meander: I'm so sorry that your doc has changed his mind on this. I completely sympathize with you! I hope your other OB will be willing to at least let you try. If you're attempting to birth vaginally in a hospital, and something isn't going right, it's not like the call can't be made at that time to have a c-section. You'd already be in the hospital.
Can you simply refuse the c-section? What would happen if you did?
AFM: I'm kind of in the same boat as you meander, which is why I said I can sympathize. I mentioned previously that my midwife is quite fat phobic? Well, one of the things she wanted me to do was talk with an anesthetoligist regarding my options if I did have to transfer to the hospital. This came about because I absolutely refuse to have an epidural under any circumstances (due to an idiot doctor torturing me with a needle in my back many years ago).
Anyways, I went and talked to the anesthetologist (I'm sure I'm spelling that wrong). Long story short, in his medical opinion, he beleieves there is medical indication not only for me to birth in hospital, but to have an epidural put in as soon as I'm admitted. Y'know, because I'm fat and it might be hard to get the right spot.
Now, to be fair, his reason for wanting me to birth in hospital is different - he is concerned about the pushing stage putting too much pressure on my sinus cavity, which is damaged from a car accident. The thing is, before even trying to get pregnant, I saw a neurologist about that and asked him if there was any increased risk to me going through labor and delivery due to my sinuses. His answer was a very firm "No". The anesthatologist thinks that answer would have been different if I'd mentioned a homebirth, but frankly, it was a yes or no question - WHERE I birth shouldn't matter!
But of course, because my midwife seems to be looking for any excuse to risk me out of a homebirth, I'm pretty concerned that she will use this recommendation to do exactly that. And even if I get her to agree to try to birth at the suite I want to birth in, I'm not sure I trust her anymore to make decisions based on MY best interest (and the baby's) versus her own predjudice.
*rock* ME *hard place*