So.......................... my boy gets his music interests from school and the skating rink where he goes on Friday nights with his friends-- and it's a christian run place!! but they play Top 40-
The irony is that we were very very very sheltered from the pop culture until about 2 years ago bc he was at the Waldorf School and then homeschooled--- He is the oldest by the way and now the 7 yo and 4 yo love the Top 40!!!
I guess I was just horrified to think this was Top 40!!! It certainly wasn't Top 40 Casey Casum i grew up with!
BUT (hold on to your hats!) there has been major progress on my part. I was thinking how some of you will be proud of me as i have been working on being more open minded and less reactive.
So I don't think i told you girls on here that my son got a concussion on Tuesday- long story but a basket ball goal metal pole landed on his head- ER and everything- so he is on rest at home-- this has given us time to sit together on the couch and watch some movies on Netflix together and look at Youtube on my ipod touch--- so he says "I don't know if you'll like this or not" and he shows me parodies of the Rihanna Eminem song and some Kesha Parodies and he totally gets how funny they are because they are exaggerating what the actual songs talk about- I swear i was laughing so hard with him and I really got to see that he's not going to behave these ways bc he hears the music (lightbulb moment!!) and I just got this feeling to just go with it and stop being so negative about it - and even though i don't see myself as Prudish- i AM prudish by today's standards! The other night in bed- he said "you know Mom- you see those songs as the way real life is and I just see them as pop songs." gold nugget!!
We were riding in the car and the Rihanna Eminem song came on- and he begged to hear it- (mind you this is the one that I threw across the car) so I braced myself, took a deep breath and said OK. So we listened--- he sang it- and at the end he said "Mom, you MADE it all the way through the song!" and he high-fived me. And when i just listened to the song- I didn't mind it so much- if you can see that this guy in the song is really struggling with himself---- and my boy doesn't even get that far into it to analyze it before the next song comes on (about partying or sex! LOL!) After the song, I told him that i wanted him to know that it was hard for me and that I consciously made myself see his point of view instead of being inflexibly stuck in my viewpoint-- and that i thought it was important to be open minded and flexible, and not impose your viewpoints on others. I told him he had helped me grow as a person. (I also realized what the love we feel for our kids can motivate us to do- to break through negative traits that we have and to expand).
The motto- "If you can't beat 'em Join 'em " has been going through my head.
We have been listening to all of his music. And we have been getting along better than we have in forever. He is hugging me, and even came up and kissed the top of my head as I was typing this. So what if there's bleeped out bad words or occasional not-beeped out bad words- he is not taking this seriously--- I truly feel like i have busted through a huge barrier, and your viewpoints here helped to support me to do that. Thank you.