EZ~ SO HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!! Sounds like everything is going perfectly, and the li'l bean's right in the perfect place. Def. worth driving through the tornadoes. I'm glad all is going very well xoxo
Hi escher ... I do a load of cloth diapers every couple of days, and it's a long, hot load with an initial extra cold soak first. Takes ages.
Does that make it more pricey for you?
Are your machine top- or front loaders? If you have top loaders, those are actually much better at washing cloth dipes.
I think I'd still do it, but I have in-suite laundry, so not sure. Maybe do a fuzzi bunz type dipe that you could
easily hang to dry at home, thus chopping your laundry travels and cost? We have the dipes, so it's hard to imagine switching to sposies now. Whatever you do, buy off CL and save a crapload of money ... no pun intended!
For all you who read or chimed in on my TMI sex response, if we ever meet in person you are NOT to tell DP that I disclosed all of that! Pinky swear! She'd melt into a big butch puddle of embarassment.
Starling: Thanks for your advice, I was reading it to Chels and she was like"yeah lets try all of that" gutter brained girl, she is so not getting it enough right now. We have a couple different varieties of strap ons but I haven't been wanting to use them. I have needed the ultimate gentle touch to even get in the mood. My vagina is like a stray cat right now. hahahahahah that mental image is cracking me up.
I wish I wanted to F#@$@ her brains out more because when I am exclusively nursing I never want it, don't want to be touched, get the F$#@#$ away from me before I cut off your fingers thank you very much. :)
Thank god she loves me a lot.
Escher: I CD'd part time with Lennon, I got like 5 gdiapers and used the cloth inserts. I handwashed them in the sink, I only used them around the house. It ended up saving me a little money and his butt looked sooooo cute. I will probably do the same this time. I took the g's and inserts to the laundry mat with me when I took all the clothes (every 2 weeks). I never had smells or problems. this time I have a washing machine so It will be easier. But really, handwashing wasn't that bad, I just soaked it all day and washed before bed. Also I got the NT scan, because I wanted to see my squishy baby. Really that is the only reason. I wouldn't have terminated or gotten a amnio had something come back but I like being prepared and seeing my little man do flips was sooooo worth it to me. I have a lot of ultrasounds in my pregnancies because of the diabetes and Lennon came out amazing (unless ultrasounds cause dairy allergies ;) so i think you should just go with your gut.
AFM: I cant stop eating. I am going to gain 50 lbs in this pregnancy on my tiny frame and keel over. I think I have replaced sex with food. I wake up hungry, I go to bed hungry. I want mexican, doritos, espresso icecream, brownies and diet coke. Notice not ONE healthy thing on my list? This baby is going to come out with a taco in his hand.
I have an ultrasound tomorrow- it is my fetal echocardiogram, check on the little man's heart. I am sure everything is fine, he is totally breech and although I am def still fine, he has not moved from the position since 16 weeks. I am starting to panic (in true Raegan form) how do I make this kiddo turn around?
Hope all is well in babyville...
Escher, we do cloth diapers and we don't have laundry in our apartment. It's definitely pricey and adds up in time. We have the ability to use H's bosses laundry during the day, but it's not always convenient to wash between 10-4 during the week. A big factor that makes it difficult for us is that we have extremely hard water and the diapers need to wash and wash and wash.. Right now the diapers have been in since 10:45, it's 4:30 and they're not even ready to dry yet. They go in to rinse and soak while we're out, then they rinse and rinse and rinse. We try to do diapers on Mondays and Thursdays, but if we don't make it then for some reason we'll do them downstairs in the coin laundry. It's not fun to run down, put them in, run down when the first load stops, start them again, run down start them again, run down, put them in the dryer... there's no ability to really let them soak in the laundry room. In addition, it costs $2.25 for each load.. so that's at least $7, if not 9 to wash, then it's another $2.50 to dry. Also, the driers are REALLY hot, even on low heat, which isn't the best for the longevity of the diapers.
All that being said, we feel it's important to put all that effort in and use cloth diapers. E has never had a diaper rash, her tushie is always dry because the air flow is so much better, and we're not putting bleach and harsh chemicals against her most sensitive parts. (I will confess, when we travel, we use chemical free disposables!)
If you get into a pattern and know what to expect with timing for doing the diapers it should be doable... just not all that easy.
Hey ladies~ Lazy day for me and Aspidistra. She even freaked me out a bit to where I had some juice and did a kick count, but apparently she's fine, just resting. DP says it's because she's about to come any minute now, which I guess could be true. I've been having more Braxton Hicks (or however you spell it) lately, though still not a lot. No sign of bloody show nor anything like that, so my feeling is that birth is not imminent, though I could be wrong. I've had more Thai curry and we've enjoyed some...um... other recently discussed extracurricular activities to see if we can get this party started, but I'm still just here lying on the couch... We did meet with a pediatrician today and honestly if we could have created the perfect doctor this would be it. A very smart, practical woman who addressed all our concerns and questions even before we could ask them. Feeling very confident in that area now, which is wonderful.
Escher~ Big hugs for your tough decisions. I know just how you feel, for sure. We had a lot of hard thinking and heart to heart talks before we decided to do the NT scan. We decided that if the baby were Downs, it would be best to have as much time as possible to educate ourselves and locate resources before the actual arrival, and that if one of the Trisomy (or other non-survivable) problems were present that we would terminate, so a combination of thinking of ourselves and thinking of the child. It's hard to even contemplate, but we found it worth our time. GOOD LUCK! As for the diapers, we're cloth diapering but I can't imagine doing it if you had to pay in a laundromat. It'd just about take away the savings!!
Starling~ I promise to keep mum and not embarrass your sweetie, but do appreciate the TMI (as does my sweetie~ woohoo!) Are you feeling any better at all?
MizYellow~ I hear you about the eating! Since I'm home I'm trying not to just gorge myself all day, and to be active. It ain't easy! Even reading your post made me think 'Espresso ice cream! I totally need some of that!!!' Good luck with your echo/ultrasound, and good luck with the breech problem! DP sent me a bunch of videos about rebozoing, but I think she just liked saying the word 'rebozo'.
AFM~ Not much beyond what I said. Keeping busy reading, writing, tidying. I finally have a long term sub in my library at school and she called today asking where we keep the list of what books go with teaching what concepts. Um, in my head, lady. That's what the job's all about. I don't wish ill on my fellow staff members, but I hope they mention to the Mean Girl just how much they miss me!
Is 5 in the evening too late to have a nap?
Starling - If we were to ever meet, I'm soooooo gonna be looking at your DP and you with a whole new thought process. Hehe!
Miz - Oh YES! My little is also coming out with a taco in it's hand. I cannot get enough Mexican, spicy food, or hot sauce. I am pretty sure I put Taco Bell out of business last week because of all the sauce packets I used. Whew! I am really trying to watch what I eat now. I am only 6 weeks and have gained 10 lbs since I started my last cycle, Feb 24. I've been on progesterone (400mg daily, plus Cronin daily.) For whatever reason, the progesterone makes me eat, eat, eat. I can't stop. At this rate, I'll gain 90 lbs.
Library - Remember, April 8. You have 3 more days. And when she arrives, it will be fine for you to name her after me - Christina Michelle. I volunteer. I am curious to see what this mean girl looks like. I have her in my head with bad hair, big ass, and terrible at dressing. Am I close?
Escher - So funny you mentioned diapers. I just posed the same questions to DP the other day.
Wow!! I've missed so much excitement over the past few days. Sex, cloth diapers and more! I'm going to need to rig something to free up a hand while pumping. Right now I can read along by pressing the bottle on the scroll down key, but I can't comment or click to the next page, as I get to milk myself like a like a moo cow every three hours.
AmandaHope - I love the belly shot and the nursery photos. The fabric you've chosen is fabulous. I love the bright, primary, modern colours. That smoothie you just had sounds soooo good.
LibraryLady - Great nursery too! That's a pretty kickin' mobile and I really like the cracker barrel blanket holder. I'm glad you're enjoying your time being a lady of leisure and waiting for your baby to arrive. See, you're missed already at school! Feels good, huh?
2ez - That's one good looking baby you have growing in there! Totally worth driving through tornadoes. Um, do people really do that? What does one do when they see a tornado form? You were in your car? Forgive my ignorance, but I live in an area of North America where we're pretty much blissfully free of environmental hazards.
Escher - The question you pose on what's best for us versus protecting and nurturing this baby is a difficult one. As an adoptive parent, we had to define a "range of acceptance" of what we could, and couldn't handle, as parents. For example, we were okay with an HIV+ child, but we didn't want to take on a child with fetal alcohol syndrome. The questions that the prenatal screening ask you and your partner to face are similar to these. Do you think you could parent a child with Downs? Right now, you don't have to. This is the choice. Some of the abilities your child has, you can choose at this point in time. Others you won't be able to choose once the baby arrives and you'll just have to figure out how to deal with it. Think about all that raising a child entails, and then add on the needs by any given disability. If you have to handle it, I'm sure you will. The question really is, if you had the choice, would you choose to handle it?
Mizyellow - Turn baby turn! There's still plenty of time, but you may want to check out spinningbabies.com. And, the image of the baby coming out with a taco in hand is quite funny. That would be one very messy and yucky taco.
AFM - I went for my ultrasound yesterday and I'm pretty sure I don't have appendicitis. They let me leave, and didn't call today, so I'm sure that the scans turned up nothing urgent. The tech, who was francophone, did spend a lot of time looking at one part of my bowel and then called in this other tech for an opinion. They had a long conversation in french that was sufficiently riddled with medical terminology and out of my vocab range, so I really don't know what the issue was. Meh. I'm sure it will sort itself out. I'm feeling pretty darn good on that front.
The breastfeeding front is a whole other barrel of fun. I'm now just solely pumping and slowing building up my supply. Little miss Addison gets a bottle of breast milk, followed by a bottle of formula, her diaper gets changed, and then I go pump. This means each feeding is taking about 1 hour and they come every 3 hours. I'm living my life in 2 hour chunks which is quite tiring. DW is taking on some of the feedings, and now that MIL is here, she's helping out as well. I don't know how we're going to cope once everyone goes home!
Our goal is to get Addi back on the boob as soon as possible. Her issue now is breast aversion/non-latching. She got so frustrated with the early onset of mastitis that she started to scream every time she went near the breast. Now we can get her to the breast, and we can get her to latch, but she expects an immediate milk reward. If she doesn't get milk in the first couple of sucks, she screams bloody murder. I'm thankful my MIL is a nurse (who happened to work in public health to support breastfeeding) so we've devised a feeding plan to coax the baby back. Keep your fingers crossed for me!
Oh, and because there hasn't been enough cuteness on the board today as I know we're all awaiting Wehrli's photos, here's a sneak preview of Addison's newborn photoshoot.
Gumshoe, I hope you're reaading this, your situation made me cry. Not sure what your MIL has planned, but things I would try in your situation.
1. Hard as it sounds, bump nursing sessions up to every 2 hours during the day. Neither of my kids could make it 3 hours.
2. Use the pump to prime the breast. Pump to let-down, drop the pump and toss the baby on that side. Keep pumping the other side. She should get immediate gratification and the pumping the other side will help sustain milk flow.
3. Give her an ounce from the bottle before trying the boob. It will take the edge off her hunger, and increasing the frequency of nursing will also help with that. She won't have to be so desperate and can relax into it.
4. If all else fails, try an SNS (supplimental nursing system) or Lact-Aid. It's basically a bottle with a tube instead of a nipple. It gets taped onto your nip and baby gets immediate gratification. You can even move it higher or squeeze to make milk flow faster. Hospital lactation consultants have them. Call first to check, tho.
When feeding and pumping can happen at the same time, the fact that you're still living in 2 hour chunks won't be any worse than the cycle you're in now. Then you can lengthen your cycles when babe and boobs are ready.
Haven't time for a long post but just wanted to say HELLO!! to Wehrli, so glad to hear from you! and can't wait for pix and details
and HELLO to Gumshoe and to say that your li'l baby is adorably precious.
I'm glad you're both well and your babies and partners too.
More tomorrow xoxoxoxoxox
Love to all xoxo
Gumshoe: First of all, those pics are excruciatingly sweet. Second, UGH and more UGH on the nursing. I think that Seraf's ideas sound really promising, and I hope that you find a way to get Addie on the breast asap. SNS sounds like a good option, if need be. Third, really glad your appendix seems ok. You seem to have a surprisingly positive attitude given all you are going through--hang in there!
Wehrli: So happy to hear from you! YAY for a supportive and respectful hospital staff and for a wonderful DP. And *fantastic* that Silas is nursing well--what a relief after all you've been through!
Library: Come on, baby girl! Your turn, little one!
Escher: Ah, diapers. I've been thinking alot about this and doing research, including at a natural baby store here in SF this week. Even though we have a washer, the woman who owns the store said that all cloth diapers need to be washed twice and then dried, sunned, etc. I'll probably get 5 or so (probably all-in-ones) for days when we're home all day and up for a few extra loads of wash, but DP does most of the laundry and is REALLY averse to what she sees as creating extra work for ourselves (ie, her). So we'll probably use the non-chemical sposies much of the time. I did use cloth for DP, but we had a diaper service. I don't want to do that again because of the harsh chemicals they use to clean the diapers. Sigh.
EZ: Still so thrilled about your u/s!
I got a really nice nursing bra at the fancy natural place. Here's the catch: she measured me and said I am a cup size F!!! F!!! I was a C-D before I got preggo. What the hell will I be when my milk comes in? How am I going to stand upright?! On the upside, my presentation in Sonoma today went really well. I love my job. I also can't believe how beautiful it is here and that I ever left. What was I thinking? Oh--that's right--the job (that I love). I just wish it were located somewhere else--like here.
Gumshoe, those pictures are so beautiful! I got kind of teary eyed.
AmandaHope - I've gone from an A to a D. I never thought I'd see the day. DP is enjoying it, though. Actually, so am I. I've never felt curvy or this.. female shaped, before.
Wehrli, congratulations, again. I hope you have a speedy recovery and a blissful babymoon. Glad to hear Silas is such a nursing pro.
Escher - We chose not to cloth diaper because we have communal coin laundry in our building, and washing poopy diapers without the consent of all our neighbours seems unneighbourly to me. I wouldn't really care if I found out that someone in the building was CDing and using communal laundry facilities, but I can see how it could wig some people out and I want to respect that. Our building is big enough that I can't go around and get everyone's permission, either.
Starling - do you need extra Fuzzibunz? I have a shi*ton (no pun intended) of hand me downs that we're not using.
AFM: I had a bizarre dream last night that I was in Texas for a mothering.com convention (?) and I met up with most of you, and you decided I was too visibly queer for Texas and endangering us all, and tried to give me a makeover to look straighter, which involved blue eye shadow, cutting my hair, and giving me spit curls. And DP (who is not a vegetarian) had a meltdown because he could not find vegetarian food in Texas. I have no idea where that came from.
Midwife appt tomorrow. I have three midwives, and tomorrow I get to see the one I refer to as "the hot one". At one of my first appointments I asked this midwife what would happen to the material a hospital might deem "biomedical waste", at a homebirth, and she told me that I might stain some sheets, but it wouldn't be the Texas Chainsaw Massacre. Which kind of won me over.
Gumshoe, I forgot to mention that sometimes it's easier to nurse a sleeping baby than a wake baby with 'tude. Just tickle her lip. She won't get the psychological benefit from knowing boob=milk, but it will be easier for you body. I could hardly make milk for the pump, your body will straighten things out.
Escher, flats+EC=perfection. Long reply tomorrow (oh, except I NEVER washed my dipes twice because flats wash way way easier and, duh, poop goes in the toilet)
Just sneaking in here to comment about dipes (a topic about which I'm not just a little obsessed):
I actually installed a diaper sprayer last night. It was EASY. The woman at the cloth diaper store near me said, "Anyone can install it, even if you're someone who breaks everything, like my husband." That cracked me up and gave me confidence. And wow is the sprayer cool (we clearly get totally different "kicks" as parents, I think).
With DS, we did diapers in shared laundry and could only choose the temperature of the water. I used fuzzi bunz then, and they'd get occasional build up and need stripping (more on that if you want), but mostly it worked quite well with only one wash (which included the FBs and the prefolds we used to stuff them). We now use fitteds and have our own frontloader. We do double wash, but in part I think that's because of the frontloader. Toploaders, which you can load up with water, are the best for diapers, so you could theoretically get away with just one wash. I don't think it HAS to be super complex, particularly if you spray off poop ahead of time.
Good luck figuring it all out...one thing I would say is to not settle fully on one "diapering system" before your babe arrives, because different things, different fibers, etc, work better for different babies and parents.