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ugh. right there with you. my son is sooooooooooooooooo emotional when he's sick, and i'm super weepy, and so having a hard time responding well. i hope you get a good night groove going soon <3

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today was a breaking point. the last few days have been hard ds2 is being super whiney and mumbling and not talking very articulatley. ( i think it may be reverting) ds1 is being sassy and full of attitude Dh was home but sick so we were at home with cranky kids and i felt very close to losing it. had to have a few crying moments. feeling better now though.

 

I have been having a lot of trouble getting to sleep at night. i can sleep easily during the day but at night is another story.  Cael is doing pretty good at night. He starts the night in his bassinette he tends to sleep a bit better. I like having him in bed with me but i was waking with every stir with him beside me and I wasn't sleeping well , he is a big mover in his sleep.

 

 



 

post #62 of 111

Aliy- I hope today is a better day for you. hug2.gif

post #63 of 111

hug2.gifAliy, I think the hardest part of having a newborn after your first can be having older kids who are having a hard time adjusting. 

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Aliy- i could have written the first part of your post. my kids are doing the exact same thing. too bad you live in canada. we could get together and throw them into a room together to sort out their issues gladiator style, while we have cocktails...

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My DS1 is also giving me a hard time--but he's teething and I think I'm not making sure he's eating enough.  I think his behavior is worst near dinner time.  He's sort of been hitting/pushing the baby, mostly when we're nursing.  It makes me crazy and I just don't know how to respond.  I've never had big behavior problems with him, so this is new territory.

 

DS2 is also not just falling asleep like newborns are supposed to.  DS1 was the same way--stopped napping on his own around the fourth week.  DS2 sleeps pretty well the first half of the day, but then is awake a large part of the second half and takes me forever to get him to sleep at night.  I don't know how I'm supposed to spend a bunch of time shushing and swaying and nursing to sleep for naps without putting DS1 in front of the tv all day--which I hate doing.  Any words of wisdom, moms of more than one??

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DS2 is also not just falling asleep like newborns are supposed to.  DS1 was the same way--stopped napping on his own around the fourth week.  DS2 sleeps pretty well the first half of the day, but then is awake a large part of the second half and takes me forever to get him to sleep at night.  I don't know how I'm supposed to spend a bunch of time shushing and swaying and nursing to sleep for naps without putting DS1 in front of the tv all day--which I hate doing.  Any words of wisdom, moms of more than one??


I just expect that Isaac won't be put down, so it's a bonus the time he does actually sleep. I either hold him or put him in the sling until he either wants to nurse or falls asleep. 

 

post #67 of 111

Marissamom- if you can afford it, you may want to get a professional driving instructor. I am soooo much more nervous driving with anyone I know, especially DH.  The driving instructors are super calm and since you are paying them and don't know them you just don't feel like you have to perform... even if you don't think you feel like that! Nothing much going here except that I am super bummed  about getting my period already. And DH can't decide if he wants another baby (worried about paying for college), so I feel kind of in limbo about birth control.

 

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Aliy- i could have written the first part of your post. my kids are doing the exact same thing. too bad you live in canada. we could get together and throw them into a room together to sort out their issues gladiator style, while we have cocktails...



lol sounds good. my boys would have way too much fun with that too!

post #69 of 111

Like others I have been reading the boards but not posting much!

 

Max is 6.5 weeks and growing and doing well.  He is easier then my first and sleeps more so that is nice.  He is a noisy sleeper though so from 4am on I don't get great sleep with all the grunting!

 

He also does have the evening fussy time though.  So far my best tricks are to attempt to get him into my sling and napping in the early evening (between 5-7pm), thus preventing the build up to super fussy and nothing working.  Often interferes with dinner but it is better then screaming baby.  Last night I did not do that and he got into frantic mode - acting like he wanted to nurse but freaking out while nursing and the walking etc. not getting him to settle and trying to claw his way up my body and out of the sling.  Finally... I remembered my SIL used to turn on the kitchen vent to sooth her babies.  It worked!  He immediately stopped crying and settled into the sling a bit.. I then walked  him around the kitchen for about 15 minutes and he drifted off to sleep!  Another friend tells me she used to do something similar with the shower or the kitchen faucet running.  

 

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For those getting those moments of feeling "too needed" or "touched out" I can't recommend a long bath enough if you can't get away for longer.  I will pick a time when baby is not too fussy and let DD watch a show or something and give the babe to DH and I lock the bathroom door (make sure the kids have all peed recently), turn on the radio (so you don't hear baby if he starts to fuss a Little) and I relax!!  I take lots of baths.  I figure DH and the baby can handle 15-20 minutes without me even if the baby does get a bit fussy.  It is good for dad to get some time WITHOUT me hovering around him as he works through different techniques to help keep him happy.   If babe moves from some fussy to all out screaming or something I get out.

 

Walks help a lot too - even if you need to take the baby with in the stroller or something.

 

When DD was a baby DH would come home and I would run off to the Walgreen or Target nearby because we supposedly desperately needed wipes or something.  Target was best cause I could get Starbucks and wonder around for a half hour.  Fabulous.  If you build up some pumped milk and are willing to try a bottle you can use that time for DH to try feeding baby too.

 

It is Soho important that you take care of yourself once in awhile!! 

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Twice now I have had a short "special time" with DD.  Once we went to lunch and to Target and another time to a park together, just us.   Each time was 1-2 hours and DH had some pumped milk to give to the baby.  The baby was not happy the whole time but DH is great about keeping trying different things and not getting too frustrated (although he seems to think that constantly stimulating the baby by showing him things etc is the way to go... good when older but right now Max just wants to sleep a lot on not be over stimulated).  The more time they have the better DH can do.  I like to not be around occasionally cause it is so hard not to hover and want to grab the baby and do it the "right" way.    DD behavior and mood were better for a few days after each outing and I enjoyed have some time to focus on her again, I feel bad with all the time baby gets.

 

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My daytime saviors are my slings and wraps etc.  I use them all the time.  I just got the Sakura Bloom and am liking it.   I got lots of compliments on it at Easter.  My favorite is probably the Moby now that I know how to use it right but it gets sooo hot for me and DS so I know it won't work for summer (if summer ever manages to arrive her in MN).

 

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Someone had asked about pumping.. I think 2 oz sounds really good for now, especially if you pumped that at a time when you had not been gone and skipped a feeding.  If you consistently pump once a day that will likely increase (but you will then need to keep pumping once a day and gradually decrease the amount pumped if you want to quit - otherwise you will be a bit full).  DH has been giving DS a small bottle once a week for a few weeks (we started a bit early) when I take DD to her swim class.  I am not gone long and so DS normally doesn't drink more then 1-2 oz during that time.

 

I have currently built up to pumping about 4-5 oz total during the one time I pump in the morning (DS does not nurse a ton a night and then has a good morning nap and so I am usually pretty full at that time).  I freeze it in 2-3 oz batches right now and I have a couple ounces just waiting in the fridge for tonight.

 

 

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So I managed to comment/reply to a whole bunch at once there I think!  Hang in there guys - we are all getting through the toughest baby time and those smiles are coming soon!

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The baby was not happy the whole time but DH is great about keeping trying different things and not getting too frustrated (although he seems to think that constantly stimulating the baby by showing him things etc is the way to go...



That's a classic dad technique, i think. Seems universal, yet rarely the best route. lol

 

I've been WAY more laid back with this second baby, already letting my husband be "first", so to speak, for an hour or more so that I can spend time with my 6 year old. I'm also using a pacifier this time around because we spend SOOO much time driving our son to and from school - I have such a hard dealing with a crying baby in the car. It presses all of my fight/flight nerves.

Geo is already so much different than my first son. I actually don't know if I'm being more laid back this time because it's a second child, or because Geo is just so much more mellow - cries mostly just when hungry, actually TAKES the pacifier, etc.

 

 

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OK. What are you all wearing? I am so ready for my pre baby clothes to fit! Most of the time I am at home in sweats or pajamas and that is fine. But when we go out or when I want to actually feel human around the house I have basically nothing to wear, other than maternity clothes. I could go out and buy new clothes, but 2 sizes bigger than before would really depress me!

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Marissamom- if you can afford it, you may want to get a professional driving instructor. I am soooo much more nervous driving with anyone I know, especially DH.  The driving instructors are super calm and since you are paying them and don't know them you just don't feel like you have to perform... even if you don't think you feel like that! 


I think I'm going to have my dad take me driving. he's super calm and doesn't try to rush the learning process. the big problem with DF taking me is that he doesn't get that I need to take baby steps, firt thing he made me do was back out of a parking space, I didn't even remember which pedal was which 

post #73 of 111

I really dislike my closet right now cause i'm in such and awkward stage size wise. some of my maternity is too big my preprgnacy pants are still too small ugh.... i'm wear whatever i can find that fits and looks nice. I have a wedding to go to in three week and i'm going to and get somethiing new to wear.

 

I have decided i'm going to start running here a few times a week just to get away from the kiddos once DH gets home and hopefully it will help with wieght and my mood

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Ok, so I'm now using the old text editor and can post without frustration, and actually be able to hit return and go to the next line!

I had my 6 week appt a few days ago and was happy to find that I lost 30 lbs since my last prenatal, but I still have 15 to go to get to pre-pregnancy weight, and another 5 - 10 to my ideal weight.

I did go out and buy one pair of Old Navy jeans. It was annoying knowing I wouldn't be wearing them long, and sure enough they are already big on me, but can't tell you how good it feels to stop wearing yoga pants everywhere! I also bought a bunch of shirts, mostly because my boobs are too big to fit into my old clothes. I'm probably going to buy another pair of jeans in a couple of weeks, doubt I will be able to quite fit into my old jeans by then but these are already big enough to be bugging me.

Freja is cracking me up... she almost never smiles at people, but she loves to stare at ceiling lights/ fans and windows, and she will smile and even laugh a bit at them. It's cute, but I am really looking forward to being able to make her smile and laugh myself!

I've been trying to start working on the house again, I've done a lot in the yard but as usual the goofiness of my house is making everything harder than it should be. I had what was supposed to be one easy, quick goal for the weekend: replace the broken master bath door. Well, turns out the door frame isn't a standard size, it's off by just enough that we can't trim down a standard, cheapo door. Of course. So today I'm going to the Habitat for Humanity Re-Store to see if I can find a solid wood door I can trim down, if not I think I will get a custom door if it doesn't cost too much.

It's so annoying that every time I want to do any little thing around here it has to turn into a big to-do, but with an old house that's been lived in and remodeled by morons, that's how it goes. Next project is going to be even more annoying: our front bathroom has a one piece tub/ shower shell, and no tub faucet, just a shower head. Because the plumbing is on an exterior wall we are going to have to cut through that wall to get to it to install the tub faucet. All because some idiot didn't put in a tub faucet like any normal person would on a tub!
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OK. What are you all wearing? I am so ready for my pre baby clothes to fit! Most of the time I am at home in sweats or pajamas and that is fine. But when we go out or when I want to actually feel human around the house I have basically nothing to wear, other than maternity clothes. I could go out and buy new clothes, but 2 sizes bigger than before would really depress me!



I'm still wearing my maternity clothes. there's no way my regular pants are fitting anytime soon, and my boobs are way too big for most of my regular shirts. 

post #76 of 111

both kids asleep. it's noon and I'm finally having breakfast. I ended up getting a migraine yesterday and still have a pretty bad headache today. can't wait until 3 when DF gets home. 

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i can wear my normal clothes, i just have a pot belly :) i'm still eating my pregnancy diet, ie "eat whatever the heck i want, and a milkshake",  but i intend to cut that out once i stop bleeding. my dad bought me an elliptical, so i'll also be hitting that within the next month or so, i hope. i was just getting into a regular workout routine when i got knocked up, and i was really worried about not being able to get back into it after the baby got here, but with a machine at home i might do ok. i have a This American Life app to help keep me motivated/entertained, and i haven't listened to radio lab in almost a year so i'm hoping to have a good backlog to plug into. good radio and/or good books help keep me in shape :)


 

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i can wear my normal clothes, i just have a pot belly :) i'm still eating my pregnancy diet, ie "eat whatever the heck i want, and a milkshake",  but i intend to cut that out once i stop bleeding. my dad bought me an elliptical, so i'll also be hitting that within the next month or so, i hope. i was just getting into a regular workout routine when i got knocked up, and i was really worried about not being able to get back into it after the baby got here, but with a machine at home i might do ok. i have a This American Life app to help keep me motivated/entertained, and i haven't listened to radio lab in almost a year so i'm hoping to have a good backlog to plug into. good radio and/or good books help keep me in shape :)


 

 

Similarly, I'm in my pre-preg clothes (but I actually never had maternity pants; I just bought a couple pairs that were one size bigger at the end of my pregnancy. And I only had 2 maternity tops; the rest were just bigger or longer than normal), but I still have a pooch -- and I like the way you describe your diet!  I want to start working out again within the next few weeks -- Wii fit and exercise videos are enough for me. I do plenty of walking just by virtue of living in NYC without a car.


 

 

post #79 of 111

with DD I gained 40 lbs and could tif back into my one size up jeans by about a month PP and had lost all the weight by 3 months PP. 

this time I gained 50 lbs, and I'm not going to fit back into my regular pants for a while, I'm still a little chunky for a lot of my maternity pants. we got a Kinect, and hopefully I'll be using it to help get the weight off. 

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I did go out and buy one pair of Old Navy jeans. It was annoying knowing I wouldn't be wearing them long, and sure enough they are already big on me, but can't tell you how good it feels to stop wearing yoga pants everywhere! I also bought a bunch of shirts, mostly because my boobs are too big to fit into my old clothes. I'm probably going to buy another pair of jeans in a couple of weeks, doubt I will be able to quite fit into my old jeans by then but these are already big enough to be bugging me.

Freja is cracking me up... she almost never smiles at people, but she loves to stare at ceiling lights/ fans and windows, and she will smile and even laugh a bit at them. It's cute, but I am really looking forward to being able to make her smile and laugh myself!

 

I could have written basically this entire post! I bought some shorts/pants from Old Navy today. There is an online coupon for 20% off almost everything at ON, Banana, and Gap that ends Wednesday- brongap20. I'm hoping that I can ignore the size and just celebrate the fact that I have clothes that fit. 

 

Harper LOVES the ceiling fan. She will lock eyes with it whenever she can. And she will sometimes smile at us, but she always smiles at the fan. She also loves looking out the window; I'm guessing the contrast/bright light is easy for her to focus on.

 

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both kids asleep. it's noon and I'm finally having breakfast. I ended up getting a migraine yesterday and still have a pretty bad headache today. can't wait until 3 when DF gets home. 


I hope your day got better when DF got home. :hug

 

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i can wear my normal clothes, i just have a pot belly :) i'm still eating my pregnancy diet, ie "eat whatever the heck i want, and a milkshake",  but i intend to cut that out once i stop bleeding. my dad bought me an elliptical, so i'll also be hitting that within the next month or so, i hope. i was just getting into a regular workout routine when i got knocked up, and i was really worried about not being able to get back into it after the baby got here, but with a machine at home i might do ok. i have a This American Life app to help keep me motivated/entertained, and i haven't listened to radio lab in almost a year so i'm hoping to have a good backlog to plug into. good radio and/or good books help keep me in shape :)

 


Ditto on the pot belly, ditto on the current diet, ditto on the "well, I WAS exercising...". I was just about to join a yoga studio before I got preg. I've already told DH I will be joining once we start giving DD bottles. 

 

Have you ever listened to the Moth radio hour? It's another NPR favorite of ours. And I believe they have a podcast. http://themoth.org/radio

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