Real, Thanks for posting about what bike you do have, I'm shopping for exactly that kind of bike. Always helpful to know what others have.
Just to play the devil's advocate, but do you have to be the boss? He is five and yes, you are in charge of his safety and well being. But he's also seeking to make decisions by himself and be heard. It sounds like he keeps telling you that:
.My own, sweet, mellow, incredibly mellow 5 yr old went through a rough patch lately. She's just figuring out how to stand up for herself and to say no. I want her to learn those things, I want her to make decisions. But darn it, I don't want her to be a pain in the rear, kwim? In contrast my oldest is a hard kid to parent. Here are some techniques/ideas I've learned from the trenches. Take them or leave them, in no particular order:
- choices. "I'd like you to help me empty the dishwasher. Would you like to do the cups or the spoons?"
- acknowledging that you are hearing the kid, but remaining firm. "I can hear that you're really angry with me right now, but it is very important to me that you empty the dishwasher"
- knowing it is ok to back down sometimes - it doesn't make you a bad parent. "I'm going to leave these cups here for you to do later (on the counter that is)." Then move on and when he asks for something, "hey, those cups are still here, we need those to be put where they belong."
- compromise. "It is kind of silly to fight over cups. can we put them away together and get out of the house?"
- recognizing when you do something that in hindsight you think is a little silly/stupid/whatever. "ds, last night we had that big fight and I locked my door. it wasn't cool. I was really frustrated with you and wanted to get my point across, but it really didn't help." and then let it go.
- knowing that with a "stubborn" kid (I prefer the word persistent, better connotation), you make more progress by talking in a "sunny window" time. Meaning that it is three days later, you're having a nice breakfast and you bring up, "so remember that fight we had over the cup? I was really frustrated because I wanted to get the job done quickly. " you can ask if he has any ideas about how to make it smoother next time. Make this conversation quick, but to the point.
- Raising our children, raising ourselves
- raising your spirited child
- becoming the parent you want to be
Me. But it's a heap, not a special container. And it is frozen about 3-4 months of the year. But you live in a neighborhood where the garages are not 50 years old, fed by an alley system and allowing for the heap to exist between the garage and the alley and no one sees it but the bears.t