I don't know if this belongs here (vent)

[SuburbanHippie]

I figured if anyone could understand, it would be fellow TF-ers.  I got my mother into eating TF before I had even started really.  I told her about a book I wanted to check out (NT) and she bought it and became TF obsessed quickly.  She started getting on me about switching over and I did on my own time.  We're now mainly TF, but I tend to lean more towards primal as well.

Then my mom read stupid Alicia Silverstone's book (after she saw her on Oprah ugh) and went vegan.  She joined PETA and started massively consuming soy and unsoaked grains again.  Then recently she read a book called The Hormone Diet and started incorporating meat back into her diet (thankfully!), but still consumes soy milk once a day and started using canola oil. 

It's so frustrating for me.  I did my best to educate her and she's such a flake.  Any time she reads a new book she becomes obsessed with it and changes her whole attitude.  Then she starts ragging on me about how I should read her book because [fill in the blank].  The last time it was because raw milk is meant for baby cows and not humans so it's making us fat.  *sigh*

I got so fed up with it yesterday that I just went off on her.  My pregnancy hormones are in full swing and I just couldn't contain it anymore.  She kept telling me about how she made this or that with soy milk and I just lost it.  I told her about GMOs ruining our environment and how she's helping Monsanto by buying this junk. 

I know I should probably just stop engaging in conversation with her about it, but it's every single time we talk.  Her obsession always becomes "the" topic and if it's not she'll just cut me off and go back to what she wants to talk about.  I hate it.  As I'm typing this out, I'm realizing it has really not so much to do with TF as it does with my relationship with my mother.  It's like we have different religions or something.  Oil and water.

[BeagleMommy]

I understand how frustrating well-meaning mothers can be. I also remember how pregnancy hormones make one feel.
I'm sending hugs your way!
Just remember, you won't be pregnant forever, and she will always be your mother, nutty or not.

I convinced my mother to be vegetarian when I was eleven or twelve. I survived 13+ years of damaging my body via heavily-processed soy vegetarianism and Mom survived about ten years that way. She still cries if she is ever reminded where the meat she eats comes from. She can't stand to go with me to the farm where my beef, pork, and poultry come from.

Coincidentally (yeah, right!), we are both hypothyroid now. It certainly couldn't have been from subsisting on soy for over a decade!

Why not get her a primal eating book so her new tangent is closer to TF? Less to argue about.

[ambereva]

I can relate. My mom is on a TF kick and is constantly making snide comments about things I eat (like organic whole soy foods). She doesn't seem to understand that a person can read NT or Nutritional and Physical Degeneration and still find value in other ways of eating. Sometimes I look at her plate loaded with conventional meat and refined grains and wonder how much of those books she actually read.

[rockycrop]

OP-sounds like we have very similar relationships with our mothers!

My mom was a teacher throughout her entire working life, and just recently retired.  She took a practically volunteer gig as a nutrition instructor (basically teaching classes to young kids and senior citizens through AmeriCorps).  So now she thinks she knows everything about nutrition.  She gives me crap about coconut oil (saturated fat!!), and she is a huge grain fan (she actually gives credence to that god-awful food "pyramid").  Seriously, every time I eat a meal at her house it has some sort of pasta in it.  And she's always giving my daughter the yogurt with the cake flavors.  And she uses "I can't believe it's not butter".  None of which I would care that much about if she didn't act all high and mighty about her superior nutrition knowledge.  Ironically she grew up on a farm drinking raw milk, eating grass feed beef, organ meat and eggs from pastured chickens (her teeth are perfect).    

Of course, it's not just about the food.  I don't think the woman would know how to exist without telling people what to do.  She butts into all areas of my life equally, but for some reason the food stuff gets to me even more.

Soooo, just to say: my mom drives me crazy too.  Not sure if there's anything to be done about it, but I'm right there with ya.