HI, I haven't posted on here in quite some time...I'm monkey'smom, single nurse mama to an awesome 10 year old boy....anyhow, I need some advice, and I was hoping you wise ladies could help me sort this out.
So.....last spring, I had a random hookup with an aquaintance of mine...it's what I was looking for, and he fit the bill. I moved an hour away about a month later, and we didn't really talk too much afterwards except for the occasional small talk if we ran into each other. He was going through a divorce at the time, I was getting ready to move to a new city, and truthfully, I really didn't think about it much afterwards.
Anyhow, a couple of months ago, I checked out his fb, and for some reason, he started to cross my mind. We had hung out many times before this, and I had never viewed him as a potential partner, he was just someone I would go for drinks with along with a few other people every few weeks.
Then Lo and behold, he messaged me one night saying the reason he was shy around me was because of what had happened that night last spring. Long story short, it had been a long while since I had seen any action whatsoever, he and I were going to the same concert, and I kind of figured we would hook up. And we did. That night was fun, and a one t point I said " you know what? I actually like you!" because I was surprised that we were having so much fun. He said " I know, it's weird, I like you too."
Since I was still in the mind frame I was just looking for a one night fling, I went ahead and did the deed with him. The next morning we chatted a bit, then I left. Since then, he has been on my mind A LOT. and I'm not someone who develops feelings after something like that, especially if it was what I had intended in the first place. I would actually like to hang out with him again, this is the first time I've been smitten with someone in a long while.
We had a little bit of talk on FB afterwards, concerning my missing phone...it turns out I had left it in a friends car. Since then, nothing.
I have a profile on POF, and I came across him on the site. I'm trying very hard not to message him, because, if he wanted to see or hang out with me again, he would contact me, right? he has me on FB....I know I probably messed things up by sleeping with him, but like I said, that's all I wanted it to be. Knock some sense into me ladies, and tell me how he's not that into me! except that, as it always go when you get a crush on someone, I'm finding little loopholes in everything, like " he was the one who said he was shy around me!" and...well, obviously he's looking for something...we've been friendly for awhile, maybe he is interested...I don't know.