Am feeling a BIT more settled about the thought of having a third, but realize I am going to need some support (OK - LOTS of support) before this little one arrives. So I started this thread hoping to get some ideas about being a more intentional parent - for my children (2 girls, aged 5 and 2), and for this little one on the way. I'll post a new topic each week - feel free to discuss, or just talk about what is on your mind about intentional parenting.
Oh, and lurkers and first time moms are welcome!! I don't feel that moms of more than two have any more inherent wisdom that first time moms - maybe just more experiences??!!
I loved reading the threads from last week - especially about the spirited second children (I have one of those!!). So thanks for that.
So here is this week's topic : What have your children done/ said recently that made you stop short, look at them, and think 'This little being is amazing'. The feeling you had is one which you wish you could capture in a bottle, like an essence, and try to release the next time s/he is driving you crazy and you are questioning whether you were ever meant to be a mom at all.
I think for me, it was overhearing a conversation between dd1 (age 5) and dd2 (age 2) explaining that monsters weren't real. They were walking along holding hands, and dd1 says 'So this is the thing, K. Monsters don't really exist - they are imaginations!'. Dd2 is looking up at her with this earnest look and dd1 is leaning her head toward her as they walked - it just looked so intimate and kind and big-sisterly. It made me realize that my kids are not all about ME - I feel so responsible for them - making sure they are safe, helping with hurt feelings/ conflicts, nuturing their creativity/ interests...all the pressures we put on ourselves (and them!). But in fact, they have their own little worlds, their own support networks - sometimes we just have to hang back and let them come forth....
Hope you all have a great week - and hope Spring is headed your way, wherever you live. Baltimore is still pretty cold and rainy, but hopefully that will be changing soon!!
Lisa in Balto