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Edited by bricoleuse - 2/5/12 at 7:56am
I feel that the push to learn French is undermining the lifestyle I hoped homeschooling would give us, and I know that it is undermining my relationship with my children since it is hard to motivate them to do the structured work necessary to learn the language. I flinch at the thought of the replies this honesty will bring on an unschooling board, but I am open to all comments and criticism at this point.
Is there any chance your family could holiday in a francophone community in Quebec for a couple of weeks each year? If you want oral fluency, language immersion rather than structured work is probably more efficient -- and less costly to your relationship. I just got back from Montreal and I'm amazed how much even a few short days of hearing the language and bumbling along in it allowed me to remember and my daughter to pick up.
Do your kids see the value in maintaining and growing their facility in French? Could you brainstorm other ways to make it work as a family? Would they agree to dinners in French? Saturdays in French? DVD movies in French? Family board games in French every Friday night?
I know a mom who homeschooled her boys using an unschooling approach for everything but math ... and math was done in French using a French curriculum even though the kids were 99.5% anglophone when they started. It worked beautifully for them : 30-45 minutes a day using French to do the math work, listen, explain, clarify, ask questions, converse about the work. Maybe that's another option....
I live in an entirely anglophone community in rural BC. I would have loved to find a way to give my unschooled kids some French but we simply don't have the community resources and I'm nowhere close to fluent myself. I had to let go of my dreams. It sounds like you are much better equipped, though: kids with some French already, and fluent yourself.
Do you speak French?
My own take on this is thus:
If you want your kids to speak French, speak French in the home if you have that ability. The most bilingual people I know (and I know a lot - I originally come from Quebec) have one parent that speaks to them almost exclusively in the other language. I do not think your kids can protest much if you do this - after all, you do have the right to speak in whichever language you choose.
Otherwise, you can try the following:
-French radio in the car
-if you limit screens, allow one or 2 TV shows in something easy to follow in French (perhaps something where they already know the storyline in English?)
We're bilingual (Spanish) and unschooling. Spanish is my first language, second is English and third Portugues (read well, speak not perfect but I can communicate with not mayor inconvenience and can't to write well though), alsoI understand and read Italian and a little bit of French.
My kids are inmerse in a multilanguage inviroment. We encourage to speak read and write Spanish because English is their first language. They're very aware that different people around the world speaks different language and they have the desire to undestand them. Now, my oldest(5) is Bilingual (English_Spansih). Also, She's very interesting in sing children songs in Portugues. She use You Tube and close caption in movies.
Absolutely. Babies learn to speak long before they can deconstruct the grammar of a sentence. Forget the grammar lessons and just speak french at home. What a wonderful gift for your kids!
My husband speaks Croatian and, when he was doing a stint as SAHD my DD (then 18 months) understood a great deal and could speak a few words, too. Sadly he went back to work out of the home (well that part was good, lol) but it meant no more daily language exposure for DD.
We are planning to spend some time in Croatia when we can. My niece went when she was 7, stayed for 2 months, and came back fluent.
We're trilingual in a bilingual environment.... English is my native language and our minority language. I've used it with my kids since birth and have worked pretty hard to create a sort of "English bubble" in our house. We have a ton of movies, books, music and and are starting to acquire board games as well, all in English. I have tried to include books that are not just fiction, but also ones for consulting or fun (like I Spy). The kids also have access to a lot of stuff on the internet in English. A lot of our DVDs have been downloaded from the internet and do not offer language selection.... this wasn't intentional, but it does eliminate any discussion over what language to watch stuff in. There's a bunch of cool stuff that comes out France, so it shouldn't be too hard to get high interest programming. If you need recommendations of what to look for, maybe you could try on the France section of finding your tribe here.
A friend here whose situation is comparable with yours (fluent in English but not her language), started speaking English only to her youngest (now 2 years) early on. She slides in and out with the older two, but has brought a lot of material into the house like what's mentioned above. They also spend a lot of time in the car where she has audio books and music. She looks for possibilities to spends time with other English speakers (not so easy as she lives in a rural area), but seems that to be working out well for all three kids.
I have another set of friends who routinely bring in au pairs. Their girls are pretty fluent in English now and the family is now adding French this summer. They do control media and only allow their girls to do screen time in English or French.
I think the idea of doing certain things in the target language is helpful if your kids are interested and MUCH more useful then trying to look at language out of context. I tutor English and really wish I could get parents to understand that I could help their kids soooo much more with language if I could just go out and do scooter tricks, make cookies, do science experiments and play video games, etc. in English.