2ez: I'm thread crashing (unless I am actually pregnant, which I am until proven otherwise) to say I'm THRILLED you are doing better and have no more drives to the RE in the mornings and your couch rest is going well! I too see the nub waving to you guys and possibly even a thumbs up letting you they are doing well! CONGRATS GIRL!
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2EZ: to a healthy bean and a bleed that isn't too worrisome at this point. The u/s pic is adorable! And I understand your preference for your OB--what matters is that you do what is best for you, and it great that you know what that is.
Cejae: Nice going on the book preface, and I'm glad you can relax now. So sorry about DS's stomach! UGH. I take it your BP and pee have been cooperating with all the testing? Thanks for your words about the OCD (and yours, too, Julie).
Julie: 17 weeks is a good, solid place to be. I hope you get some reassurance soon, though; I know how nerve-wracking those doubts can be. Funny you think that DD looks like me. I think that she does around the eyes, though (as DP insists), she looks a whole lot more like her donor (blond hair, blue eyes, broad jaw--Swedish, basically).
Escher: It definitely gets better! So much better! My LO was dancing during Glee tonight, like all over the place dancing around my uterus for a full 60 minutes. DP and I were laughing out loud at all the bumps, bounces, and kicks. You'll get to a place of enjoyment and delight with the pregnancy--it just may take some more time. I'm glad you're feeling less sick, though! I hope your midwife appt tomorrow is exactly what you need.
AFM: Started reading this amazing book on OCD for kids with DD tonight. She responded with immediate recognition; it is creepy how much it seemed like the author must have written it for her. She protested when we had to put it away at bedtime: "Why would you make me stop reading something that is helping me?!" She hates bedtime. But I'm glad she likes the book and feels like she is getting some help. She also really likes the therapist, which is fantastic. It feels good to be moving forward, a little bit at a time. Only two more classes to go until finals and grading hell...and then freedom!
Oh--want to hear something truly horrifying? In the insane budget emergency that IL is currently facing, university administrators are doing everything possible to avoid issuing contracts for fall to part-time instructors. They have refused to approve funds for my replacement course (while I'm out on FMLA in the fall) because it is not "certain" that I'll be taking the leave. In other words (and my chair confirmed this), it is possible, according to them, that I could miscarry. My chair is disgusted and angry and confronting every official she can about this, but OMG! I'm 27 weeks pregnant, and when do they plan to employ someone to teach my 110-person course--when I show them a baby two weeks before the semester starts?! Good thing I'm not easily offended.
2ez, That’s GREAT news!! Yay for the shrinking hematoma and yay for a good ultrasound and yay for being released to your OB! I can’t believe how hard parts of the Midwest and the south are getting hit right now. I’m glad you guys are safe.
As for “bed” rest – I hear you! I’m on the couch or in our backyard most days. It’s next to impossible for me to heave myself out of bed these days anyway. So the couch is a better bet for all sorts of reasons!
Ahope, Um, that’s nuts. Nuts. Nuts. Insane. Seriously at a loss for words there. Though, I’m really happy to hear that dd likes that book and her therapist. You are a wonderful mom. ☺.
AFM, good news at my weekly midwife appt today! Blood pressure, while not great, is safely w/in the realm of normal (130/83), clear urine test and the twins were doing everything they were supposed to do on the ultrasound and nonstress tests (hearts beating, lots of movement, practice breathing etc). So I scored myself one more week. Whew. This was no small feat, my mother was here all weekend and I was convinced that her presence alone would send my bp soaring (let’s just say she’s having a few issues understanding that these babies are not her babies. Individuation is not her strong point).
Over the first week on bedrest I’ve finished four books – Bossypants (um, awesome), The Colony (Hawaii + leprosy = good times), The Red Garden and Outliers. Now I’ve moved on to David Sedaris’ new book and Everything in It’s Path (strangely obsessed with Appalachia lately). Any and all book recommendations are welcomed!
It feels so weird to be over here, but I found out on Monday that I'm pregnant! First beta at 15dpo was 160 and second at 17dpo was 491. I go in for my third beta on Tuesday and have my first u/s on May 19. EDD is 1/3/12!
I'm excited but truthfully, also nervous about everything. Just hoping everything goes well--I am already busting at the seams to tell my family, but am trying to hold off at least until the first u/s :)
Howdy all~ Finally got a break from my tyrannically lazy nurser. Went to the doc again this week and she's still not gaining like she should. I'm producing like crazy, but she just won't eat long enough to really EAT. She'll poke about for a few minutes then go to sleep and nothing we can do will make her wake up and eat. This leads to her then waking up starving 30-45 minutes later 'round the clock. The doctor has told us we need to supplement her now, with pumped milk and formula. I'm really not happy about this (and afraid my milk will dry up if she doesn't want to eat from the breast) but we can't have her starve. UGH!!! I'm so frustrated by this! Isn't it supposedly the easiest, most natural thing in the world? I just don't understand why it's so hard for us. Grrrr...
Anyway~ hello to everyone! Loving all the photos of the beautiful babies/children. Here are some pix of Alice just hanging out in various adorable outfits. I'll put these in her modeling portfolio so that she can get a job soon and start contributing to the laundry bills!
Kelly~ Welcome to the roller coaster! I hope everything is going well and goes smoothly all the way to birthday.
Imogen~ BIRTHDAY!!! Can't wait to hear your story and see snaps of your little one. Hope you get the homebirth you wanted.
Starling~ How fun that you let DP pick out her Harley. What a fun shopping trip that would be. I'll bet she's still thrilled and gets up in the middle of the night to go and pat it.
Cejae~ I'm just going to shake my head at that MRSA thing. I know you needed more crap. Hope there's not a Colorado-based ebola outbreak, 'cause you know it'd head straight for your house. Your reading list sounds great, though! The Hawaiian leprosy thing sounds really interesting! I'll have more recommendations soon. We're about to start the annual book award committee onslaught, so I'll keep everyone posted on what's good and what's not. I'm looking forward to one of our listed titles, '10,000 Butches'. Ought to be interesting at least.
AHope~ I'm sorry but I had to laugh about DD saying "Why would you stop reading me a book that's helping!" It's a poignant sentiment, but I could just imagine the indignant tone. And WTF about your University?!?!?! That's crap.
Escher~ I'm sorry you're not feeling pregnant, but I promise it's about to change and then it'll just be more and more and more every day. Enjoy it. I loved every moment, even the backaches and baby's-head-grinding-into-bladder. Everything felt special and wonderful and I know you'll feel that way soon xoxox
EZ~ I'm so glad you're feeling better and I'm HAPPY about no bleeding! I'm also happy that you're not flooded! We've had an easy season so far (KNOCK WOOD) but everyone further east of us has just gotten slammed. Glad you're in one piece.
Okay, my mistress is fussing again. When I was born, the nurses in the Air Force hospital said that if I fussed too much, a teaspoon of bourbon in my milk would put me right out, and I tell ya, I'm tempted!!! (Ok not really) (Ok, maybe a little, though I would never...)
Library ... Dropping in whilst on the ambulance to tell you that you can supplement wee Alice while still at the breast. Lact-Aid nursing system. Look it up! We used it for over a year, with no bottles. PM me if you want more info or support. Many hugs.
Imogen ... news? Can't wait to hear all about it!
Kelly ... Welcome, welcome! Congratulations!
Cejae ... Way to keep that dratted pre-e at bay!
EZ ... Yay for your little turtle swimming around in there with a lovely heartbeat!
There's an interesting discussion over on QC about how involved pregnant folks should be on that board. I would be curious to hear what you all think.
Library: I'm so sorry that breastfeeding is such a challenge right now. I hope that becomes easier soon. It sounds like Starling is a good resource for information on supplementing.
Kelly: Welcome, and congratulations! It's exciting that you're due right at the beginning of 2012. I understand being nervous, but it sounds like everything is going well so far. I remember how hard it was to wait for betas and the initial ultrasounds. I hope the time passes quickly!
Cejae: Hooray for safe blood pressure! It sounds like you're doing an amazing job surviving the bed rest. Grow, babies, grow!
AmandaHope: Your university administrators sound completely insane. What nuts. I'm glad that your daughter is feeling like the OCD information is helpful! And thanks again for your reassurance that it gets better.
2ez: Congratulations on being released from your RE! I'm so glad that the hematoma is getting smaller. Hooray!
Julietea: I'm so impressed that your bellybutton has already popped out! I hope you get some more movement (or some other reassurance that all is well) soon.
AFM: Our midwife appointment was great, and it definitely reminded me of why we're glad to have them as our care providers. The midwife who saw us today spent over two hours with us drinking tea, chatting, and answering all our questions. We got to hear the baby swimming around in there, and she showed us how to feel my uterus. I had this idea that my uterus was still down low, so I was surprised that the top of it is only two finger widths below my belly button. So everything looks good! Even though we know that there are never any guarantees, we've decided to stop talking about IF we have a baby and to start talking about WHEN we have a baby. Crazy.
Just popping in to say to Library that sometimes breastfeeding is not the easiest thing in the world, at all. Big hugs. We struggled a lot. I heartily concur with Starling. Get a Lact-Aid, pronto, and supplement that way for now. Also, are you seeing a Lactation Consultant or just the pediatrician? See if you can find a highly recommended LC who will come to your house. This helped us hugely. Also, if you haven't already found it, the Breastfeeding Challenges forum has a lot of advice and support from people who have BTDT. My DD also had a lot of weight gain issues, and we ended up pumping and supplementing. Once you start with the pumping and bottles, it's really easy to end up exclusively pumping, and believe me when I say that this is not a hell you want to live to through for a year. Or at least, it wasn't a hell I wanted to live through, and I wish I'd been more persistent with supplementing at the breast. Good luck!
Wehrli, Cute pic. My kids rode in wraps a lot, I think they always had their legs up like little balls when they faced out. Osha was so familiar with the sling that every time I would pick him up he would "froggy up" so his legs could be put in easily.
Amanda, she's a cutie. My daughter also looks more like her donor. I'm pretty thrilled that she looks like someone I know and love, rather than some frozen guy I've never laid eyes on. Holy crap on the not hiring someone to replace you thing. They are just being stupid. I guess theoretically you could go early and be ready to go back to work right after your due date. A girl I work with did that.
Escher, I'm always saying obnoxious things like "pregnancy is not an illness" so the fact that it feels just the same as living works with that. It also makes more sense when you hear about people who didn't know they were pregnant. It really just feels like I'm putting on some weight and it's pretty easy to explain away some of the stuff. I agree that you don't need 2 care providers, I was just trying to think of a way you could get frequent heartbeat checks. My midwives wanted me to see a back-up doctor at least once, just in case I transfered to the hospital. They said the hospital treats you like a junkie if you walk in off the street with no doctor and no prenatal care (from a doctor or CNM) I refused (well, there was a lot more to it) I was young and willing to take my chances. Isn't feeling the fundus cool? You're way ahead of me! Mine is 7 fingers below my belly button (and 7 fingers above me pubic bone, so half way!) My feelings on the QC thing, when I was TTC I loved reading updates from Library and Wehrli and Coco. They reminded me there was light at the end of the tunnel. I didn't go through a loss this round of trying, so I didn't have those raw emotions that so many of the girls over there seem to be expressing. I am both pregnant and TTC, so I still follow both threads. I don't talk about my pregnancy over there much, because, well, there's not much to say. It's like the first trimester is just a hella long TWW.
Julia, do you feel anxious about the side stitch? You get a new heartbeat soon?
Cejae, I think you're at that point where all you can do is laugh! Yikes. We get MRSA outbreaks around here every year now. Of course, I see a lot of MRSA at work, so I don't really wig all that much. Yay for the BP coming down! My mom didn't quite have the same issue yours is, but at one point I had to tell her that she had her chance to screw us up, it was my turn now (and she laughed and said, fair enough).
2ez, looks like she's along for the ride! Hopefully we're both big this summer when we get together.
Kelly! Yay! I am thrilled to see you here!
Library, I totally agree with Starling and Angela that you can supplement at the breast (and hell yeah on getting better support than a ped). How much did she weigh at birth? How much does she weigh now? Is she growing in height? My last trick I have up my sleeve, lay on your back, don't wrap her up at all, just both of you skin to skin, lay her on your chest when she's hungry. Let her pick up her head to find your nipple a bit. It's a harder position to nurse in and takes a little more concentration, which will hopefully keep her awake more. I've been hearing that there is a movement to allow babies to find the nipple on their own (you know pre-bath). It's basically the same concept but with an older baby (ok, first vid is a little weird, fast forward to about 4 and a half minutes). Adorable pics.
I just sent my kid looking for a staple gun. Taught him to use a circular saw the other day (rule number 1, put your hair up). Wow they grow up fast (he got his first drill before his second birthday. Favorite toy ever! That is just an example of why I don't give advice about safety, I think kids are smart.). He is making a locking lid for an aquarium because he has saved up enough to buy a tarantula. Gosh they grow up quick.
Saturday, April 2nd, 2011
DP and i went for a walk around 4pm (?). i was lying in bed afterward, resting.
6:09p - i sat up in bed to fold some laundry. as i sat up, i felt a small amount of fluid leak onto my panties... i thought, "did i just pee myself?" i got up and went to the bathroom. more liquid came... was that my water breaking, i thought to myself? when i got up from the toilet i noticed that there were light brown "particles" at the bottom of the bowl. ?? meconium ?? old blood ??
over the next couple hours i had several small leaks, only when i sat on the toilet, though. was it amniotic fluid or was the baby pushing on my bladder? there continued to be particles at the bottom of the bowl, everytime. i was also seeing lots of mucous plug. i was getting more and more convinced that labor was eminent. through all of this i talked to DP about it and finally we agreed that i should call the MW and give her a heads up and ask about the mec staining.
8:30p - i called my MW to tell her what was going on. she said she wasn't sure my water bag broke, but she didn't think i was peeing myself either. she also didn't think that the "particles" were meconium. i told her i wasn't contracting yet and she said to go bed, try to rest and keep her posted.
we were getting excited! we were going to have a baby! we were talking about how baby would be here by noon the next day and how 24 hrs from then we were going to be sitting at home in our bed with our child...
10:30p - finally was able to fall asleep.
Sunday, April 3rd, 2011
12:30a - awoke to pee and as i sat on the toilet, there was a gush. i got up and it was dark green stained. i was a little worried. there was also some bloody show. i woke Jen and told her about it, as we talked, i started to have contractions. Jen started to time them... 4 and 5 minutes apart, all in my back. i called the MW. she said to call when things started to get going...... get going, i thought? i thought this was going... (MW is an hour and a half away)
1:00a - i got on my birthing ball... if i was having this back labor and was loosing water, i'd better make sure this babe is in a good position! i thought. DP suggested we text our Doula to give her the heads up. she called back immediately and asked if she should come. (she lives 45 minutes away) we told her not yet, to try and get some more sleep since we knew she was getting over being pretty sick.
1:00 - 5:30a - i couldn't sleep. Cx were just uncomfortable enough to keep me awake, plus i spent most of that time on the birth ball or on my hands and knees doing pelvic rocks since i was worried about the back labor/positioning. i was timing Cx and they were consistantly 4-5 minutes apart.
5:30a - i woke Jen up. they were getting stronger. i felt a lot of pressure on my cervix and was sure i could feel myself dialate. Jen called the Doula, she said she'd be on her way soon... she hadn't slept and was waiting for our call, she was so excited.
7:00a - our doula arrived. we chatted and listened to some music while i sat on my birthing ball. contractions were getting hard while sitting, there was so much pressure on my cervix. i was begining to lose concentration on my conversation when a Cx hit. the doula seemed pleased. she suggested we call the MW.
MW said she'd get in the shower and for the doula to keep her posted (they are friends and have worked together before)
9:30a - MW and MW assistant show up. they check the baby's HB and get to work setting up the birthing tub, etc. MW does an internal check (for the first time this pg). ONLY 3cm! seriously?! she does some stretching. i am 80% effaced.
9:30 - 11:30a - i continue laboring. mostly on my hands and knees or the birthing ball. doula and DP are timing contractions at 3-4 minutes apart. labor is still in my back.
12:00p - MW and asst. decide to make a run to get lunch...
1:00p - while they are gone my Cx get stronger yet... so.much.pressure! i can no longer sit through Cx, i can only sit on the rocking chair and stand during Cx. Doula calls MW and asks if i can get in the pool, she says she thinks i'm getting close.
1:00 - 7p - i labor in pool and out. i walk around the house, do some pelvic rocks, bounce on birthing ball. still, labor is only in my back.
7:00p - MW suggests we do an internal check. i am reluctant but curious. 80% effaced and still only 5cm... WTF?! she says she feels some hair! i get excited and this gives my some incentive. let's meet this baby. but she also says that the baby isn't presenting correctly and that she thinks there's a nuchal hand. she suggests knees to chest. really?! i don't think i can take the pain... but what's my choice?
7:00 - 7:45p - knees to chest on the bed. Cx are farther apart, i'm "falling asleep" between them but they are 5x as intense now.
8:00 -11:00p - i continue to labor in and out of the tub, try lots of different positions and walking throughout the house. towards the end of this time frame i'm in my bed, DP is with me. i tell her to rest, and i try to rest as best i can. i start to shake uncontrollably.
11:00p - MW suggests another internal to see if the knees to chest helped reposition him. still 5cm. i'm crushed... i am seriously tired, it's been almost 24 hours of Cx 3-4 minutes apart with practically no progression. she gets serious and i know what's coming... hospital transfer... the only thing i feared through this whole process. she suggests i get an epi and rest, and hopefully baby will reposition. i'm so tired and completely defeated. i think, "if we are gonna go, then lets go"
Monday, April 4th, 2011
12:00a - we leave for hospital of choice which is 35 minutes away. i slept the whole way there except for the 4-5 REALLY BAD Cx i had in the car. they were awful. DP tried to keep up my spirits by pointing out there was a really neat lightning show ahead of us, no storming, just lightning. i couldn't enjoy it and it's something i would have loved to watch and focus on my baby coming during something so incredible.
12:40 - 2:30a - got to hospital, got into labor and delivery (all of us... DP, doula, MW and assistant), they got all the monitors, catheter, IV, and epi in. i was heartbroken. MWs left to come back to our place and clean up the pool, etc.
3:30a - nurse does internal exam. still 5cm. bummer. they decide to start pitocin.
3:30 - 5:00a - i labor, half asleep... i can hardly feel my Cx (just pressure on my cervix) which is a relief but incredibily weird. i can't feel my legs at all, and can get comfortable because of it. i decide that I HATE THE EPIDURAL. when they came in around 4a to check up on me after the pitocin was started they told me that they needed to put me on oxygen because the baby's heart rate was dropping after Cx. they put a mask over my entire face and i couldn't handle it, i'm clausterphobic. i asked for nasal oxygen and they reluctantly agreed. at this point i have constant and violent tremors. i was scared.
5:00a - my doc comes in and checks me one last time. 5 cm. she says we need to get this baby out. C-Section. i cried. DP called our moms ask them to get to the hospital.
i was in surgery by 6:00a. what a weird feeling, a c-sect. but i was getting through it knowing our baby was going to be here soon. Silas was born at 6:55a, DP watched as they pulled him from my body and anounced that we had a son. he was rushed to the table to be cleaned off and suctioned because of the mec staining. DP was with him the entire time. DP brought him to me and held him to my face while they sewed me back up. our doc took pics of us as a new family. all sewn up by 8am, DP was able to carry our son next to me as they wheeled me to recovery.
i didn't take long to come to terms with the birthing time that brought us our son... he arrived safe and sound, it was his perfect birth.
Such great pics, Library. I love the Capote shot. Ugh, I’m so sorry to hear about the eating difficulty. It sounds like you are doing everything you can, and I wish you all the best. I may have been a couple of years older than Alice, but my Irish g-ma swore by the traditional medicinals. A teaspoon of whiskey and the rest hot sugar-water served in a kid-sized shot glass.
Imogen: Thinking of you and wondering how it all went! I hope you have a beautiful new being in your arms now.
EZ: Heartbeats are wonderful sounds. Each time I read an update from you, I’m so glad to know that this is resolving itself more and more.
Escher: Heartbeats for you too! So glad to hear it. For me, I feel sure and incredible about the pregnancy most days, especially after a midwife visit, and then a little doubt will creep for a day or so. But, each time this happens week by week, it’s a little less strong and I’m more quickly able to get trust for myself and the LO's development back to the forefront.
What a seriously frustrating, and crazy decision from your department, Amanda. Don’t you just love it when institutions make totally nonsensical decisions? I was staffed to a project at work for which the report publication date is my due date. For a bunch of reasons, this doesn’t work, but they’ll figure it out. Are you able to relieve some of the worry about your fall class that way… knowing that your department will have to figure it out themselves?
Seref: The first trimester really is like a long 2WW. If only I’d thought of it that way in the middle of it. Side stitch is gone… I had a few fleeting thoughts about it because that was the first indication of my MC last fall. But, I tried to remember that it’s just the doubting mind and I didn’t have to give in to it. New heartbeat next Monday. Kids and power tools, wowza. It makes me nervous to see DW use a table saw. I love reading about your parenting philosophy… makes me want to start out relaxed, and instill that kind of bravery and confidence in my kids.
Cejae: Hope the BP continues to stay down.
AFM: I’m not really an affirmations sort of person, but in one of my books has some good thoughts to keep in mind listed: “I know just how to nourish my growing baby.” “We’re both strong and healthy.” Kind of dorky, I know. But, sometimes thinking this stuff cues me into the fact that I can hold these thoughts as easily as the others, so why not choose them instead.
Ummmmmmmmmm, Wehrli, what a story. Thank you for sharing it. Your bravery and acceptance of what your body needed to do is inspiring. (Again from this board, crying at desk... but now I'm showing so maybe my co-workers won't think I'm nuts anymore.) Rationally, I understand that any birth can go differently than expected, and I hope to be prepared and accepting if that happens. . . and, as you said, to "come to terms" with whatever path my daughter takes here. Also, incredible that in the midst of that huge experience you were still able to recall the general time frames. Congratulations and blessings for your beautiful family.
P.S. Can I ask you one question? How did your DP handle the uncertain points? My DW still feels a little traumatized from my MC (resulted in a big drop in blood pressure, me unconcious, hitting my head on the desk and floor, and an ambulence trip... so she's a little worried about the home birth plan and any possible complications).
Edited by julietea8 - 5/5/11 at 12:08pm
Hey all~ NAK now (since all I ever do anymore is hold her while she's sleeping or let her drink from my aching nipples) Thanks for all the advice and encouragement. We have looked into the lact-aid are currently using a bargain basement equivalent from the hospital as well as the occasional bottle. I have talked to an lc who said what you're saying: try a lact-aid, do breast compression when she seems to be nodding off, etc. I haven't tried the breast crawl thing but it does sound like a good idea. ANYTHING to wear her out! Last night was kinda miserable-- she never really settled until I gave up and moved to the rocking chair to just hold her. And today's dp's long day at work so I'm here alone for the next 8 hours and feeling a bit tremulous about it. I'll check out the breastfeeding board too, I didn't think of that. Alice weighed 8 lb 5 oz at birth and is now 8 lb 7 oz at almost a month, so she is gaining but slowly. I'm committed to this bf idea bt it feels impossible sometimes. Mostly when I'm exhausted, like today.
Seraf~ Thank you for the laughs about the rules for children using circular saws!
Escher~ So happy you're feeling more secure with your li'l bean.
Off now to see the QC discussion. One handed typing is hard
Thanks again, all of you xxxxxxxxx
Wehrli: What a story! I'm so glad that Silas is here.
Library: I'm sorry you're feeling so tired. I hope that Alice makes things a bit easier for you soon!
Julietea: Like you, I'm often not an affirmations person, but sometimes in the past few months Belleruth Naparstek's pregnancy affirmations cd has been surprisingly helpful. Whatever works, I think!
Seraf: I totally agree that hearing from pregnant people when you're TTC can be incredibly encouraging (the process DOES sometimes actually work! ), and I didn't mean to come off as judging what anyone else posts. I just wanted to support Krista, since I know that when I was in a I-hate-pregnant-people phase I felt guilty for feeling that way. It's interesting that your fundus is more where I was imagining mine was. Bodies are funny.
AFM: Since we've decided that we're having a baby, we're now telling more people outside our family. It's fun.
thanks for sharing your birthing story wehrli. i was very close myself to having a c-section so some of what you described was familiar. many hugs coming your way. :)
library - i have to say that breastfeeding ds1 was the hardest thing i have ever accomplished. alice sounds a lot like him. i did supplement a very little in the beginning but when my milk did come in (and it took several days to do so), i got into a regime of nursing and then pumping while he napped. i felt trapped by the pump but i knew that it would help my body produce more. tricks i used to make ds1 keep nursing - tickle his ear, stroke his cheek, use a wet washcloth on his forehead. eventually he did improve and became a nursing champ - so much that he nursed until he was 15 months old!! but those first couple of months were very hard. hang in there mama!!
dp had another interesting issue - her oversupply made ds2 lazy - the milk basically just poured into his mouth from her nipple - so when he actually had to work to get more he was too lazy to suckle! so dp had to resort to the pump also. he nursed until around 12 months.
Wherli - You're such a trooper. That was an incredibly long labour you endured. I cannot begin to fathom how exhausting that must have been. Thanks for sharing your story.
LibraryLady - As someone with breastfeeding issues - albeit, totally different from yours - I can totally commiserate. I don't know if this is helpful or not, but in the beginning when we couldn't get Addison to latch on, she would also easily fall asleep at the breast. According to our lactation consultant, it was this issue. When babies are not getting enough to eat they get tired/sleepy so they can conserve energy. Because they're so focused on conserving energy, they're not really investing in acquiring new energy (aka MILK!!!) and hence the slow growth pattern. The trick, I guess, is to break that cycle. Once we were able to get some nutrition into her, she would stay awake for longer periods of time, and we haven't had any falling asleep at the breast since the early days (my little milk pig gained 3lbs in the past 4 weeks, after nada for the first 2!!!). All of the other tips people have provided are fantastic for helping to keep her awake. Perhaps if you can supplement Alice, however you choose, she'll get enough food and become a voracious eater instead of a nipple nibbler!
Cejae - So glad to hear you're avoiding the pre-e or e! Good luck with the best rest. I can't imagine that's all that exciting and your butt must be sore. I did finish Emma Donoghue's Room last week and just loved it.
KellySF - Welcome!!! I'm sending happy and healthy pregnancy vibes your way.
Escher - So glad you finally got your overdue MW appt. Also, it's a big and glorious step to move from the IF to the WHEN. You're having a baby!!! How exciting is that!!!
Seraf - A tarantula!!! In your house!!! Can you tell I'm not a spider fan? Heck, I just said no to an ant farm my 13 year old wanted to build for a science project in an old fish bowl.