Have you asked family for money? - Page 2

[APToddlerMama]

Sorry Milletpuff...Like I said, I was short on time and guilty of not reading all the threads.  I actually did read all of your posts though but thought you were considering further fertility treatments or adoption and hadn't decided.  As far as state adoptions, did you mean when you said you weren't going to pursue foster/adopt?  I had caught that.  Because in many states, there also exists a program that is straight adoption.  The child is a foster child for six months until finalization, but the permanency plan would be straight TPR/adoption with many times TPR being complete.  Just another idea.  You can wait a long time in domestic adoption for a placement.  Then again, you can also wait a long time in special needs adoption too. 

[spedteacher30]

i am glad your family was so supportive once you asked.

My partner and I were lucky to get pregnant quickly and easily with our son. We want another child, but I will be a lot closer to 40 than I was when I got pregnant. I am scared of my declining fertility in a year or so.

My parents have already offered us money for TTC a second child. As it turns out, my stepsister and my stepbrother's wife both have significant fertility challenges, and my parents have assisted both of them in getting pregnant (both are straight!). At this point in their lives, my parents feel that there is no greater joy or hobby than their grandchildren, so they will do anything in their power to make sure their children provide them with as many grandchildren as we want them to have.

I totally understand your feeling that they aren't involved/interested in/excited about your journey, and the feelings of rejections and heterosexism that are wrapped in that.

I hope your adoption journey is a short and joyous one, and your little one is in your arms soon.

[steviemom78]

well, i was in the position of thinking about asking my parents for financial help, but my husband is way to proud for that. he sold a few of his watches (he collects them with great passion), and even though he did not get a lot of money for them (being pre-owned watches), he still preferred getting rid of these things (although he really likes them) than asking anyone in our families.

he just can´t admit that he needs help sometimes...

[steviemom78]

Originally Posted by steviemom78 

well, i was in the position of thinking about asking my parents for financial help, but my husband is way to proud for that. he sold a few of his watches (he collects them with great passion), and even though he did not get a lot of money for them (being pre-owned watches), he still preferred getting rid of these things (although he really likes them) than asking anyone in our families.

he just can´t admit that he needs help sometimes...

Haha, now he allowed me to ask my parants!