What can I say to people who are trying to be friendly to my very shy 3yo? She is mostly okay with people who just talk to her, but some of them want to play patty-cake or sing to her. I think she (rightfully) doesn't want to interact with people who insist on wanting to interact with her when she doesn't know them.
I need something to say that is a good model for everyone--for my daughter on how to be polite yet protect her own interests, and to the strangers (who are mostly people at church) so that they will move along and talk exclusively to me or to someone else. (Some of the adults are being sweet, and some of them need to back off.)
I've been saying to DD, "Can you wave hello?" and she seems fine with that.
DD is hard of hearing, and half the time she's not sure what they said, so I do a lot of repeating anyway. But in general I feel like I could do a better job of standing up for my daughter.