I am very aware that I am the cause of much of his defiance by not being more strict from the start. Now he's 5 and hardly ever does anything I ask/tell him to do. For example: I lay out his clothes and ask him to get dressed. He just ignores me or tells me to shut up and leave him alone. I end up snapping at him or getting in his face. He eventually capitulates but it's exhausting. This goes on all day every day. I feel utterly lost and desperate. I love him so much but it's soooooo hard to get thru these times. Dressing, brushing teeth, trying to get out the door is almost always a huge struggle.I'm a single mom with an ex that was badly abused and therefore is frightened to discipline him so it's always left to me to be the disciplinarian. I'm sooooo tired of it.