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post #101 of 261

u/s looked good today.  Baby measures in at 7#.  There is a cyst either on the cord up by the face or on the placenta.  The perinatologist didn't think it was an issue and if it on one of those then I won't need a follow up u/s.  Baby is so low they couldn't do a 3-D pic.  That's OK.  Only a few more weeks until we can meet this little one.

 

Last night I had contractions all throughout the musical we were attending.  Then they stopped for a bit and started up again from 2-4am.  Nothing else today.  That's good because my parents are suppose to watch the kids and my dad was diagnosed with influenza A today.  So this baby needs to stay put for a week so that he can get better.

post #102 of 261

my mom was at my last 2 births and my first birth. my first birth she dropped my leg as I was pushing to have a conversation with the nurse. The third one became dangerous and she lost it! and if I snapped at her or anyone or wasnt syrupy sweet she would repremand me!and this last time she just kept saying "my poor annie, poor thing" while she may be more inclined towards doing things "natural" its very frustrating to try to be empowered and be treated like a dying animal.we arent close, and I dont particularly like her. there is a lot of crazy back baggage I wont get into but we just dont have a great relationship. she thinks Im a terrible mother most days, so yay I disnt invite her this time. in fact it will be just me and hubby. which is a first. my mom just doesnt have any boundries, it makes me nuts.

 

So its not the same since I dont know that I would allow my mother around the baby alone if I were you. I cant imagine.But i can kind of sympathize 
 

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My mom is driving me craaaaaazy. She really wants to be in the room when the baby is born. I've made it clear that it will be just me, DH and my Dr. (btw, MW attended home-births are illegal in my state and we have no birthing centers and few midwives. I love my Dr....she is low-intervention and has two small children of her own. I feel super relaxed around her).

 

My mom says, "well your father was with me when I gave birth to all of you kids and he was pretty much useless! You are going to be scared and need your mother!" Um, my dad (a very traditional, small town midwestern, military macho man) is wayyyyy different than my husband (who has been reading his natural childbirth books, helps me with my stretches and breathing practice and brews my RRL tea each evening).

 

My mom keeps reminding me that she was with my younger sister when she gave birth to her oldest. She's extremely close to my younger sister. I don't have as close of a relationship with my mom...we get along on a surface level, but tend to disagree about everything. My mom is very hyper and when she's nervous, she becomes very shrill and fakey, talking in a sing-songy voice. In the past, her behavior has caused my blood pressure and anxiety levels to rise. NOT at all what I want to happen as I am in labor!

 

The other big thing is that my mom has very mainstream beliefs about childbirth, babies and parenting. She did not breastfeed any of us 3 kids. She insists that "formula and pablum" worked just fine with her babies and that we all grew up to be healthy and strong (which is not true...we were all constantly sick with serious allergies, and my sister has many health problems). I remember hearing my mom make snide comments about other women in our community who breastfed (ie. that it was gross and perverted). My mom also came a social group/culture that thought breastfeeding was for "poor foreign women." So basically, my mom is not the person I want around me when I am trying to figure out breastfeeding for the first time.

 

Add to that my mom's ideas about "crying it out" and "manipulative infants" make me want to keep her at an arm's length during the birth and first weeks of my child's life.

I watched as my younger sister followed mom's parenting advice to a T... and the resulting lack of a bond that she has with her kids and some of the behavior and health issues she's been dealing with.

 

Anyway. I'm 39W5D and quickly losing my patience with my mom. I was pretty snappy with her on the phone today and explained that "it is my birth and I make the rules."

I'm pretty worried that she may just show up at the hospital when she hears I'm there and try to get into the delivery or recovery room. I've got DH prepped on what to do if this happens.

 

Sorry for the long vent! Is anyone else dealing with a mom like this?


 

I am so done as well. i cant walk, i cant eat, i cant even enjoy my days. my husband is over an hour away at work. i feel abandoned and Im a mess. my girly bits are swollen too! But to add im terrified of labor this time too. i just need to wake up and have the baby here.



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Um, yes... So I would like to start a little rant here because I feel like I'm going to chew someone's head off if I don't get to bitch for at least half a second here.... ok? lol.

 

I am sooooooooooooo tired of being pregnant. So tired! It's bad enough that I'm having all this prodromal crap that starts and stops constantly (starting occuring around 9pm usually and stopping at some ungodly hour of the middle of the night) but all this other crap is realllllly gettting old. Know what's worse than peing on yourself? GETTING EXCITED ABOUT IT thinking it's your water breaking... and then being disappointed. And, having excitedly told your husband you think your water just broke, and then have to come back and say "nope honey. Just pee again!" Is ANYTHING more sexy than that? nope!

 

My next favorite thing about pregnancy lately is the insane labia swelling that I have going on. They have literally swollen up to more than twice their normal size and looks and feels like I'm sporting my own pair of testicles! They are numb from being swollen and it hurts to wipe. This, of course, is happening because the baby is SO LOW in my pelvis that it's cutting off blood flow to that area. The only position in which they DON"T swell up like that is when I'm laying down on my sides in bed, which I can't do for very long because of the throbbing hips and SPD pain. So I get the lovely choice of deciding which part of my body I will sacrifice for this hour before moving on to something else next hour. Oh, and did I mention how sexy my man testicles are? I'm sure DH is more than willing to donate his fluid to help move things along when it looks like he's getting down with a giant elephant with testicles. lol. seriously!!!

 

If you can't tell, I'm SERIOUSLY over it today. I can't even cry about it. I already did that last night and it got me nothing but a stuffy nose. Today I'm just pissed. I honestly feel like I'm starting to get mad at the baby for not coming out. The rational part of me (what little is left) says that's ridiculous and that the baby will come when it's ready. And that maybe it hasn't come because it's lungs aren't mature or some other reason like that. The pissed off, uncomfortable, pregnant mom part of me (about 99% of my existance at this point) thinks this is some conspiracy that the baby (and probably my DD and DS) have cooked up to antagonize me. lol. I'm just soooooo emotionally and mentally exhausted from this. *sigh*

 

Ok, rant over. Thanks for letting me do that ladies. This is literally the only place I can just SAY IT without having to feel like a bad mother or a bitch or whatever else. I hope you all are feeling well because I would never wish this feeling on my worst enemy. If anyone is in the same boat right now I pRAY things get better for you.

 

[fake happy face] LOL.



 

10 days! w00t for you! 1 more week and one more day to my due date . so 22-28 more days tops
 

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I've been feeling pretty good physically....other than some low back and pubic symphisis pain...but I was crabby ALL DAY today.  End-of-pregnancy hormones, maybe?  Could be left over from yesterday, when it was 76 degrees at work all day...and it's only in the 40s here in Michigan.

 

On a more positive note, had the home visit with the midwives today, and only 10 more days to go.  I can do anything for 10 days, right?

 

Glad we all have a place to vent!  not long now!



 

post #103 of 261

Question for all of you... I thought LO was supposed to slow down a bit as it gets closer to birth... But there's crazy dancing going on these last few days.  Any thoughts?  Maybe MORE activity means LO's ready to get here? 

post #104 of 261

I've had lots and lots of activity at bedtime, but not too much other than that. But when the wiggles and kicks come, they're HARD so I notice them more.

 

I'm 38 weeks today and done done done! It's a bit annoying to think that if I'd had a repeat C/S, I would've had the baby this morning. But here I am waiting. I've been pretty stressed out with family issues lately and I worry that higher levels of adrenaline are keeping me from going into labor. At midnight, I will officially be one week more pregnant than I have ever been.

post #105 of 261


i was just pondering this. i have been feeling a TON more movement the last couple of days. i'm hoping the baby isn't struggling to get into a good position or something, and that's what the hold up is. i lost a little plug yesterday and some fluid, so i'm also wondering if i'm feeling it more because there is less fluid cushioning things. :/

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Question for all of you... I thought LO was supposed to slow down a bit as it gets closer to birth... But there's crazy dancing going on these last few days.  Any thoughts?  Maybe MORE activity means LO's ready to get here? 



 

post #106 of 261

My baby has had periods of intense activity these last few days! I will be 40 weeks exactly tomorrow and other than some random contractions, I've had no signs of labor. My department at work is staffed mostly with grandfatherly men, who have been so nice and supportive to me the last few months. Today one of they guys suggested that the baby has her birthday picked out and is just waiting for her stars to align. This was pretty sweet to hear...after hearing "when are they going to induce you?" from so many people!

 

At my appointment yesterday, my Dr. did say that if I get to 41 weeks, I should have to have a stress test and ultrasound to check and see if the baby is ok. I hope I have the baby in the next week so I don't have to do the tests...even though I was reassured they are non-invasive, it still makes me feel anxious.

 

I am soooo uncomfortable. I am having a hard time walking and moving around. I've been walking half a mile every evening, but it was raining tonight & I couldn't get out. I'm also getting crankier...family and friends have started checking in every day to see if I am in labor and I feel like I should just send out a daily memo that says: "Baby is not here yet. Please bring me some Easter candy or go away."

 

I'm having a hard time being patient and kind to my younger sister (who has two kids). We are not very close at all. She's been emailing me with anecdotes about her own childbirth experience (the first birth was very traumatic, as she likes to remind me) and such jewels as "remember: the labor with your first child will always be long! I labored for 23 very long and painful hours with my firstborn!" Right, because I am going into this completely uninformed and clueless....I know she is trying to help, but it feels like she's being condescending and instilling worry and fear about the birth. Ugh.

 

I think I am going to hide out at home this weekend and not answer the phone or read my email.

post #107 of 261
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I think I am going to hide out at home this weekend and not answer the phone or read my email.

I seriously want to do this until the baby arrives!! Unfortunately, it's looking like I will have to go to my friend's wedding (I mentioned it in a previous post) this weekend.  Rehearsal is tomorrow and wedding is Saturday.  Ugh... I am so not ready for all the comments about to come my way.  Why can't people just refrain from speaking to extremely pregnant women?

 


 

 

post #108 of 261

guppie (((hugs))) I HATED that when I was pregnant with DD - in fact, this time around, I told everyone my EDD was mid May so that they wouldn't bug the crap out of me. So far so good (also helps that we are a few hours away from everyone vs. living 10 min away before). If it makes you feel any better, my midwife just delivered a first time mama and she had a nice easy labor - was peaceful and around 6 hours! So the first time doesn't have to be awful! Mine was long with DD because she was malpositioned, but all in all it was not a bad labor either - apart from being very tired, it was actually pretty great. What I keep reminding myself right now as we get to the end, is that it's only a matter of DAYS now before we see our babies - helps me not to get so anxious. Also, I'm finally sleeping somewhat well again - after the baby comes, that will go out the window, so sleep all you can now and enjoy it! Do you have any crafts you can do? I've been knitting and sewing to try and keep busy and it is sort of helping... 

 

AAM - Baby is doing some random weird movements tonight - feels like he is trying to punch out my vagina... dunno what exactly he is doing though, maybe trying to suck his thumb? On another note, I got my iron checked again on Tuesday since I was 9.6 at 33 weeks. I've been taking the Vitanica Red Blood Cell Builder and I guess it really is working, it came back at 11.5! I'm super stoked about that, feeling much better physically and sleeping better because my RLS has gone away since I'm not anemic anymore. 

post #109 of 261

39 weeks today here and baby is dancing everywhere. so much movement. its so weird. coupled with a ton of pokey cervix feelings I am not enjoying this LOL

post #110 of 261

I'm 39 weeks today as well. Baby is low and still active although not quite as active as before. Some contrax, loose joint pain and slight pelvic pressure. At this rate, I'm not expecting him for several more days.

post #111 of 261
Quote:
 I feel like I should just send out a daily memo that says: "Baby is not here yet. Please bring me some Easter candy or go away."

 



I love this!

 

I've had a few random contractions today.  I have to cover a call shift tonight.  Fingers crossed I'm not calling someone to cover it for me.  I just really want to get through Sunday.  Made it through my daughter's talent show last night (2nd place!!!) and she has a horse riding competition tomorrow.  Then we have a family birthday party here for my other 2 April babies on Sunday.  Besides I don't have my pedicure done yet!!!  As if that will stop a baby from coming.

 

DH is upstairs making me breakfast.  yea!!!

post #112 of 261

still nothin' goin' over here. but it was somewhat of a sleep in day (600!) so that was nice. i need to figure out something to do with myself today :/

 

post #113 of 261

Crack me up! I am so right there with you and have many of these same issues/thoughts myself recently. I'm starting to think his not coming out is a conspiracy. If this baby would just get a move on already.. 2whistle.gif

post #114 of 261

Ugh. Ughughugh. I'm so tired and cranky and exhausted and did I mention cranky? My poor childcare girls, they got an earful this afternoon, fortunately indirectly as I was yelling at my boys and not them. But I still feel so bad when I yell a lot around them... I can only imagine how small and scared they must feel when this great big adult screams and yells :(

 

Out of the blue today, I got a huge burst of nesty energy and did a ton. Way more than I ought to have done, but hey at least I got a ton of stuff done that's been bugging me lol. And baby's been feeling really low, too. I can feel her pressing against the lower parts of my pelvis more than usual, and in a different way I can't explain. And ouch, the sensations in my cervix. Some of them are baby girl poking, but others... I dunno. I'm wondering if maybe she's coming sometime soon. I'm only 37 weeks, but you never know.

post #115 of 261
Well I have really enjoyed reading these posts! I am right there with everybody. Tomorrow I will be 41 wks! This past Monday I started my MW's 3-day induction plan, which culminated on Wed with taking castor oil, and it did give me diarrhea and 5 hrs of contrx, but no baby!! Now I feel really fatigued and the contrx I do have are very crampy feeling. I wish I hadn't done it! Now my MW is out of town for the wkend, which is the big reason I agreed to try the plan. *sigh* I was still feeling great before this, but now I don't even feel up to going thru labor, and I sure don't want a labor full of those cramp contractions!! It makes me wanna cry. I hope I feel better in the morning.
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Ugh! that doesn't sound fun at all. i appreciate you sharing it though, as i was starting to get tempted to try such measures. i'll be 42 weeks tomorrow by my baby center due date (monday is my "official" date). i'll have to birth in a hospital if i get to 43 weeks, so at this point my mind is starting to consider what i'll do to get things going, and when i'll start doing it. blah! 

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Well I have really enjoyed reading these posts! I am right there with everybody. Tomorrow I will be 41 wks! This past Monday I started my MW's 3-day induction plan, which culminated on Wed with taking castor oil, and it did give me diarrhea and 5 hrs of contrx, but no baby!! Now I feel really fatigued and the contrx I do have are very crampy feeling. I wish I hadn't done it! Now my MW is out of town for the wkend, which is the big reason I agreed to try the plan. *sigh* I was still feeling great before this, but now I don't even feel up to going thru labor, and I sure don't want a labor full of those cramp contractions!! It makes me wanna cry. I hope I feel better in the morning.


 

 

post #117 of 261

I'm due on Wed and have been spotting now for 3 days. I'm hoping that things are progressing more now because if I get to Wed I may end up taking the castor oil out of desperation to stop this early labor nonsense! ugh

post #118 of 261

My EDD based on my last period is Tuesday.  I'm hoping to stay pregnant for another week though so I can have my whole support team here (last one arrives late Friday night).  I haven't had any dating US but I'm measuring pretty on track (1/2cm behind but that doesn't mean anything).  I'm still just not feeling the birthing thing.  Part of me now wonders if maybe I have some mental block.  I am a bit nervous about parenting a second, having been the mom of an singleton for 9 years.  I guess I'm also worried a bit about the birth - hope it's easier this time, hope I don't have to transfer this time, am more worried about a negative outcome for the baby this time.  I don't know...

 

I am encouraged by all the wonderful birth stories we've had so far.  We've had so many early, SHORT labors, ha??  Crazy!  

 

I'm sorry for those of you for whom the 40+ week clock is ticking.  Kapow, though I want to wait a bit, I certainly wouldn't prefer the pressure you're under right now!  

 

I did just avoid a party last night.  Not because I wasn't up for going.  I wanted to go, still feel good, have a dress that still fits.  I didn't go because I just couldn't STAND to have the same, "when are you due" conversation over, and over, and over all night long!  

 

I had heart burn last night that I swear was worse than giving birth.  :LOL  

post #119 of 261
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 I hope I feel better in the morning.


Good Morning! So, last night, I could hardly sleep bc of those cramp-like contractions. I would get to sleep, but then each one would wake me up, and they were pretty painful. So, around 3:00-3:30, I got up and did 180 pelvic rocks, then I laid back down and started to push around and massage the baby, to see if I could get her to turn to the other side (she's anterior, left, right now), thinking that maybe even though she isn't posterior, she could somehow be malpositioned, causing the icky contractions. Well, I did get her to move around some, although it didn't seem to help immediately, but when I decided to just give it a rest, I realized I felt a lot better LOL! Then I started having more normal contractions, about 10-15 min apart. Sooooooo....... I still didn't get to sleep the rest of the night really bc I'd wake up with a contraction each time I'd start to drift off, BUT I do feel a lot more comfortable and less fatigued today. Thank the LORD!!

 

Of course, the contractions seem to have stalled out this morning after I'd been up for about an hour, but oh well. At least I don't feel BAD anymore!

 

Kapow, I'm glad my post was helpful. That's hard to be faced with being forced to go to the hospital. Ironically, I have actually caught myself daydreaming about some of the perks of going to the hospital--not worrying about a bunch of people coming over to my house for the birth, not having to think about food for them or myself, not having to think about when/if my children should go to their Grandma's, getting to lay there with nurses to take care of you, not having to think about dishes, or laundry, or a clean bathroom, LOL..... I'm sure I would not like the overall experience as well if I really did choose the hospital, but it is true that not all aspects of it are bad!

 

Organicviolin, I feel your pain!! That's also partly why I decided to try the castor oil. I'm tired of wondering every evening, "Is this it?" only to have it all stop once I go to sleep.

post #120 of 261

Hi, mamas.  I haven't been around much the last week or so--limited time on the laptop.  Had my 38 week visit on Tuesday.  I'm measuring 41cm and my skin is stretched so thin I think it's about to pop open.  I'm so much bigger  than I was with DD!  My monitrice is out of town until tonight, so I don't want to go into labor today, but after she gets back I think I might finally be ready.  While part of me is still sort of hoping for a last minute oops to result in an accidental homebirth, I'm making peace with the idea of a hospital birth.  I had lunch with a few of my mama friends last week and it helped me feel a little better.  My mom was in  town for a couple of days and DD went  to bed with her and slept with her all night for the first time, so that helps too.  She's tried it before but ended up needing me after a couple of hours.  It's still going to be really  tough on her for me to spend 2 days in the hospital though.  My baby definitely dropped about a week ago.  The pressure is much more intense.  Weirdly, the pubic symphysis pain has gotten much better.  I guess he knocked something back into alignment?  Still having tons of BH contractions.  I'm starting to appreciate them though since I'm using them to practice relaxing my body.  Still throwing up almost every day--I was done with that with DD by now.

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