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post #81 of 103

thank you, I had no idea it was dangerous until I started lurking here and read up on the resources, i keep it private mainly, I got a lot of complaints from the doctor and family but stayed strong and Im very happy with my decision

 

Ive read that alot sosurreal09, problems stemming from vax-ing then they leave once the needles are stopped, im happy you've come to a decision that makes you comfortable and keeps your babies healthy!

post #82 of 103
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Originally Posted by canadianhippie View Post

thank you, I had no idea it was dangerous until I started lurking here and read up on the resources, i keep it private mainly, I got a lot of complaints from the doctor and family but stayed strong and Im very happy with my decision

 

Ive read that alot sosurreal09, problems stemming from vax-ing then they leave once the needles are stopped, im happy you've come to a decision that makes you comfortable and keeps your babies healthy!


I don't even have a choice in the matter considering it was a miracle she was even able to be healed! As far as I know she has no lasting effects but I do worry about her gut (intestinal bleeding all 9 months, unexplained, EBF and elimination diet) and also worry if the seizures she suffered had any effect, so far so good though.

 

post #83 of 103

oh man seizures and intestinal bleeding? you werent kidding about complications, that must have been so hard :(

 

my babe was in the NICU for the first couple of days but nothing major but some sniffles since, that was hard enough Im happy he hasnt had any complications to date, i cant imagine how hard it must be

 

what kinds of resources has everyone utilized as a young mother? ie) prenatal nutrition groups, baby groups, alternative health, financial benefits etc?

post #84 of 103

Holistic moms group is awesome as well as LLL. That's about it for me :)

post #85 of 103

this tribe has had a crazy amount of views!

 

There was prenatal nutrition classes for young moms at the early years centre when i was first expecting, it was nice provided healthy snack and resources and guest speakers

 

When i moved back home, i tried to find the same class near by, found a similar structure but I went once and was shocked, my public health nurse said it was for mothers recommended by children's aid and i shouldnt go, no kidding my goodness "my name is ..... and i dont know how far along i am" "im 22 and this is my third" smoking cigarettes outside with a big belly on them, after that I didnt attend any other classes

 

There was teen pregnancy outreach centre, run by senior volunteers however they just made me feel bad. They helped me find maternity clothes and gave me brand new bravado maternity panties and nursing bras which helped alot. Even a christmas card that following year.

 

I missed the set times for the hospital birth classes, so my public health nurse did my classes. I signed up for our Healthy Babies Healthy Children program, they do pre and post natal visits at your home, but...lol didnt help, by that time ( my 8 month i think?) I was helping her teach, knowing most of the in's and out's, and suggested breathing but didnt use "key key key" i was a "shhhhh shhhhh" girl

 

I'm always a year behind on taxes so my baby bonus's come in a big chunk instead of monthly

 

After he was born I attended baby group at the local early years(ontario early years centres, government funded early learning centres run by certified early childhood educators providing programming from birth to 6 yrs, not sure if thats everywhere else!)

 

 when he was 9 weeks, began baby picasso (food playing) shortly after. Baby group was saving grace! It helped me adjust so much and I even learned to babywear there as well. I still go to early years nearly every week

 

I think thats about all the resources I utilize, i found I rather be mentored by older mothers than young mothers my age, most of them left their babies before 6 weeks to party and continue to leave their children with neighbors and friends and argue, swear all that in front of them, absolutely no comradery with them!

 

i've gone to the local beaches, museums, libraries, cultural events from when he was a wee one, ill never believe the phrase "oh they're too young to get anything out of it"

post #86 of 103

sosurreal09, what's holistic mom's group? Ive never heard of it but sounds encouraging :)

 

There wasnt a local LLL chapter here, but there was a leader who was a lactation consultant i spoke to over the phone once, so helpful, we were on the phone for over an hour, and she was a MDC mother!

post #87 of 103

Hi, I'm a young mom. I'm 22 and I have a 5 year old and a 3 year old. I'm hoping that DH will jump on board and we can TTC #3 soon. 

post #88 of 103

Welcome Chelci!

 

I'm in the states so IDK if the organization is in Canada or not! Holisitic moms group is just a group for moms who parent holistically...or as much as they want. We are pretty all out there holistic! Drug free birthing, non vaxing, homeopathy, naturopathy, no chemical cleaners, all whole foods organic diet etc etc. There have been some moms there that IDK why they are there really haha but most of them are very crunchy/holistic as well.

 

I'm 18 weeks pregnant now (19 tomorrow!) I can't believe how fast this is flying by! I'm still nursing DD and still making milk surprisingly! I can't wait for my home birth!

post #89 of 103

Hi, I'm 23 I have an 18 month old and am 17 weeks pregnant with # 2. Just thought id say hello. Rainbow.gif

post #90 of 103

Welcome mama! Your DD is so cute!!!

post #91 of 103

Thank you!smile.gif

post #92 of 103
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Originally Posted by WifeofAnt View Post

  Everyone else my age having kids are having 'oops' babies.  They're doing the parenting thing because they have to, not because they want to, and it really shows.


Oops babies are not only raised because the parents "have to". Many oops babies are definitely wanted! I'm sure that's not what you meant, but it kind of came across that way.

 

It's awesome that you are helping out a teen mom. I try to help out young moms whenever I can. My brother and his gf had a baby at 17. My family took her in since her mother was trying to force her to have an abortion (so were all of her teachers and they even threatened to kick her out of the school if she didn't). She ended up breastfeeding her son (who had terrible reflux) for over a year, which is amazing considering how difficult it was. She's a great mom :)

 

post #93 of 103

I'm a young mom too and I can totally relate. People almost balk at the fact that I have 3 kids and I "look so young". It's like they feel a mixture of sympathy and judgement that I didn't use birth control or something! I had a child when I was 17. He's 8 now and I have a 3 year old, a 1 year old, and one on the way. I've dealt with the looks and the judgments for a looong time. Even though I'm married and my other 2 children were planned (but not this last one!), people still judge. I'm always asked how old I am and how old my oldest is. They just 'need' to know if I was a teen mom. It's really rather rude. I too cannot find any moms my age really. And when I can, they only have a young baby. I haven't found anyone that is my age, with a child close to my eldest's age that I can relate too. Unfortunately the moms I've knows that were teens do not relate to me very well. They usually are travelling different paths of parenthood than me and we can't connect on any level. The older moms are the same. Usually more serious or have drastically different parenting styles (helicopter parents!). I'm glad I had children young, but it is extremely isolating.

post #94 of 103

WTH is a helicopter parent?! Never heard that one haha

post #95 of 103
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WTH is a helicopter parent?! Never heard that one haha



Someone who hovers around their kid constantly afraid of what might happen to them. Super over protective and seriously annoying. I find this occurs more often with folks who've started having kids in their later years.

post #96 of 103

OIC! Yeah I would agree with you. Most of the moms at the park were freaking out when I let my 15 m/o climb on everything and do slides by herself and what not. Well heck she could do it why wouldn't I let her?

post #97 of 103

younger mom here, all my friends are 30 or older... closer to 40.

post #98 of 103

Oh! your all so lucky to be expectingsmile.gif congrats and I hope your enjoying your pregnancies! 

 

CTH3989, you were 17 with your first? you too VeggieLovinMama! my goodness, my close friend had her baby at 17 and I gotta tell ya, when i rolled around at 19, i had the utmost respect for her, the extra years helped, i dont know how you did it so young! 

 

Hey MamaKiara! congrats on your baby and yes your DD is precious

 

dont see the wifeofant post, but yes some (not all) teen mothers need alot of guidance, the hardest thing is having to see unjust things done to children and lacking the control to prevent it, it's the hardest thing to anticipate about my career 

 

I feel like Im somewhat used to the judgement of being younger but once and a while it gets to me, especially the sympathy look.  oh man!

 

the awww its ok! look

 

the worst I find is not only being young and a mother but mother to a mixed child, theres a whole other fun can of worms. I fit a typically terrible demographic and have a lot more stares then you'd expect 

post #99 of 103
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Originally Posted by cakahy View Post

Another young mama here. I'm 25 and pregnant with my third smile.gif


That was me last year! Now I'm 26 and expecting my fourth :)

post #100 of 103
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Originally Posted by sosurreal09 View Post

OIC! Yeah I would agree with you. Most of the moms at the park were freaking out when I let my 15 m/o climb on everything and do slides by herself and what not. Well heck she could do it why wouldn't I let her?



Exactly! I've experienced this soooo many times. My husband even got 'told off' because he was running around on the play equipment with our son (he was being fairly calm, very careful, and responsible.). We were 18 or 19 at the time and I know it was discrimination b/c we were younger. We just laughed at her b/c she was just sitting on the bench watching her poor kid who was obviously enthralled by my husband's game... we felt bad for him.

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