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Hey, mamas, check this out: http://www.thegoodstuffguide.com/fairyland/



Oh that is just too awesome.

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Hey, mamas, check this out: http://www.thegoodstuffguide.com/fairyland/




Wow!  How beautiful.  I could see me having that tree in my house:)

 

 

Morning all,

 

Man, another nasty day here.  Overcast, cold, windy and most likely rain:(  I guess it's better than snow though.  Today feels like one of those curl up on the couch with a cup of tea and a good book kinda days:)

 

Hoe everyone has a good one.

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I think Persephone got lost on her way out from the UnderWorld and her mother is going crazy waiting for her!

More snow tonight/tomorrow for my area...

Depressing.

 

 

That room is beautiful! I might use the bookcase idea here!

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I think Persephone got lost on her way out from the UnderWorld and her mother is going crazy waiting for her!

More snow tonight/tomorrow for my area...

Depressing.

 

 

That room is beautiful! I might use the bookcase idea here!

Weather has been cold/wet/snow for us as well. Bleck!

 

Come back spring, we promise to play and revel in your beauty!

 

Well ladies, our tv bit the dust, so we are tv for an extended time. We went to purchase one that was on clearance and it was gone. Not a big deal, but it made us change our plans as we were finishing off a documentary. We Shall Remain, is on netflix streaming and it shows the NA lives from the colonists to modern times, it is told from their point of view. The girls found it profoundly sad and were very mad after watching The Trail of Tears. So, instead we shall make some Easter decorations to give to family on Sunday. I have made my peace with celebrating Easter. In fact, this year we are looking at who Jesus was in Christian religion. I think Jesus has some very insightful teachings, so I hope I can clearly convey the spirit of Jesus without getting stuck in the stuff I don't agree with.

 

Oh, our hyacinths are up and were covered in snow. Poor gals, they looked so sad yesterday- but the daffodils looked very pretty with their dusting of snow- like they were wearing little muffs.
 

 

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Back from Mom's. I think she really, really has issues. I have known it for quite some time, but I really came back this time with a feeling of "she really does not like ds and me, and it's time to face it". But I don't know what to do, if anything greensad.gif

 

 

That's no good. If you decide to say something to her about it, be emotionally prepared. I'd probably just keep a distance and only do family functions like birthdays. I'm sorry.
 

 



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DS1 is on spring break, and besides cleaning the house, the whole family has gotten hooked on a wonderful little cartoon Phineas & Ferb.

 

So in the immortal words of Isabella ... "Whatcha doing?"

My DS found a Phineas & Ferb golf game online. He really enjoys it & we play together sometimes. You can probably find it easily on pbs.org. If you want I could get him to pull it up so I can put a link.

 

Yesterday the kids & I played outside. DS & I gave some dandelions & grape hyacinths to DD. She was so cute playing with them. I also raked all the leaves & junk out of the peppermint patch. I finished DD's tutu, it's pretty BA. I'm still making the beanbags...lost steam on that one.

 

I gave myself a haircut. Gone are the days that I pay someone to screw it up! It turned out pretty good.

 

DD is pulling herself up & cruising on things now. Time to redistribute our coffee table clutter. She also plays peek a boo now by pulling her blankie up to hide her face. love.gif She makes the "milk" sign at me too. This past week or two have been really full of developmental milestones for her. She is 9 months old today. Out of the womb as long as in!

 

My TM has me so focused on what I want that I've realized I'm needing to be more thankful for the things I have.

 

So Saturn and Pluto have been retrograde in addition to Mercury. I think that Saturn is really contributing to the negative slump. June 12 is when Saturn goes direct. *sigh*
 

 


 

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 I have made my peace with celebrating Easter. In fact, this year we are looking at who Jesus was in Christian religion. I think Jesus has some very insightful teachings, so I hope I can clearly convey the spirit of Jesus without getting stuck in the stuff I don't agree with.


 

Good for you. Useful & true teachings come from many sources!

 

DS just got up & wants food. Have a great day! blowkiss.gif
 

 

post #126 of 202

[quote] That's no good. If you decide to say something to her about it, be emotionally prepared. I'd probably just keep a distance and only do family functions like birthdays. I'm sorry.[/quote]
 

 

 

I'm going to have to. I can no longer abide her passive-aggressive (and also more obvious) ploys and her superior attitude. It's just not OK. She's gotten really nasty anymore. Nasty-with-a-smile, if that makes any sense. She talks about us behind our backs and to our faces. She's a tightwad and grudges everything. She rolls her eyes and says very disrespectful things, and nastily accuses my child of being a pain when he's only being his age. This has been going on for years, and only this time have I finally realized it and am facing it. I grew up with June Cleaver, so it's really hard to deal with this. I can't tell if she's always been this way, or just gotten like this in the recent past years. My brother, who has dd's 21 and 16, complained of this same kind of behavior when his girls were little, so it can't be just me. But if I only do family functions, it's going to be hard when my mom confronts me on why I'm distant, as she is bound to do. We talk nearly every week. She lives an 8-hour drive from me, and we only see her like twice a year as it is. I have one brother who lives 14 hours in a different direction, so there ARE no "family functions". Ugh.

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Maybe write letters?  Phrase it in a "the phone is so impersonal, I'm really getting into the whole letter writing thing, so I wont be calling/taking calls every week but you'll be finding amazing stationary and cards in your mailbox soon" (and include a SASE with some neat cardstock as a show of good will).  It's kind of the revenge of the passive-aggressive, I know, but it might let you get a bit more "space" without being "distant".  And it could be very interesting/revealing to see what (if anything) she writes back.

 

My mom is similar, and I've had to accept that her own mental health concerns mean I'll never really have the mother I thought I did.  That doesn't make sense on the surface but it's sort of where I'm at these days... I thought my mom was X, and had all this angst and stress trying to be good enough for X.  But I've finally realized there is no X, X is a fantasy she sold me (and probably sold to herself) and there is no way I could ever, in a million years, live up to X because X keeps changing... it's not real, it doesn't play by any rules.  But I still find myself trying, and beating myself up more often than not.  It's a process and the only person I have any real influence over is myself.  I can't make her happy, so I have to make myself happy and let her decide how she'll respond to that.  So big hugs and hopes for a resolution that makes YOU and your son happy.

 

Cold, rainy, snowy here too... very grey.  AND... I found the hide-a-bed couch we were gifted with several months ago was FULL of mold.  It weighs a ton so I haven't moved it since we brought it home.  Well, it's not as comfy as our old couch and so I told DH that for the rest of the pregnancy comfy trumps nice looking so I wanted to swap the couches.  Well, I moved the gift couch and it had essentially grown into the floor!  Mildew and mold everywhere.  ICK ICK ICK!!!!!!!!!!!!!  DH helped me toss the couch outside (he'll strip it and sell the metal for scrap) and I sprayed down the floor but ack!  I wonder how much of our skin funk has been due to living with a giant mold factory?

 

 

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This totally makes sense and is so very wise
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My mom is similar, and I've had to accept that her own mental health concerns mean I'll never really have the mother I thought I did.  That doesn't make sense on the surface but it's sort of where I'm at these days... I thought my mom was X, and had all this angst and stress trying to be good enough for X.  But I've finally realized there is no X, X is a fantasy she sold me (and probably sold to herself) and there is no way I could ever, in a million years, live up to X because X keeps changing... it's not real, it doesn't play by any rules.  But I still find myself trying, and beating myself up more often than not.  It's a process and the only person I have any real influence over is myself.  I can't make her happy, so I have to make myself happy...

 

and yikes.gif about the mold/mildew issue!!

 

 

Work is work like today and I'm trying to motivate myself to finish what I have to do... in terms of writing more policies & procedures, but I feel like my goose is cooked on that front given what I've had to do this past year.  *sigh*  I can't wait for spring to come back as I'm done with the cold and rain and grey gloom of winter. 

 

Hope everyone is having a wonderful day!

 

 

 


 

 

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Hay everyone, just popping in to say hi. This month has really been kicking my butt and I will be so glad when April is over. I didn't know it was possible for things to be this stressful. 

 

The weather here has been mostly hot, with a few storms. Normally I love stormy weather the rain and thunder relaxes me. But these storms have been putting me on edge. I don't know what's up right now.

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Hi everybody!  Trying to catch up on posts this morning, while DS is trying to climb me...he is so silly anymore!  I guess 13 month olds are like that!  So I will make this quick...

I looooooove the fairy room, it makes me want a little girl to decorate for (DS loves the ocean and fish, so thats his room).

I hope everyone actually gets some spring/summer weather soon.  We are well on our way to summer heat, and this week may get some of the storms that have been going across the country to go with it.

It is so hard to have problems with a relative, and I have come to the decision (based on the issues in our family with MIL) that I simply will not be around negative people, nor will my son.  If you cant accept us and be positive and nice, we will not see you.  Hope you can find some peace with that!

And our Easter celebration will be all about spring--we will play outside, dye eggs and hide them, then eat them after found, and carrying over into the Beltane celebration we will plant flowers.  The aforementioned MIL keeps trying to sneak Christian stuff into our lives and I keep rejecting it.  For example, she gave DS a couple bible story books for Christmas, which we promptly sold in a garage sale to someone who can appreciate them.  And she invited us, again, to her church for Easter, which is not going to happen.  I think she knows that, and does it to be obnoxious.  Oh well, I am full of good energy right now, and will not let her bring it down!

Have a great day everyone!

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Morning all:)

 

Overcast, cool and looking like a day of rain ahead of us here in New Hampshire.  Rained all night too. 

 

Maia, (((hugs))). 

 

Today I think I am going to do some work around the house, maybe plant some seeds.  I planted some veggies over a week ago and some of them haven't produced anything?  I think I had the seeds too long. 

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Good morning, everyone!  I've been busy but reading along -- good wishes to all!  

 

Having a really slow thaw here, temps well below freezing every night, so it doesn't feel very springlike.

 

Was up in the night with a very sudden very sore throat - going to try to get in to my dr today for a throat swab.  It is very like my pattern for strep throat and I do NOT want to be dealing with that over the holiday.  I need to take some master tonic but not on an empty stomach.

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Morning! Kids and I are off to a meeting, we are trying to get a playgroup going based on Spirit Play/Godly Play, which is Montessori based. Should be interesting, if we can get it going!

 

 

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Feel better, Aubergine! Thanks for the hug, redveg.

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Originally Posted by wombatclay View PostMaybe write letters?  Phrase it in a "the phone is so impersonal, I'm really getting into the whole letter writing thing, so I wont be calling/taking calls every week but you'll be finding amazing stationary and cards in your mailbox soon" (and include a SASE with some neat cardstock as a show of good will).  It's kind of the revenge of the passive-aggressive, I know, but it might let you get a bit more "space" without being "distant".  And it could be very interesting/revealing to see what (if anything) she writes back.

 

My mom is similar, and I've had to accept that her own mental health concerns mean I'll never really have the mother I thought I did.  That doesn't make sense on the surface but it's sort of where I'm at these days... I thought my mom was X, and had all this angst and stress trying to be good enough for X.  But I've finally realized there is no X, X is a fantasy she sold me (and probably sold to herself) and there is no way I could ever, in a million years, live up to X because X keeps changing... it's not real, it doesn't play by any rules.  But I still find myself trying, and beating myself up more often than not.  It's a process and the only person I have any real influence over is myself.  I can't make her happy, so I have to make myself happy and let her decide how she'll respond to that.  So big hugs and hopes for a resolution that makes YOU and your son happy.

 

I saw your mold story on FB. Ew! I don't doubt that some of your family's ills were from that!

 

No, I don't want to write letters, but thanks for the suggestion. I can't see her doing it anymore, either, what with how fast email and typing is by comparison. I am composing a letter, though, through email, and I am nearly done with it. I don't know what I expect out of it, if anything. I can't, though, keep going, without her knowing my feelings. I'd be lying if I hid them and just kept pretending everything's fine, when it isn't. I'm really, really weary and sad of going away from every visit feeling like a failure.



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Originally Posted by Piratelady2525 View PostThe aforementioned MIL keeps trying to sneak Christian stuff into our lives and I keep rejecting it.  For example, she gave DS a couple bible story books for Christmas, which we promptly sold in a garage sale to someone who can appreciate them.  And she invited us, again, to her church for Easter, which is not going to happen.  I think she knows that, and does it to be obnoxious.

 

Probably. My mom discovered that my DS has developed an interest in Christianity, and boy has she jumped all over that. I don't mind whatever religion he wants to be into, but let HIM be the one who asks questions! Grrr!


Two weeks exactly till I see M energy.gifluxlove.gif

 

DS's school "lost" his Spring photos. GRRR! He looked so debonair, too. I think they have to retake them. Which means dressing him up all over again eyesroll.gif

His first baseball game went well. They won 15-9 or something! DS struck out in his only at-bat, but it's all good. He's not showing fear anymore. And he fielded a ball out in right field. They look so spiffy in their uniforms!
 

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Thanks, Maia!  Hooray for sweet boys in baseball uniforms!

 

ktg, Cari moved recently and has had internet connection issues, I believe.  Hope she is back soon - I miss her posts, too!

 

Yuck about the mold, Clay!
 

I second the suggestion to do maki rolls if you can.  If not, a meal salad with almonds and an asian sesame-type dressing, perhaps?  I love broccoli salad -- maybe made with a vegan mayonaise so dairy and egg free? You could do buns on the side for those that can have gluten.

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Mmmmm... there's an asian shop we used to eat at in Boston that had the BEST dressing/dipping sauce.  Ginger, and Tamari, and Sesame Oil, and something else.  Grrrr... tip of the brain strikes again!

 

I actually got outside today when the weather warmed/cleared for a few hours.  Loverly!  Of course, I totally over did it... I built about ten feet of stone wall (gathering stones from the woods), raked out the various flower beds, threw down tons of flower seeds with the girls, kept Tor out of the creek/road/construction debris, and tried to tidy up the yard a bit.  Sigh... my muscles are going to declare a day of pain for tomorrow, I can tell.  but it was just sooooo nice outside.  And I couldn't just sit there in the mud looking at unfinished projects and early spring mess.  LOL

 

I want to get a "tree of tales" tattoo (a tree shape, but made up of quotations)... but I've been pregnant and/or breastfeeding for 7 years now and haven't been "available" for art.  The room has me inspired though and I think I might try to paint a tree of tales on the living room wall.  I haven't painted a mural in years (seriously, I think the last mural I worked on was in '97 or so) but I'm feeling like this project is important.

 

TM- I think things might be moving already!  I've been contacted by two different moms (who don't know each other) about creating a sort of homeschool co-op.  Which would mean we could withdraw from our current "driving intensive/budget busting" plans but still have weekly social gatherings and free time.  One mom wants to essentially "trade kids" with all the kiddos at her home for two days and then at my home for two days, the other is looking into hiring a person to teach/entertain/watch the kid group for a few hours twice a week.  I have a lot on my map about nurturing myself and building community and this seems like a great start!

 

mold- I bought another uv/hepa filter today and it's running in the living room.  Plus windows are open for an air exchange.  Here's hoping the funk flees and the healthy energies return!  I need to pick up more EOs though.  And oh you FE goddesses... what would you suggest for physical healing (specifically skin related), emotional healing/community building?

 

random mother issues- do any of you play Portal?  I was reading the wikipedia entry about GLaDOS (an AI in the game that is just an amazingly nasty character but in a really fun way) and there's a whole section on the psychology of GLaDOS... and she is described as having a narcissistic personality disorder.  The analysis actually gives a lot of insight into real world relationships that feature personality disorders, and it resonated with my personal experiences.  I think the most interesting insight for me was that individuals with these conditions often empower others, but only within a framework determined by the sufferer.  If the other person moves outside that framework the sufferer can become very destructive, cutting the person down until they return to the framework and are once again "available" for empowerment.  Anyway, it was interesting to stumble across such a timely analysis while on a totally unrelated quest.

 

read alouds- going to start either Book of Three (Chronicles of Prydain by LLoyd Alexander) or Howl's Moving Castle (by Dianna Wynne Jones).  Opinions?  Have you read either to your kiddos?  The girls were ok with Alice in Wonderland and Pippi Longstocking but hated Charlotte's Web and Little House in the Big Woods... I want to read something with the girls that is pagan friendly but still "chapter book"-ish with some actual plot.  The Hobbit, RiddleMaster of Hed, and the EarthSea Cycle are still too "thematic" I think, Wrinkle in Time is a bit too Christian for what I want, LWW/Narnia are much too Christian for us.  So what are other families reading?      So what

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Clay, a quick comment about the Chronicles of Narnia. My DH, raised Jewish, always thought that Narnia was a "Pagan paradise." (his words)He still doesn't fully see the Christian ideas in those books, even when I point them out. So I think that while *we* see the Christian themes, our kids may not because they aren't necessarily being raised that way. Does that make sense?

 

Maia, something does need to be said to your mother. I'm sorry things have gotten so sour. But at least you have a trip up here to look forward to!

 

Things at work...well, stink. I've been uncomfortable with things, and they've gotten worse. I don't know that I want to go totally into it here, but basically, I'm waiting for the other ball to drop, and have my coworker go off on me. The worst part? I didn't even do anything wrong, other than listening to my coworker go off on tirades at work, and my boss confronting me on it for my implicit role. I don't want things to get any worse for my coworker, but I'm not going to lie about what is happening. My coworker is exactly like my toxic mother was (she's long deceased) so I have a hard time telling her to be, well, a reasonable person because it'll go over like a lead balloon. But now I'm going to be painted as a stool pigeon or something. UGH!!!  I have no idea what to do other than try to explain to my boss exactly what I have told you all.

 

Not exactly looking forward to the weekend. We're headed to NJ on Friday, then another 1 1/2 hour trip to see relatives we don't really like, and back home Sunday. We were kind of hoping to have a late Passover seder, but DH's grandmother won't do it because seders are for the first two nights only. Whatever. but I'm trying my hand at GF matzo balls, so let's hope they work out.

 

 

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wombatclay -- a really great book imo is Treasure At the Heart of the Tanglewood by Meredith Ann Pierce. I'm not sure how old your children are but it might be ok for them. Or The Song of the Lioness quartet by Tamora Pierce, those books are still some of my favorites to curl up and read. I don't have any kids of my own yet, but I'm trying to remember what I enjoyed reading when I was younger. 

 

ETA - I also was unaware of the christian theme in the Narnia books until I was in my teens and it was pointed out to me. 

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pagan read alouds- I wonder if we could create a facebook group or something, where we could list different resources? Off the top of my head, I am coming up blank. We are reading Huck Finn, which isn't at all a pagan. We really enjoyed Peter Pan. Anything Pirates would work for my kids, though Treasure Island is the only book I can think of at the Moment. we have read The Unicorn Secret. I am so bad at remembering titles and authors.

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Mmm.... a restaurant I used to work at on the Outer Banks had their own soy-ginger salad dressing. I was responsible for making it many a time, but dang if I can remember how it was done. I know there was soy sauce, fresh grated ginger (I hated that job!), I think maybe sesame oil? And garlic. Maybe water...there were only like 5 ingredients. It was so, so yummy...I wish I could remember it. I googled and didn't find anything like. I don't think it had vinegar. Maybe it did.

 

I do remember how to make blue cheese, though yummy.gif

 

Clay, you gathered and built 10 feet of stone wall all by yourself?? In one day? AND all that other stuff, including taking care of littles? bow.gif You truly are amazing.

 

DS has been behaving SO well. So well. I've been so happy. Then tonight he had to go and pull some whimpering, whining tantrum because he said he didn't understand his homework, and I made him do the whole thing, when earlier I had said he only had to do part of it. Um, duh, ya don't understand it-- you didn't bring it home for weeks, and it was during the uber-disrespectful-to-the-teachers time period! Hello, bring your homework home every week? Perhaps, I dunno...keep up? eyesroll.gif

Not to mention it's conversions-- from, say, feet to miles. And the tables for referencing were right there on the homework sheet. He's a really smart kid. He was just being an arse.

 

ETA: Oh yeah, I forgot-- the catchphrase at ds's school is "What the crap?" Like, what the heck. Only they say crap. I HATE that word, utterly hate it. M considers it a swear. I don't, but for me there are swear words, and all the other words, and then a gray area of words that are not-swear words, but offensive-- like "crap". What would y'all do if yours was saying something like that all the time? Gawd, it's just awful.

 

Oh, the letter to my mom. I think it's finished. I sent it to M to get his opinion, and he thinks it's good as is. Probably will send tomorrow. Ugh. She has no idea at all that there was any problem. I really hate opening a can of worms. But if I don't, it will keep happening, and it's not acceptable. I just wish I'd sent it when it was really acute, like the day after we got home. It just took me that long to compose it. Ugh, ugh, and ugh.


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