I had low supply. DD lost weight at 4 weeks, so we started switch-nursing, using a feeding schedule (ca 3 hours feeding start to start, 2 sometimes in the afternoon, if she didn't sleep, but then each feed was over an hour), fenugreek. and DD gained weight, but not fast enough, so we got small amounts of donated milk, and fed in an SNS. Then when DD was 2+ months old her weight stalled, and in the end, at 3+ months, we had to give a lot more donated milk (300 ml a day) in SNS, and i started taking Domp. My supply quickly increased, and every week we could decrease the donated milk by about 50 ml! When DD was 6 months old, and just tarting to play with solids (but still not really eating, self-feeding), we were of the donated milk, and I haven't had supply issues since4, and DD has gained fine. DD didn't really eat much solids before 18 months, she survived on breastfeeds and small snacks, mainly fruit and veg. She still breastfeeds a lot.
I was never able to pump, still don't get more than drops. But I still got my supply up, and kept it. I would suggest you drop the pumping, for the week or so I tried it, it was pushing me over the edge, it just made it too hard. But try a supplementer at the breast. I've never tried the lactaid, and the SNS woks really well, but can be fiddly, but I'd recommend that you try what the breastfeeding support organisation in Sweden recommends: Take an ordinary feeding bottle, cut the hole in the teat/nipple bigger, get a feeding probe (not sure of the size, but can find out, you'd like it at least 50 cm long. I think you can get them at pharmacies), and a small syringe that fits the probe, for cleaning. Pop one end of the probe into the bottle, tape the other to the breast. Now you have a supplementer that can stand up at the table next to you! Place it higher than the baby if you think the baby needs extra help, if it isn't sucking very effectively.
Looking back, it was hard. And I was sad about all the troubles. But I spent all that time holding a loving my little girl, she had me, all that she needed! And no, breastfeeding wasn't lovely back then, it didn't get to that point until Dd was about 5 or so months old. But now I know a lot of mothers in real life who breastfeed or breastfed, and I've found very few of them found breastfeeding to be that cosy, lovely thing we all dream of, before at least 3 months!
But for me it was important to breastfeed, and breastmilk was important too. So I guess we prioritized what was most important: Keeping supply up with herbs, drugs, feeding schemes etc, keeping baby at the breast with SNS, holding baby, loving baby. So we'd planned to use cloth diapers, but didn't until DD was over 6 months old (we used ushies and Moltex instead). We did use EC (but more because it kept DD happy, and was easy for me to do while feeding on the sofa, most of of the day - easier than changing diapers on a baby who hated changes!). I didn't do the dishes once in the first year. I didn't cook dinner until she was 8 month old. I gave up on sewing and baking. I gave up on the slings she hated... (until the Ergo, at 8 months, made everything easier!).
And looking back, I'm happy with the choices we made. We got plenty of use of the cloth diapers (well the newborn, and small sizes, she had such a tiny bum so by the time she was out of diapers, at 18 months, she was still in the diaper sized for 3-6 months). And we've now had nearly 2 1/2 years of babywearing, and still do. I made food and baked for her, after she started solids. I made a mei tai, and have made her some clothes - once she was over a year old. And as she got older, we bake together, cook together, go on adventures. It's ok. In the early months DD got what she needed: lots of body contact and breastmilk. (breastmilk over formula was very important to me, I really wanted to provide this for her, doesn't mean that I think formula is bad, and for other mothers in a similar situation it may be the best choice, it just wasn't for me).
Edited by accountclosed2 - 4/23/11 at 3:24pm