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Beautiful nurseries, Library and AmandaHope! modifiedartist.gifI love the colors in both, and the special touches like the shadow box and the fabric with the circles that carries through the room. Really good jobs! Love the belly pic too. As someone said, you do look so happy!

 

Wehrli... thinking of you and hoping your are resting full of joy and peace with your new little one. flower.gif

post #42 of 756
Silas Scott born @ 6:55am Monday 4/4/2011 via emergency c-section after 36 hours of labor. Pics, vid and detailed story to come. It's time rest now.
post #43 of 756

Congratulations Wehrli on the arrival of Silas.  Rest well and enjoy your wee one.  I look forward to hearing your birth story when you have time to jot it down.  Heck, I've been working on mine on and off over the past few days!

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Congratulations, Wehrli!!! Hooray for a healthy mom and a healthy baby after all is said and done. Many healing and celebratory wishes to your whole family.

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Wehrli~ SO HAPPY!  Sending you best thoughts and restful wishes. Can't wait for the updates when you are able xooxoxoxoxx

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Wehrli: 36 hours and then an emergency C--you must be going through quite a recovery!  Holy crap.  I'm so happy that you and Silas (beautiful name!) are doing well, and I hope you get some good rest, recovery, and support as you go through this huge transition.  Healing vibes coming your way. goodvibes.gif

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Wehrli-
Awww, Silas is such a sweet name. Congrats. Hope you have speedy recovery. 

 

post #48 of 756

Congrats Wehrli- Cute name, can'twait to see pics.

 

Amandahope: Love the picture! Your Ibelly is about as big as mine, I am a belly comparer for sure:)

 

Sex question, hope it is not TMI.  Ok so when I was pregnant with Lennon I never had sex. (no, not even once) so I have nothing to compare to. But when Chels and I are getting it on.... it really hurts. My uterus feels like it is cramping, not so much like a period cramp but like a severe muscle cramp. And when there is penetration, it feels like she is scraping my insides. (sorry)  It is getting worse every time and I am starting to just not want it at all. (not that I have been a sex fiend at all in this pregnancy) So my question is: WTF, anyone else feel the same way? What do you do? I know uterine cramping is normal with orgasm, but it isn't just when I have an orgasm but the entire time we swap uglies.

Oh and I am the most unhealthy pregnant woman ever. My lunch today has consisted of sunchips and brownies. It has been delightful

post #49 of 756
Wehrli: Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! Silas is a beautiful name, and I can't wait to see pictures. I hope that you heal quickly, and that you're able to get lots of good snuggle time with Silas. Hooray! Yippee! He's here! joy.gif
post #50 of 756

Congratulations to you and your family, wehrli!! Can't wait to see pictures.

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Sex question, hope it is not TMI.  Ok so when I was pregnant with Lennon I never had sex. (no, not even once) so I have nothing to compare to. But when Chels and I are getting it on.... it really hurts. My uterus feels like it is cramping, not so much like a period cramp but like a severe muscle cramp. And when there is penetration, it feels like she is scraping my insides. (sorry)  It is getting worse every time and I am starting to just not want it at all. (not that I have been a sex fiend at all in this pregnancy) So my question is: WTF, anyone else feel the same way? What do you do? I know uterine cramping is normal with orgasm, but it isn't just when I have an orgasm but the entire time we swap uglies.

Oh and I am the most unhealthy pregnant woman ever. My lunch today has consisted of sunchips and brownies. It has been delightful

Sorry to hear that sex isn't enjoyable for you right now.  That's no fun. I can't say that I share this issue (not enough is more my problem--I'm more interested than ever right now; my issue is that I have less interest than usual in...um...reciprocating...because of the physical awkwardness of the belly being in the way, etc., so I feel kinda selfish...though DP doesn't seem to mind), but I have a few thoughts about work-arounds.

 

I'd say that it sounds like you should avoid penetration entirely (or use lots of lube to avoid friction, pinching, etc.) unless you find you want it, and focus on less intense, more gentle action.  Are you in a comfortable position (ie, not on your back but reclining in a comfy chair, perhaps)?  Feeling comfy and relaxed might help--try using lots of pillows for support where you need it so that you don't have to use your abdominal muscles much.  I'd also really emphasize the "foreplay" to make sure you are as relaxed, turned on, and ready as possible before getting more serious, if kwim.  I don't know if this will help much, but I hope you find something that works for both of you. 

 

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MizYellow~ I've been reluctant as well because the uterine cramping has made me nervous, but mine wasn't anywhere near what you're reporting, happening only, well, afterwards.  Maybe you should ask a professional? I really can't think of a more awkward discussion with my midwife, but maybe you could email about it?  Better safe than sorry. 

 

AHope~ I also know the belly-in-the-way problem!  We've enjoyed finding creative solutions...

 

 

Wehrli~ Still thinking of you with much healing love xoxoxox

 

 

AFM~ I'm bored, but the house has never been cleaner.  I do hate the kitchen, though....

post #53 of 756

Welcome to the world, Silas Scott! 

 

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So glad that you are here!

You're joining a very cool family! 

 

Werhli ... Happy babymoon, mama!  Have a wonderful time getting to know your little guy, and don't feel obliged to fill us in or post before you're well rested and well fed and well into your recovery.  We can wait!  Feel free to take this time to snuggle up that yummy little bundle and gently demand that all your friends and family either keep their distance and leave delicious, hot meals on your doorstep or invite them in to deliver those delicious hot meals right to you at your bedside if you're feeling up to the love!

 

And here are some healing vibes coming at you all the way from Vancouver, BC ... dust.gif

 

 

post #54 of 756

Love the nurseries!  Love them.  We did a nursery for dd, but she never spent any time in it, so this time we're not bothering.  DD still has a room, and it's cute, but really only my mother uses it when she stays over on days that she looks after dd. 

 

And sorry that I missed your original post about the screening, Julie.  Thank you for indulging my curiosity.  How awe-some and amazing to know so early!  Will you pick a name for her before you meet her? 

 

Mizyellow ...

I love pregnant sex.  Can't get enough.  It's never been uncomfortable for me, but we've had to get pretty creative.  And yes, lube, lube, lube!

The only other thing I'd mention is that you might want to switch up positions and toys, if you're using any.  I'll put the rest in a spoiler so that those who get easily squeeged out can opt not to read the details.

Way, way too much sex-related TMI ... be warned! (Click to show)

 

 

If you're using dildos maybe a shorter, wider one?  If you're using hands or fists, perhaps try a different position?  Way TMI, but I didn't enjoy any hand or finger action last time I was pregnant.  Too unpredictable and difficult for me to control the depth and intensity.  Whereas with a strap-on -- especially if you're on top -- you can control the depth and such.  We did a lot of experimenting, and found that using a pillow under my butt raised my pelvis enough so that less penetration was necessary in order to *achieve* the objective, so to speak. 
We also had a lot of sex with me on all fours, again, supported with pillows.  We got a longer dildo for this position.  I do think it's funny that the only new dildo we've bought in the last few years was when I was seven months pregnant!

 

 

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Starling: You rock. Have you considered a second career as a lesbian sex therapist?  Do you want a paid visit to Chicago so you can give my DP new and inspiring ideas?

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Starling~ Whew!!  Now I need DP to hurry home from class...

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Starling~ Whew!!  Now I need DP to hurry home from class...



No kidding--and I'm 2000 miles away from my DP! 

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I guess I'll save Starling's post for after work. . . smile.gif
 

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No kidding--and I'm 2000 miles away from my DP! 



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Starling~ Whew!!  Now I need DP to hurry home from class...



 

post #59 of 756

Wehrli - Congrats!!! He's here, yippee!  birthday.gif Silas! Soooooooo excited for you gals. And love, love, LOVE the name. Can't wait to hear all the details. Rest well.

 

Starling - Whew! I am mad at DP, but after reading that, I think I may forget all about being mad at her. You should write a weekly sex blog. I'll even pay to read it!

 

AFM - First u/s today...1 lil bean! RE said she was VERY pleased with the size and its surrounding. S/he implanted itself high in the uterus, so she's thrilled with that as well. I am only 5 weeks, 3days, so there wasn't a heartbeat just yet, but getting to see this was well worth the 3 hour drive to/from Nashville...even in tornadoes! (I saw 1 tornado form today. Crazy.) Sorry for the bad ultrasound pict quality.

 

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EZ: YAY!  Congrats on the great first u/s!  Just a few more weeks, and you'll hear the most amazing sound ever.  I'm so happy for you. 

 

I just had the most amazing smoothie that my friend (wife of the guy we had hoped to be our KD, alas) made, with kale, sweet potatoes, bananas, apple juice, flaxseed oil, cacao, coconut, pumpkin seeds, and almond butter.  It sounds horrific but was SO GOOD.  She's a nutrition junkie, so I bet I just had more good pregnancy food than I have in weeks. 

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