I am wondering how you other EC'ers think I should proceed with my 12 month old son regarding potty learning. He was WAY better at it from 6-9 months or so than he is now at 12 months. The current situation:
poop- he usually refuses to poop in the toilet. I very often know when he has to go, and will bring him to the toilet and hold him over it. Sometimes I can distract him with toys long enough for him to be held over it for a while, and occasionally, maybe 2 times a week or so, he will poop in the toilet. We also have a little baby wooden potty but he will never sit on it. His favorite current preferred method of pooping is standing up! Ideally with no diaper on but that only happened once. Sometimes when he has to poop he will try to take his diaper off, so I take it off and hold him over the potty but he wont go. Then I put his diaper back on and he will go- usually standing up holding onto something. So I want to try to figure out how to allow him to poop when he needs to while standing up, I guess! But I don't know about standing below him with a bowl under him, both for me and also because he tends to poop when he is relaxed and given some space. We use cloth fitted diapers, btw.
pee- he also generally refuses to pee in the toilet! He used to most of the time from about 5 months until 9 or 1o months. Now he doesn't. He pees in his diaper, or when I take off his diaper I put him n a folded towel and he usually pees- which is adding to my already high laundry load!
I thought when I was starting EC that we would be diaper free by now, but we are so far from it. I don't know why he hates the toilet. We have a clean toilet in a nice bathroom, and the water level is low and doesn't touch his skin. IT is not cold, I make sure to hold him comofortably.
Also, he is starting to pull at his diapers and try to take them off a lot. I guess they are uncomfortable. I never leave a wet diaper on as soon as I know it is wet. HE also hates diaper changes and rolls over onto his belly and tries to crawl away! I tell him- and I know he is too young to get this concept but I am introducing it anyway because he is really smart and does understand a lot- that when he learns to pee and poop in the toilet we can stop using diapers! But anyway, I know that particualr concept is more advanced than he needs to know at 12 months.
But he did have it down when he was younger that I hold him over the toilet and cue and he goes. he was so good at it for a while! And now he mostly doesn't do it.
So how do I proceed? is this a common thing to encounter with EC? I never expected it!