I just really need some insight and help. I have been married 10 years, I have three kids 6,5, and 2 years old. My marriage had always been a bit of a struggle we have been in and out of therapy and have been seeing a therapist for over the past 2 years. My hubby is depressed, and currently on meds. He is highly critical towards himself and of course me. Everything is a challege for him, he is never content and/or happy. It just feels like everything is always so hard when he is around. He analyses everything you say and do and turns it around on you. I have had it! I am DONE! Even our therapist, in a one on one session with him, stated that my hubby could be considered emotionally and spiritually abusive. He (the therapist) also stated that he is manipultive, but he (my hubby) doesn't even realize it. The therapist stated that I have not "tried" to fix my marriage but have "done" but that my husband can not seem to change.
I want to do what is right for my kids. I am worried that if I stay he will become too critical towards the kids. But on the other hand what will the divorce do to them? And then there is that small part of me.....very small who feels bad for my hubby and wonders what will happen to him if I divorce him. SO I feel like I am 100% sure I want a divorce, but I'm not all at the same time. Is this normal? And how badly will it effect the kids. I just need some help or advice or info or something......please.