april 1-7 chat thread! - Page 3

[elonwy]

Evergreen- If you had itching or red rash with disposable pads, it might be worth checking if you have a mild latex allergy, cause that was one of my first symptoms. If you do, gloved hands up the hoohaa causing irritation SUCK. Just a thought.

[Evergreen]

thanks! I hope it isn't that! I am sure I have touched latex since then but I don't know...so many doctor's offices are going to latex-free gloves these days and I obviously haven't used a condom in a while.

[elonwy]

Do you get any kind of redness or irritation when using a bandaid? That was the tip off for my allergist, they were giving me allergy shots and the tape they were putting on the gauze at the injection site gave me a rash.

[Evergreen]

No. I just had them test my iron at my last prenatal and they bandaided me up. It is totally something I am going to keep an eye on, though. Thank you.

[dayiscoming2006]

Evergreen, if you have used condoms in the past, I don't think it's likely a latex allergy. Unless you ended up having a bad reaction to them. 

I also get irritation from disposable pads and liners because they just aren't very breathable and I think chemicals are even more irritating. I will use some disposable products (large diaper looking things and then a few incontinence size pads for after the birth) but then I'm switching to my cloth pads. 

Even the more natural disposable products aren't perfect. Cloth is just so much more comfortable in my opinion. 

EDIT:

If anyone is looking for something for when their period starts back. I find a menstrual cup comfortable and it holds a lot. I cannot wear tampons without being in a ton of pain, no matter how I put them in and anyway, tampons are not healthy. I did research on menstrual cups and the tops ones were mooncupUK (not available in the US anymore - though I have one from before) and probably the mooncup by keeper (US one.)  Just putting it out there in case some of you are afraid that the cups will hurt like a tampon. I bet those sea sponge tampons aren't all that bad but I'd still rather use my cup - so I doubt I'll ever try those

Oh yeah, and Diva cup seems to have the most fit issues for people, but I think it's the cheapest cup available. Mooncup by keeper is the next cheapest I think. I actually found they are now available on Amazon! :) 

[PunkElmo]

oh sounds like we need to have a DDC group hug!  mama_mich and jrsmom ESPECIALLY - injuries and weird psychic energy = UGH!

mama_mich - the mesh panties are supposedly comfy after birth because they hold your pad without being too rough on your sore bits... and I'm still freaked out by the weird depend-y and super-wide pads!  My birth kit seems more or less standard - it has a bunch of disposable underpads, disposable postpartum pads, mesh panties,ice-pak peri pads, a peri bottle, witch hazel, sippy straws, gauze, lube, gloves, a thermometer, bulb sucker, a syringe, cord tie, measuring tape, etc.  I also have a list of things to get/wash/set aside, like plastic sheeting, extra linens and towels, receiving blankets, olive oil, something for the placenta, etc.

I still haven't found any thrift stores in NYC that have used towels/sheets (and there was a LARGE facebook status-comment conversation about this with an @$$ of a college classmate who couldn't fathom that home laundry would be just as clean [or cleaner, really] than hospital laundry)... I think all the "thrift" stores around here are more trendy than practical... such is life in the big city, I suppose.

BUT... my friends' aunt in NJ (who used to be a L&D nurse) had a whole bag of sheets and linens in her basement waiting to be donated, so my friend is bringing them to my NOTshower Brunch, and I'm gifting her with yarn that I don't want, but she does, so it's all WONDERFUL! 

DP is vain - it's horrible, but I suppose I knew it going in (I've known the guy for 29 years or so... lol)... I'm probably just as irked about the stretch marks, but I know there's not much I can/should do other than body butter (I've heard onion juice, but...) until I'm DONE stretching... just gotta roll with it and then try to fix it.

[LeighPF]

The mesh panties hold the monster pads in place, but will not feel wet and then can be thrown out. They are also huge and fit comfortably over all the post-partum bumps. I loved them in the hospital after my son was born. They also had disposable pads with an cooling pad built in, which I could have married at that point (stitches and giant hemorrhoids). I hear of people doing the same thing at home by dampening and freezing pads.

[Evergreen]

I really loved those mesh underwear.

[L&K'smommie]

Originally Posted by LeighPF 

The mesh panties hold the monster pads in place, but will not feel wet and then can be thrown out. They are also huge and fit comfortably over all the post-partum bumps. I loved them in the hospital after my son was born. They also had disposable pads with an cooling pad built in, which I could have married at that point (stitches and giant hemorrhoids). I hear of people doing the same thing at home by dampening and freezing pads.

I love those things!!!  Yes the dampening and freezing works...not quite the same but still works well.  I also use cloth pads postpartum, but will usually use the disposable pads for the first few days.  I did find that my lochia was much less with my 3rd than my other two, and I think cloth pads helped with that, as on days I would resort to a disposable(usually from needing to do laundry) I would bleed more.

And PunkElmo- Sounds exactly like my birthing kit with my last baby.  I'll be ordering mine for this one soon...and washing up all my towels to have them ready.  Mine really didn't get that dirty during the birth, but that could be due to the waterbirth...but those chux pads were great for keeping the carpet and everything else clean.

[mama_mich]

dayiscoming yes I was afraid to even try bc of how badly tampons make me feel.  Also when comes to the pads stay clear of stayfree ladies.  I had a year battle with bv and my gyno says the one thing in common for her bv patients is the use of stay free.

Thanks for the support.  I have more crap to complain about.  I feel like such a loser.  It's not even a complaint it is disgust. I am going to have to lawyer up and battle my son's Papa from any right to him.  I found out today that he was arrested in sept for having .9 grams if meth on him. This was one of his days with our son.  I do not trust him at all as he has completely lied about the situation to me. And well the obvious. I am so terribly sad as he means the world to my son. Everything is about Papa.  God just so sad.  I'm feeling like such a winner in my choices.  And then I'm back to my choices bringing me 2 beautiful children.  I don't even know anymore. I made an appointment to meet with a therapist who acts as Mason's advocate. He advises in the realm of what is best for Mason.  I am going to let him know that I am planning on persuing full custody even though they don't call it that in MT and that I need his assistance in figuring how best to go forward on parenting plan.  There will be no more over nights if I can help it. I want mandatory drug testing and therapy for papa.  I don't know if surpervised visits would be more weird for mason.  If there's no overnight I am not too worried of papa messing up on a visit.  I just don't understand it. How can he be this way?  I know my spelling is bad.  I know my post have been real neg.  I am sorry and don't mean to be debbie downer.  It is so much better being able to share the good stuff with you guys!

[MrsBone]

So my bible study group threw me a shower last thursday(after study was over). It felt so nice to just know that people are excited and can't wait for this baby to arrive. Of course I got a lot of stuff I didn't need, but it was the thought that counts. Unfortunately, I got home that night, wrote everything down so I could send out thank you notes, and now my pregnant brain has forgotten where I put the peice of paper. Should I still send out thank you notes even though I don't remember who got me what or should I just thank everyone in person tonight when I see them again? I feel awful about it! I don't remember if I posted this before, so I'm going to say it again..My mom, sister and neice threw me a shower last Sunday, and it was a blast! My mom made me an organic cotton diaper cake full of organic/natural stuff and my SIL made me a bunch of stuff..a taggie blanket, a crocheted blanket, baby clothes dividers and an "E" bow hanger for the wall. I absolutely LOVE handmade gifts. We ate gluten free cupcakes, drank wine(I just had a sip), and painted organic onesies, playsilks and socks. One of the girls that was supposed to come to the shower couldn't come and dropped off her gift later in the week..it was the 60 dollar hamper that goes with my baby girls bedroom set. Totally unexpected gift, but way appreciated. I also got the rug, curtains and valance to match as a gift from my MIL. We had bought the sheets, bumper pad, blanket and dust ruffle a few months ago, so now her room is complete. Can't wait for this little girl to be here! Feeling done being pregnant.

[Almamiel]

Rough day at work - lots of interdepartmental sniping and ego getting into the way of actually accomplishing things - ugh! I just have zero tolerance for that kind of crap anymore.

Baby boy (no name yet!) has definitely dropped and I've been feeling nauseated in the evenings - wondering if it's hormones. Feels like he's headbanging against my cervix right about now, too. Yowzers!

[zompie934]

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