can barely function nearly devastated by tiredness tired. sleepytime.gif

 

This isn't my first day on the job but I cannot recall ever feeling this way in my third trimester. For me, this is the stuff of the first trimester. I feel like no matter how much I sleep it's never enough. I'm very used to going without enough sleep, it's not only that. Every moment of every day I feel like I've been doing the most strenuous physical labour and, in reality, I can barely keep my household out of chaos. My body is exhausted. There are times that I can't get the kids to bed quick enough because I HAVE TO go to sleep RIGHT NOW. Same during the daytime. I've sometimes had to put a baby gate up in my girls room, let them play while I drool and snore away in there. Or ask my 12yo please please watch your sister for 15 minutes so I can sleep. I've felt like I need to pull over on the side of the road during typical errands because I'm so tired. I usually know what's going on and am awake at the first morning peep or aware when someone has escaped the baby gate barrier but not now. The kids can carry on like mad and I'm unaware. It's affecting how I am as a mother. It's affecting the relationship I have with my DP - even though I think he's wildly attractive and the best lovemaking of my life I can't find it in me to exert intimate energy. He's feeling neglected and rejected. Thank goodness I don't have to work outside the home, I don't think I could. Everything is seemingly great with my health so what gives? Could this just be a symptom of pregnancies spaced (for me) very close together? Is there something I should be doing or asking my MWs to check?  

 

  


I could have written most of this podt, Kawa. i was driving home from the store today and actually felt unsafe being behhind the wheel because I was so tired.
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Smokering that dream is BIZARRE!! And here I thought my dreams were freakishly weird... lol.

Oh, my subconscious is a strange and creepy place. That was one of my few dreams I can repeat without having people edge away and surreptitiously phone the men in the white coats. Recently a lot of them involve velociraptors, but I think that's my fault for watching Primeval with DH.

 

Interestingly, I've had a few birth dreams recently, but they mostly involve pain-free or almost pain-free labours. I guess my Hypnobabies programming is working after all! I had one the other night where I delivered twins, and was so proud of myself for giving birth pain-free twice, until... no, wait, you don't want to hear that dream. It was one of the creepy ones. Oh well, the labour part was good.

 

Kawa kamuri: I'm sporadically exhausted. It's very weird; varies wildly from day to day, and doesn't seem to correspond to anything logical like how much I sleep or what I eat. Today is a sleepy day, because I went out with another mother to the playground with DD in the morning. And after that I had to *huge sigh* bake a cake. For me, that's a pretty full docket. :p Oh well, at least I can knit sitting down while I watch stuff on TV, and feel semi-kinda-sorta productive...

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Right now I kind of wish I shared the same problems with falling asleep everywhere. It's been three days now since I've gotten any sleep. Random bout of insomnia that I really hope is over tonight. Last night I finally fell asleep around 1am and 3 hours later DHs backup alarm went off (he'd forgotten to turn it off when he got out of bed) and it blared Tejano music at me and woke me up out of a deep sleep. After that I couldn't go back to sleep til about 6 and I woke up and gave up on sleep at 7 am. I'm exhausted, but still can't fall asleep. greensad.gif

Tonight was my last Hypnobabies class and I am bummed it is over. It was nice once a week to be with likeminded people who did not think I was nuts for wanting an unmedicated home birth, or roll their eyes at my veganism or any of my crunchy baby rearing ideas. I think I need to start going to the local birth circle so I have a regular reminder that I am not the lone oddball around these parts. Sometimes after talking to family and friends I just feel so... alien or something? Like no one knows what to make of me and they often get really defensive about their own choices like I'm attacking them merely by doing something different, even though I am very careful about never saying anything judgmental about other people's births/childcare ideas. Makes me think of this quote that I enjoy:

"People take different roads seeking fulfillment & happiness. Just because they're not on your road doesn't mean they've gotten lost." -The Dalai Lama
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How many of you are exhausted? sleeping.gifI don't mean third trimester tired but to the bones can barely function nearly devastated by tiredness tired. sleepytime.gif

 

This isn't my first day on the job but I cannot recall ever feeling this way in my third trimester. For me, this is the stuff of the first trimester. I feel like no matter how much I sleep it's never enough. I'm very used to going without enough sleep, it's not only that. Every moment of every day I feel like I've been doing the most strenuous physical labour and, in reality, I can barely keep my household out of chaos. My body is exhausted. There are times that I can't get the kids to bed quick enough because I HAVE TO go to sleep RIGHT NOW. Same during the daytime. I've sometimes had to put a baby gate up in my girls room, let them play while I drool and snore away in there. Or ask my 12yo please please watch your sister for 15 minutes so I can sleep. I've felt like I need to pull over on the side of the road during typical errands because I'm so tired. I usually know what's going on and am awake at the first morning peep or aware when someone has escaped the baby gate barrier but not now. The kids can carry on like mad and I'm unaware. It's affecting how I am as a mother. It's affecting the relationship I have with my DP - even though I think he's wildly attractive and the best lovemaking of my life I can't find it in me to exert intimate energy. He's feeling neglected and rejected. Thank goodness I don't have to work outside the home, I don't think I could. Everything is seemingly great with my health so what gives? Could this just be a symptom of pregnancies spaced (for me) very close together? Is there something I should be doing or asking my MWs to check?

  


Yes, this.  I'm so exhausted I want to cry most days.  Driving to work in the morning is, honestly, starting to scare me a little.  I could seriously pull over on the side of the road and sleep for an hour, no prob.  Or put my head on my desk at any point during the day and sleep through ... anything.  And yes to the intimacy issues as well.  We've got other stuff going on, too, but he cannot understand being so physically drained that you don't want sex.  So he ends up just feeling rejected, which is awful.

 

Don't have any answers ... :(

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Originally Posted by kawa kamuri View Post

How many of you are exhausted? sleeping.gifI don't mean third trimester tired but to the bones can barely function nearly devastated by tiredness tired. sleepytime.gif

 

This isn't my first day on the job but I cannot recall ever feeling this way in my third trimester. For me, this is the stuff of the first trimester. I feel like no matter how much I sleep it's never enough. I'm very used to going without enough sleep, it's not only that. Every moment of every day I feel like I've been doing the most strenuous physical labour and, in reality, I can barely keep my household out of chaos. My body is exhausted. There are times that I can't get the kids to bed quick enough because I HAVE TO go to sleep RIGHT NOW. Same during the daytime. I've sometimes had to put a baby gate up in my girls room, let them play while I drool and snore away in there. Or ask my 12yo please please watch your sister for 15 minutes so I can sleep. I've felt like I need to pull over on the side of the road during typical errands because I'm so tired. I usually know what's going on and am awake at the first morning peep or aware when someone has escaped the baby gate barrier but not now. The kids can carry on like mad and I'm unaware. It's affecting how I am as a mother. It's affecting the relationship I have with my DP - even though I think he's wildly attractive and the best lovemaking of my life I can't find it in me to exert intimate energy. He's feeling neglected and rejected. Thank goodness I don't have to work outside the home, I don't think I could. Everything is seemingly great with my health so what gives? Could this just be a symptom of pregnancies spaced (for me) very close together? Is there something I should be doing or asking my MWs to check?  

 

  



Um yes... yes! This is me. I will say that I will get a random day of energy and then fly around the house getting things "done"... but then, BAM! I am so flippin tired that I could lay down on the floor with DD jumping all over me and take a nap---no problem. Now, if it's 9 pm at night and I am trying to go to sleep in bed? My legs start... the baby moves constantly and violently, and then guess what? I have to pee! I think I peed 6 times last night? It sucks too b/c I will be asleep---magically! and comfy--> amazingly! and then I realize I woke up bc I'm about to pee the bed. My husband seriously suggested the other day that I wear Depends to bed so I don't have to get up so much at night haha....wait, would that work????

I'm sure I could use more iron and vitamins in general. I haven't been that into eating lately which is weird for me. This babe has officially taken up more space that I ever remember with DD. Is it sad that I was hoping he would be smaller so he can wear his newborn diapers???blush.gif  this is the ridiculousness that has taken over my life. Oh.... let's not forget that I am supposed to be painting right now. I got up to get started and felt so unbelievably tired that I just came back downstairs and got on here haha. 

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Well my midwife just called and said that the results from my lab work indicated that I desperately needed an iron supplement--- maybe that is why I can't even hold my eyes open??shrug.gif so.... which ones would you suggest? I would prefer one that isn't going to give me the stomach icks-- especially the constipation-- please no! 

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