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Coming from the mom of older kids place, it's not always easier. I remember when mine were 2 and 3, or 3 and 4. Man that was HARD!!! It seems like no matter what age or stage they're at, kids can be hard to parent.

 

Maybe I'm fooling myself because it's been SOOOOOOO long since I've had a newborn, but I feel like I have everything we need, which is pretty much nothing. lol  I sometimes worry that I'm not more worried about adding a new baby to our family. I just pray that he likes to sleep so I can actually be successful in school!

 


My problem is mine are too smart for their own good, but not quite able to put it to constructive (rather than DE-structive) use. So I feel like NO is the only word in my vocab.

 

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I crave ice like there's no tomorrow and it's a sign of anemia. The other kinds of pica (craving non-food items) usually signal a mineral deficiency of some kind. Eating dirt, laundry soap, clay, chalk, etc are the body's way of trying to get certain nutrients. It's very common in women who have diets that are deficient in vitamins and minerals and if a momma is taking PNVs it usually stops the cravings. I know that when my iron is above an 11 I don't crave ice at all.

 

Interesting. I've heard craving ice = iron deficiency. Why ice though, I wonder? Why not red meat? Maybe water supplies contained a significant amount of iron at some point in our evolution?

 

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I have noticed I feel completely unprepared for this baby, with no means to alleviate it because we are broke. Can they all be over 5 now?? I hate to rush, but I'm ready to move on to the childhood stage!!!

 

I hear ya! I feel unprepared too, and we're also broke. I've been pushing it out of my mind. I figure that as long as we get a car seat a few blankets and diapers, we'll survive! 

 

 

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Plans for this month: choose an infant care place and talk to my mom/boss about staying away for maybe 3 months instead of the 8 weeks or so that I sortof volunteered for (why did I do that?!?). I've toured 3 centers and a just-okay in-home place and now have to leverage insane center cost with some major safety concerns in the in-home place, plus an extra hour per day (10-15 mins each way adds up!) to take baby there. I just don't see how this in-home lady can safely care for four 2-3 year olds, a 6 month old, my newborn DD, plus manage her 3 school-age kids when they get home around 3. I know the state allows 6 kids and her own don't count, but in my experience caring for even one extra infant, I just don't think it's a good idea. You cannot reasonably have a crawler, a potentially very demanding newborn, and multiple toddlers with the same puzzle pieces, plastic stuff, carpet, etc. and not run into an issue. Right? But, like, $500 a month right? *sigh*


Yeah, that would concern me too. I've nannied for 2-3 toddlers at a time and that was a handful. I can't imagine taking on a couple of babies on top of that! I hope you can find a solution.

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Okay.  I said I would post a pic no matter how bad it turned out - and ladies, it's not pretty.  But, hopefully, edible - which is all anyone really cares about anyway.  I learned a lot and am sure next time will be much more successful!  

 

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Pffft... are you joking Tracy, I think that looks awesome!!!!

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I think the cake is adorable! It looks amazing, especially for a first attempt. I am quite sure that if I ever attempt fondant that it will never look that good. Great job!

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Pffft...are you kidding me Tracy?? That cake is a million times prettier than most things I see in bakeries, and all the more impressive given that it's a first attempt! You should be proud!

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Thank you mamas!  The parts about the cake that are not so great is that it is totally leaning to one side and the filling somehow got squished out one of the layers and is now oozing out the side.  I iced it before putting the fondant on (had to skip the marzipan due to nut allergy) and I didn't use any gum paste in the decorative parts so they are kind of flat and falling.  But I have learned so much and next time will be a million times better!!

 

It is a stormy day here... we haven't had a real thunderstorm in a long time.  Its kind of nice, in a gloomy way!

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Hi ladies! I didn't get into the chat thread in March, it got away from me before I could even post! But I want to join in in April, so I'm posting now to sub even though I don't have much time!

I'm 31 weeks and feel like I'm getting close to the home stretch.

I think that cake looks fantastic and yummy!

One quick question - has anyone had issues with fast bumpy roads or interstates giving them BH contractions? Coming back from my in-laws' house last night I was feeling really weird...I am not sure at all whether it was BH or the baby just being low and being bounced uncomfortably, or my colon being unhappy or what...but it's making me nervous about the 4 hour interstate trip I have planned to my parents' house for Easter at 34 weeks.
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I'm getting excited for my midwife appt on Monday. My doula (she's a friend) is going with. I plan to talk birth plan stuff. I also plan to get to the bottom of my irritation. I think I'm going to have her do a swab. I'm dying here!

 

I got together with a friend on Friday and got the cutest clothes yet! I also go quite a few spring maternity items. I'm really excited about those; I was getting sick of the same old stuff to wear. I swear, people should do midseason maternity clothing swaps to break up the monotony.

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Tracy-- that cake looks amazing!!!!!!!! I would have never ever ever gotten something to look that cute!

 

Bald bull's mama-- I agree... Having the same 4 shirts and 2 pairs of pants is really... boring. I think Maternity clothes should be free :)

 

I can't believe we are going to have babies soon! <--well, for most of us another baby on top of our already crazy kids! My DD is just now learning how to throw a temper tantrum and it's not pretty. I am not good in those situations. I either try to pacify her or end up getting completely frustrated. I really need to be like Michelle Duggar---she is my hero. Quiet, constructive discipline. Now, if I can get my hubby on board with the no "yelling". He doesn't yell, his voice is just naturally louder than my mouse-like one :) So, it scares me sometimes when he is correcting DD from across the room! She is used to me all day and when she hears someone being loud towards her, she straight up has a meltdown haha. Maybe we should all take a class on how to handle our kids haha :)

post #31 of 367
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One quick question - has anyone had issues with fast bumpy roads or interstates giving them BH contractions? Coming back from my in-laws' house last night I was feeling really weird...I am not sure at all whether it was BH or the baby just being low and being bounced uncomfortably, or my colon being unhappy or what...but it's making me nervous about the 4 hour interstate trip I have planned to my parents' house for Easter at 34 weeks.


I haven't had any issues with this and we've done several road trips this pregnancy. One of them was to Houston, which is about 4 hours away from us. The others were just a few weeks ago during Spring Break and they were on back highways that tend to not be as well maintained as the freeways. I didn't have any extra BHs from that.


 

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Bald bull's mama-- I agree... Having the same 4 shirts and 2 pairs of pants is really... boring. I think Maternity clothes should be free :)

 

Wouldn't that be great if they were free? I would looooove that. I'm lucky in that I can still wear a couple of my non-maternity things, like t-shirts and cotton shorts. That will help make summer way more comfy for me, I'm sure. But I know the shirts especially won't fit forever and I'm already sick of the shirts that I have! 10 more weeks of these clothes...

 

Last night I was looking at a picture of my friend's twin girls, who are about 4 weeks old now, and it hit me that fairly soon I am going to have an actual BABY in my house. And it will be MY baby. Oh. My. God!!!! I feel like the full realization is just now hitting me and it's a little terrifying suddenly!

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...it hit me that fairly soon I am going to have an actual BABY in my house. And it will be MY baby. Oh. My. God!!!! I feel like the full realization is just now hitting me and it's a little terrifying suddenly!



I've been feeling some of that lately! Last week I spent about 2 days in a state of anxiety over feeling like I needed to get everything "in order". After a lot of praying and mini-freaking to my sis and bff, I've calmed down and peace has settled in me again. Part of my issue is the fact that when our daughter was born, dh was self-employed and able to be home with us for a really long time (like months and months). Sure, he had work to do but it was on his schedule and he was available whenever. Now, he has 3 weeks and then I'm on my own for like 9.5 hours a day with TWO kids...aah!

 

 

 

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We go pick up my DPs daughter every weekend which equals two hours straight in the car Saturday and Sunday and I always end up feeling crampy, contracted and generally irritated in my uterus. She lives up a freakishly bumpy mountain but I don't notice BHs any more on it than on highway. I don't really know how this long, every weekend trip is going to work as I get close to EDD much less with a freshborn baby.

 

I've got less than seven weeks until a full-term baby though it'll probably be closer 'til eleven weeks for birth. That last month is killer. I walked around for weeks last time (as always!) in regular prodromal labour and feeling like I had a baby head hanging out of my vagina. It gets difficult to remain zen about the process. Many times a day I'm sort of like !!!!!! I'm about to have a baby! and, while I am excited, it's more of a shockingly surreal realisation. I'll accidentally open the drawer with baby boy clothes and I always have a moment of what? whose clothes are these?? and a then I remember and sometimes I'll whisper his name, a name I'll say over and over for the rest of my life. I'm somehow amazed when an actual baby is born from me.

 

You know, it took me a long time to feel ok with this pregnancy. It was unexpected and we conceived when the other baby was only 11mo which is very close for me. It took me a long time to feel any sort of love for this new person. I always knew that I would love him, that he would be born and I wouldn't be able to imagine anyone more amazing but that felt more like loving a rumor, a story of a baby or my spleen. Lately I've felt more bonded. He wakes me up at night, pokes me with his boney knees, he hiccups and does secret baby things all tucked inside of me. This afternoon I was hugging his papa and there was our baby moving between us. I cannot help but love this little boy. I think it is one of the most precious times - to be on the cusp of welcoming a new baby to my arms, the arms of my partner and our children. 

 

Lastly, that cake is gorgeous! When I make a cake it looks like a pack of hyenas threw it together.    

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Kawa Kamuri, that weekly drive sounds brutal. I think I'd be tapping out in the near future so your DP can have time with his daughter and you can be doing anything but that!

 

I know what you mean about the love sneaking up on you. I have always been pretty low-key about loving a fetus inside me. The reality of it with DD took a very long time to set in, and I wasn't truly excited about having a baby in my arms for some time post-partum. Not scared, not un-excited, just very matter-of-fact. "Oh, birth is over and this is mine. Huh.", as opposed to the moms who say they feel this instant bloom of maternal love. Anyway, it's just in the last 2-3 weeks (I'm almost 28w) that I'm really starting to look forward to the next appt, next u/s, to washing the tubs of DD's old clothes, etc. And it feels fun! Maybe it's because strangers can finally tell that I'm pregnant, so their excitement is infectious. I have very easy pregnancies (so far) with no discomfort or sickness or achiness or any of that, so I think that I sortof forget some time, and a college-aged girl gushing about it is enough to remind me that yeah, it's kindof a big deal. And now I can watch her poke around in there in the evenings. DD and DH rarely catch it, so t

hat is my little secret with her, I suppose!
 

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We go pick up my DPs daughter every weekend which equals two hours straight in the car Saturday and Sunday and I always end up feeling crampy, contracted and generally irritated in my uterus. She lives up a freakishly bumpy mountain but I don't notice BHs any more on it than on highway. I don't really know how this long, every weekend trip is going to work as I get close to EDD much less with a freshborn baby.

 

I've got less than seven weeks until a full-term baby though it'll probably be closer 'til eleven weeks for birth. That last month is killer. I walked around for weeks last time (as always!) in regular prodromal labour and feeling like I had a baby head hanging out of my vagina. It gets difficult to remain zen about the process. Many times a day I'm sort of like !!!!!! I'm about to have a baby! and, while I am excited, it's more of a shockingly surreal realisation. I'll accidentally open the drawer with baby boy clothes and I always have a moment of what? whose clothes are these?? and a then I remember and sometimes I'll whisper his name, a name I'll say over and over for the rest of my life. I'm somehow amazed when an actual baby is born from me.

 

You know, it took me a long time to feel ok with this pregnancy. It was unexpected and we conceived when the other baby was only 11mo which is very close for me. It took me a long time to feel any sort of love for this new person. I always knew that I would love him, that he would be born and I wouldn't be able to imagine anyone more amazing but that felt more like loving a rumor, a story of a baby or my spleen. Lately I've felt more bonded. He wakes me up at night, pokes me with his boney knees, he hiccups and does secret baby things all tucked inside of me. This afternoon I was hugging his papa and there was our baby moving between us. I cannot help but love this little boy. I think it is one of the most precious times - to be on the cusp of welcoming a new baby to my arms, the arms of my partner and our children. 

 

Lastly, that cake is gorgeous! When I make a cake it looks like a pack of hyenas threw it together.    



 

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Hi ladies, this is my first chat post.  I sware the time is slipping away.  I can't believe how close it is getting.  I have put off so much that I usually have done already.  Yesterday was the first time I went through all my old baby clothes and seperated boys from girls and gotten it all put away and ready for new baby.  I usually get excited before this point and do it.  I also haven't ordered my birth supplies yet.  There are only 4 or 5 things I need though such as a mattress bag, footprinter, chux pads, and a cord ring.  The rest I am getting locally like OB pads, trashbags, ziploc bag for placenta, gathering old towels, etc.  I also still have stuff from last birth I never used such as the iodine scrub and such.  They just came with the kit I got but come to think of it, we never used anything like that in any of my homebirths.

 

The one thing I never had enough of was clean towels, lol.  I will be more prepared this time.

 

I have reached that stage where I am just anxious for it to be over and her to be here already.  However, last night, out of no where, I had a strange flashback of the actual pain of labor for a split second.  Isn't it weird that is the first thing we forget, how bad it hurts?  AFter that memory, I thought for the first time this pregnancy, "wow, maybe I am not quite ready after all, we can wait a little longer", hahaha.

 

DH was laid off from work last time so I didn't have to worry about him being there for the birth.  This time though he works an hour away and will either be on afternoons or midnights.  He says it wont be a prob, just call and they will get the message to him right away away and he can be here in like an hour and a half, or less.  I guess I just keep getting this feeling like he wont be here this time.  My dream birth goes something like this:  Me being alone, just waking up in labor, it not really hurting but very intense, no time to call midwife or anyone else, I just instinctively do what my body needs and catch my own baby, maybe in the tub or wherever.  Then I call midwife, dh, my mom, and everyone comes and helps with the clean up and checks us over. 

 

Not sure if when it came down to it that is what I would really want.  I mean, in actual labor, maybe I wouldnt want to be alone at all but be glad the midwife was there.  I remember last time just breathing this sign of relief when she finally got there though she did nothing but sit next to me during my very short labor. 

 

I suppose whatever is meant to be will be. 

 

On a different note, its like I gained 20 lbs overnight!  Went from feeling generally pregnant and nothing fitting right so I stayed in my pjs a lot to feeling HUGE and my pjs even being tight now and everything rolls down my belly, even my maternity pants.  I am a house!  Also darn hemmorroids flared after no probs all pregnancy. 

 

I have a little ticker on my homepage tracking how many days till due date and how many till full term.  I cant believe its only 37 days till I am 37 weeks!  How did that happen!?

 

Is it sneaking up on anyone else or dragging for you guys?

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Sharita -- it's a combination for me of feeling impatient and also feeling like there's no time! I'm one of the "early" June mamas too (maybe even late May) so I'll be 37 weeks between May 2nd and May 9th (depending on 20w u/s date and conception date)...so WOW! Now, I don't expect babe to come that early and I pray he bakes as long as he needs to but just knowing, wow, I could potentially have him then with a very low chance of any 'issues' is really surreal to me!!! I think the first of May is when I will really kick things into high gear with planning. I've been mentally preparing but haven't done a whole lot other than get birth supplies, a few (literally) outfits. We need a car seat!

 

I did do something nice last night though. I braided some embroidery floss all pretty to tie baby's end of the cord (we'll probably just clamp placenta end -- we'll wait 'til its limp/white anyway) .. and I just printed out a bunch of Bible verses and mounted them on pretty paper to put on the wall in my birthing space for labor. All verses related to peace and strength and whatnot... it felt good to do some Spiritual preparation in addition to some of the logistical stuff joy.gif

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I don't know what it is lately but I just do not want clothes on me. Not at all. I've been walking around the house today in a pair of cotton shorts and a maternity camisole w/ the built in "bra" - nothing else. Getting fully dressed to go grocery shopping was terrible! I can't wait until bedtime when I can be totally nekkid.

 

Sharita, I feel like it's sneaking and rushing at the same time. I'll be 36 weeks in 6 weeks and that realization was kind of a shock. I don't expect to actually give birth until the middle of June, which is still at least 10 weeks away, but I realized last night that a real baby will be in our house and in our family. Eeek!!

 

Okay. Off to lie down with a book in front of the fan and be a vegetable.

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I know what you mean about the love sneaking up on you. I have always been pretty low-key about loving a fetus inside me. The reality of it with DD took a very long time to set in, and I wasn't truly excited about having a baby in my arms for some time post-partum. Not scared, not un-excited, just very matter-of-fact. "Oh, birth is over and this is mine. Huh.", as opposed to the moms who say they feel this instant bloom of maternal love. Anyway, it's just in the last 2-3 weeks (I'm almost 28w) that I'm really starting to look forward to the next appt, next u/s, to washing the tubs of DD's old clothes, etc. And it feels fun! Maybe it's because strangers can finally tell that I'm pregnant, so their excitement is infectious. I have very easy pregnancies (so far) with no discomfort or sickness or achiness or any of that, so I think that I sortof forget some time, and a college-aged girl gushing about it is enough to remind me that yeah, it's kindof a big deal. And now I can watch her poke around in there in the evenings. DD and DH rarely catch it, so that is my little secret with her, I suppose!

 

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You know, it took me a long time to feel ok with this pregnancy. It was unexpected and we conceived when the other baby was only 11mo which is very close for me. It took me a long time to feel any sort of love for this new person. I always knew that I would love him, that he would be born and I wouldn't be able to imagine anyone more amazing but that felt more like loving a rumor, a story of a baby or my spleen. Lately I've felt more bonded. He wakes me up at night, pokes me with his boney knees, he hiccups and does secret baby things all tucked inside of me. This afternoon I was hugging his papa and there was our baby moving between us. I cannot help but love this little boy. I think it is one of the most precious times - to be on the cusp of welcoming a new baby to my arms, the arms of my partner and our children.

 

Interesting to hear other womens' perspectives on this.

 

I can't say I've felt particular bonded during pregnancy either time around. I'm thrilled to be pregnant, and so, so excited to meet this baby, but until she's born it just all feels too abstract. I don't even really picture a baby in there - I feel like there's some alien blob kicking my insides. I don't mean that in a negative way. I know I'll love this baby once I've had the chance to get to know her.

 

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Is it sneaking up on anyone else or dragging for you guys?
 


A bit of both. I have to finish my school year before baby arrives, so that is preventing me from feeling too impatient. I'm due June 7 and the cut-off date for my final assignment is June 2, so baby needs wait until then!

 

 

 

 

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Jenni, I am the same way!  If it was warmer here I would be wearing as little as possible.  It was a beautiful day today and I could actually open the windows and take off my socks!! Yay!!

 

So, yeah, I kind of feel like time is both moving so quickly and standing still all at the same time.  Some days drag on forever and some weeks just fly by.  I have not accomplished anything that I set out to at the beginning of this pregnancy and that is kind of bringing me down... but I am starting to feel a little more focused and ready to tackle things that need to be done.  Something about being in the 3rd trimester makes everything seem so much more tangible and not just this far-off baby-to-be.  I was really hoping DH would have had a steady job by now so that I could do a few nice things for myself in these last weeks - maybe get a massage, take an overnight trip to see my SIL, splurge on a couple of new outfits for the new baby, you know, some little things that make the day-to-day stuff a little more palatable.  I guess I have just been kind of on toddler burn-out lately.  Every day seems like so much work just keeping them safe, fed, and entertained.  I mean, sometimes I just get so sick of playing 'construction site' or 'trucks' - DS is very headstrong and when he wants to play something its not even worth it to try and steer him in a different direction.  

 

Sometimes I just want to jump up and down and say something totally obnoxious like "But what about me??!!  Why can't we do something I want to do like sit in peace and drink tea and read a nice magazine with my feet up and a heating pad on my shoulders??!!"  Those little ones of mine, they'd never go for that...

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tracymom- I think you should totally do that. Stomp your feet and demand that you get a whole afternoon of "you" time. Imagine how much better you would feel after that?? I got to sleep in today and it felt amazing. amazing, amazing. Sometimes just being alone for an hour makes all the difference :)

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