April Showers bring.... Babies! (Chat Thread) - Page 5

[Neuromancer]

Originally Posted by twegs 

A girl that I work with asked me who I would pick from our office to deliver the baby if needed.  I told her no one.  I'm pretty sure that I know more about birthing babies than anyone that I work with.  If I needed to I would just have the baby alone!

Ha ha!  A girl I work with, who is also a friend, told me that if I needed to I could call her bf (who is also a longtime friend of mine) to help me out if I went into labor at work -- because he doesn't work very far away.  I said I couldn't think of anything he'd be able to do and reminded her that in all likelihood, I'd just jump on the subway and go home (for my homebirth) and have plenty of time.

Also, a friend in med school (but not for OBGYN) told me he'd delivered one baby so far and I could call him in an emergency, but also that he hoped i wouldn't have to because delivering that one baby was terrifying.  ;)

As it worked out, I went to work on a Wednesday, went home, went into labor at 4am the next morning, and just sent in an email at 7am to work saying I was in labor and wouldn't be coming in.  Easy!

[EricaRN]

Um, yes... So I would like to start a little rant here because I feel like I'm going to chew someone's head off if I don't get to bitch for at least half a second here.... ok? lol.

I am sooooooooooooo tired of being pregnant. So tired! It's bad enough that I'm having all this prodromal crap that starts and stops constantly (starting occuring around 9pm usually and stopping at some ungodly hour of the middle of the night) but all this other crap is realllllly gettting old. Know what's worse than peing on yourself? GETTING EXCITED ABOUT IT thinking it's your water breaking... and then being disappointed. And, having excitedly told your husband you think your water just broke, and then have to come back and say "nope honey. Just pee again!" Is ANYTHING more sexy than that? nope!

My next favorite thing about pregnancy lately is the insane labia swelling that I have going on. They have literally swollen up to more than twice their normal size and looks and feels like I'm sporting my own pair of testicles! They are numb from being swollen and it hurts to wipe. This, of course, is happening because the baby is SO LOW in my pelvis that it's cutting off blood flow to that area. The only position in which they DON"T swell up like that is when I'm laying down on my sides in bed, which I can't do for very long because of the throbbing hips and SPD pain. So I get the lovely choice of deciding which part of my body I will sacrifice for this hour before moving on to something else next hour. Oh, and did I mention how sexy my man testicles are? I'm sure DH is more than willing to donate his fluid to help move things along when it looks like he's getting down with a giant elephant with testicles. lol. seriously!!!

If you can't tell, I'm SERIOUSLY over it today. I can't even cry about it. I already did that last night and it got me nothing but a stuffy nose. Today I'm just pissed. I honestly feel like I'm starting to get mad at the baby for not coming out. The rational part of me (what little is left) says that's ridiculous and that the baby will come when it's ready. And that maybe it hasn't come because it's lungs aren't mature or some other reason like that. The pissed off, uncomfortable, pregnant mom part of me (about 99% of my existance at this point) thinks this is some conspiracy that the baby (and probably my DD and DS) have cooked up to antagonize me. lol. I'm just soooooo emotionally and mentally exhausted from this. *sigh*

Ok, rant over. Thanks for letting me do that ladies. This is literally the only place I can just SAY IT without having to feel like a bad mother or a bitch or whatever else. I hope you all are feeling well because I would never wish this feeling on my worst enemy. If anyone is in the same boat right now I pRAY things get better for you.

[fake happy face] LOL.

[kaPOW!]

blah. possible fluid leak this morning, so i started getting excited. then my kid says he's feeling pukey on the way to school. uuuuuuuuuuuuugh. i wanted to take a nap and a bath and have a little quiet this morning. :(

[nadia105]

Originally Posted by kaPOW! 

blah. possible fluid leak this morning, so i started getting excited. then my kid says he's feeling pukey on the way to school. uuuuuuuuuuuuugh. i wanted to take a nap and a bath and have a little quiet this morning. :(

Maybe he will take a nap too if he isn't feeling well? I hope you get some rest and maybe get to meet your baby later! 

Erica, So sorry you are feeling crappy -- no fun.  The bright sid eis that you will forget all of that once the baby comes!

[kaPOW!]

i kind of think he's faking it. which is annoying, but also good - i really don't want to catch a stomach bug right now. in any event, he's bouncing off the walls. :/

thanks!
 

Originally Posted by nadia105 

Maybe he will take a nap too if he isn't feeling well? I hope you get some rest and maybe get to meet your baby later! 

Erica, So sorry you are feeling crappy -- no fun.  The bright sid eis that you will forget all of that once the baby comes!

[nadia105]

Originally Posted by kaPOW! 

i kind of think he's faking it. which is annoying, but also good - i really don't want to catch a stomach bug right now. in any event, he's bouncing off the walls. :/

thanks!
 

Been there!  A couple weeks ago my 6yo ds was complaining about how bad his stomach hurt, so we didn't send him out for the bus and called to get a drs appt.  30 minutes later, he was miraculously healed and ready to go to school.  Silly boys

[kaPOW!]

lol i made the mistake of letting him play Angry Birds after his last doctors appt, so now he wants to go to the doctor all the time. he was hoping i'd take him to the doctor today! if it was a full day, i'd go ahead and run him up to the school, he is clearly ok at this point. he might have been a little carsick or something - he insists on reading in the car. but, he's in kindergarten and would be getting out of class in just a couple of hours anyway, so it's not worth the hassle. oh well, at least i probably won't be sick.

[organicviolin]

EricaRN I am sorry you are feeling that way.  If it makes you feel any better I was having hard contractions every 5 minutes for 12 hours yesterday and regardless of what I did, nothing changed them.  They got worse when walking, my back was hurting and everything else.  The midwives even came over and were like - well, you're only at 1 so it's too early...try to get some rest tonight.  Well wasn't I annoyed when I woke up this morning to find myself still pregnant!

I am having some bloody mucus but it could be just from the exam.  Went walking this morning in order to try and get things going again.  So annoying!  It's been 2.5 weeks of this early labor BS!  I meditated last night and this morning to tell my cervix to stop being idiotic.  I'm hoping that helps!!!

[Sihaya]

Erica - Wish I could offer more than that, but that's all I've got.

Originally Posted by EricaRN 

Know what's worse than peing on yourself? GETTING EXCITED ABOUT IT thinking it's your water breaking... and then being disappointed. And, having excitedly told your husband you think your water just broke, and then have to come back and say "nope honey. Just pee again!" Is ANYTHING more sexy than that? nope!

Just had this happen last night. Super sexy!

[Mamato3wild ponnie]

Erica.....ohhhhhhh i'm soo on bored with you! I UNDERSTAND 100%! The swollen vagina......sit on a ice pack covered with a towel....it works wonders. I've had that several times and the ice pack...always helps. I keep trying to tell myself that the baby will come...when it's ready....not when i'm ready. But i have the same things going on...pre labor just about all day...and when the sun goes down it really starts to pick up...i can barely move or walk through the ctx. I take a hot hot bath and still have ctx. Then....then i lay down in the bed and huge ginormous achy sore whale...and bam...everything freaking stops! WTH? I'm getting to the point where i dont want to get into the bed at night. I literally wait till like 1-2am to go to bed...because i want something to happen! I dont want to talk to family or friends about any of it either. I'm also getting worried about not have the baby soon...because my last was born on his due date and was over 10lbs. So i'm so afraid of what my poor vagina will look and feel like after another 10lb baby. I'll need vaginal rejuvenation ASAP! So.....Erica...i'd love to come over and hang out so we could bitch and maybe drink a glass of wine....i'm seriously thinking a ice cold margarita or glass of wine might just help me! ummmmmmmmm maybe tonight ill give in and drink a cold one....maybe that will take me over the edge into labor land!

[kaPOW!]

oh shoot, missed your post Erica. <hugs>

i went ahead and mixed myself a cocktail last night and it pretty much sucked. turns out our ice was dirty and the club soda was expired, so my drink was a squeezed lemon, orange, half a shot of nice vodka, and water. just that little half shot left me dehydrated, and this morning i could feel it. did nothing for labor, either. so disappointing!

[bleumoose]

LOL I remember that from when I was working when pg with #1. I worked up to my EDD, and  those last couple weeks people were giving me the hairy eyeball and almost tiptoeing around me. As if they could accidentally cause the baby to fall out, or make my water break.

Originally Posted by acdmama 

So, apparently people around me think the baby is just going to fall out at any second.  The receptionist at work insisted I give her my MW's phone number, one of the MTs at work gave me a massage and was nervous about making me go into labor...  Yeah, if I start having contractions I will call my MW and go home!

If only it were really that easy! 

[organicviolin]

I have totally had a glass of wine for the past two nights!  They were yummy.  Going to get acupuncture this evening to see if that helps....

[guppiegirl]

My mom is driving me craaaaaazy. She really wants to be in the room when the baby is born. I've made it clear that it will be just me, DH and my Dr. (btw, MW attended home-births are illegal in my state and we have no birthing centers and few midwives. I love my Dr....she is low-intervention and has two small children of her own. I feel super relaxed around her).

My mom says, "well your father was with me when I gave birth to all of you kids and he was pretty much useless! You are going to be scared and need your mother!" Um, my dad (a very traditional, small town midwestern, military macho man) is wayyyyy different than my husband (who has been reading his natural childbirth books, helps me with my stretches and breathing practice and brews my RRL tea each evening).

My mom keeps reminding me that she was with my younger sister when she gave birth to her oldest. She's extremely close to my younger sister. I don't have as close of a relationship with my mom...we get along on a surface level, but tend to disagree about everything. My mom is very hyper and when she's nervous, she becomes very shrill and fakey, talking in a sing-songy voice. In the past, her behavior has caused my blood pressure and anxiety levels to rise. NOT at all what I want to happen as I am in labor!

The other big thing is that my mom has very mainstream beliefs about childbirth, babies and parenting. She did not breastfeed any of us 3 kids. She insists that "formula and pablum" worked just fine with her babies and that we all grew up to be healthy and strong (which is not true...we were all constantly sick with serious allergies, and my sister has many health problems). I remember hearing my mom make snide comments about other women in our community who breastfed (ie. that it was gross and perverted). My mom also came a social group/culture that thought breastfeeding was for "poor foreign women." So basically, my mom is not the person I want around me when I am trying to figure out breastfeeding for the first time.

Add to that my mom's ideas about "crying it out" and "manipulative infants" make me want to keep her at an arm's length during the birth and first weeks of my child's life.

I watched as my younger sister followed mom's parenting advice to a T... and the resulting lack of a bond that she has with her kids and some of the behavior and health issues she's been dealing with.

Anyway. I'm 39W5D and quickly losing my patience with my mom. I was pretty snappy with her on the phone today and explained that "it is my birth and I make the rules."

I'm pretty worried that she may just show up at the hospital when she hears I'm there and try to get into the delivery or recovery room. I've got DH prepped on what to do if this happens.

Sorry for the long vent! Is anyone else dealing with a mom like this?

[kaPOW!]

i stopped talking to my mom a couple of months ago, though for different reasons. i wish they were more receptive to being the mom we need them to be during these times, but we're stuck with moms who are going to be who they are. it's sad. <hug>

[nadia105]

If you think she would just show up, I wouldn't call her until the baby is born.  You can also tell the nurses that no one else is allowed in the room when you are laboring, but I think it would be easiest if she just wasn't there at all.  If you feel like you need her (doesn't sound likely!), you can always call then.  You an d Dh can then have some time to enjoy your baby and bf for the first time before she comes.

[guppiegirl]

Sara, it sounds like you also have a complicated family situation. I have gone up to a year without talking to my parents. In fact, me having a baby is the main reason that we are in contact again. Sigh.

[Pavlovs]

Originally Posted by guppiegirl 

Sorry for the long vent! Is anyone else dealing with a mom like this?

Yeah, my mom is similar.  Fortunately at the moment she lives in another state, but she did try to get herself into being a part of the birth this time around.  She was quite sly in saying she wanted to come out for two weeks, one week before the baby is due and stay through the following week.  I knew she was trying to time the birth so she could be there, but she kept insisting she just wanted to help us out at home.  Finally, she came to visit a few months ago and took me shopping.  At the store I told her I would love a new carseat and she said that she'd buy me one if she could be at the birth.  I told her "I KNEW IT" and laughed that I knew all along she wanted to come out just to get to be at the birth even though I had made it clear she was not invited.  Then she tried to guilt trip me by saying I had a "party" with my last birth - meaning I had a doula and two girlfriends there.  Umm, my birth, my choices.  I chose people to support me, not people who wanted to be there for themselves thinking they were helping but really just getting in the way and telling me how they can't relate because they didn't do it the way I am doing it.  Or thinking they are helping by talking to the nurses "for" me and telling them things I don't want.  Um, no thanks.  I'd like to birth without the stress of my mother "helping." 

[Oregonicmama]

Guppiegirl my mother drives me nuts too.  I have also gone for long periods of not talking to her and am very thankful that she lives across the country.  If you don't want your mother at the birth I agree with nadia105 that you shouldn't tell her when you go into labor.  That would pretty much eliminate any possible drama when your in labor.  I'm sorry you have to deal with this stress right now.

[acdmama]

I've been feeling pretty good physically....other than some low back and pubic symphisis pain...but I was crabby ALL DAY today.  End-of-pregnancy hormones, maybe?  Could be left over from yesterday, when it was 76 degrees at work all day...and it's only in the 40s here in Michigan.

On a more positive note, had the home visit with the midwives today, and only 10 more days to go.  I can do anything for 10 days, right?

Glad we all have a place to vent!  not long now!