Wehrli, Thats quite a labor! I'm glad you both pulled through safely. I also had back labor with my first, how crappy (yeah, 10 hours in transition! He came out with a dent in his forehead from where it was pushing into my bones. And a perfectly round head, little twerp.)
Julia, while I am not so much an affirmation person, I think they're awesome for changing the way a person thinks. Much like positive discipline, it brings the focus to the desired outcome (ahh, the things I learned from a very verbal toddler). Like thinking "don't fall down" brings your focus to the ground and thinking "walk tall and straight" brings your focus upward, where you need it to be. Also, the thing about DPs and labor, every one is different. My ex was right there with me, very focused with my first birth. Second time, she was at work and came home to me pushing. Yeah, she was a lot more stressed that time. She totally caught the baby and everything before she realized she was feeling panicky. With your history, I could see being anxious. It might help to have there be another responsible adult in the house, so she is comforted by not having to be in charge of everything. Oh, and the table saw makes me nervous too, ever since I took a chunk out of my finger.... Again, I'm going to recommend the continuum concept. It's about a tribe in south america and talks about their child rearing practices. Their kids play right by rushing rivers and they're given bows and arrows when they're 1 or 2. I feel like I'm really pretty uptight.
Escher, I wasn't feeling judged. I never had that phase of TTC. I did show the kids where my fundus was this morning. They were all kinds of impressed with petting the baby however indirectly.
Gumshoe, I'm not in love with the exotics. We tried to talk him into a lizard instead. We have been doing lots of reading online about not handling them and how they display that they feel threatened and whatnot. The one we have, if we get bitten, they say it's comparable to a bee sting. I've told them they're not allowed to do anything but look until she calms down anyway. She is a might stressed about the last 24 hours and hasn't moved more than one leg at a time.
Not a whole lot going on over here. There is a pregnancy and birth fair tomorrow and I'm going to go see if I can find a midwife I like. I have gotten a couple of names and plan to make lots of phone calls in the next week. Haha, that's right, I haven't heard the heartbeat yet. No outside verification of pregnancy since I got 2 lines on a stick way back at the beginning of March (oh, 2 months ago today!).
I put some stuff in the mail for 2 Amandas. Watch your box, you'll know it's from me.
Edited by seraf - 5/6/11 at 6:08am