Like others I have been reading the boards but not posting much!
Max is 6.5 weeks and growing and doing well. He is easier then my first and sleeps more so that is nice. He is a noisy sleeper though so from 4am on I don't get great sleep with all the grunting!
He also does have the evening fussy time though. So far my best tricks are to attempt to get him into my sling and napping in the early evening (between 5-7pm), thus preventing the build up to super fussy and nothing working. Often interferes with dinner but it is better then screaming baby. Last night I did not do that and he got into frantic mode - acting like he wanted to nurse but freaking out while nursing and the walking etc. not getting him to settle and trying to claw his way up my body and out of the sling. Finally... I remembered my SIL used to turn on the kitchen vent to sooth her babies. It worked! He immediately stopped crying and settled into the sling a bit.. I then walked him around the kitchen for about 15 minutes and he drifted off to sleep! Another friend tells me she used to do something similar with the shower or the kitchen faucet running.
For those getting those moments of feeling "too needed" or "touched out" I can't recommend a long bath enough if you can't get away for longer. I will pick a time when baby is not too fussy and let DD watch a show or something and give the babe to DH and I lock the bathroom door (make sure the kids have all peed recently), turn on the radio (so you don't hear baby if he starts to fuss a Little) and I relax!! I take lots of baths. I figure DH and the baby can handle 15-20 minutes without me even if the baby does get a bit fussy. It is good for dad to get some time WITHOUT me hovering around him as he works through different techniques to help keep him happy. If babe moves from some fussy to all out screaming or something I get out.
Walks help a lot too - even if you need to take the baby with in the stroller or something.
When DD was a baby DH would come home and I would run off to the Walgreen or Target nearby because we supposedly desperately needed wipes or something. Target was best cause I could get Starbucks and wonder around for a half hour. Fabulous. If you build up some pumped milk and are willing to try a bottle you can use that time for DH to try feeding baby too.
It is Soho important that you take care of yourself once in awhile!!
Twice now I have had a short "special time" with DD. Once we went to lunch and to Target and another time to a park together, just us. Each time was 1-2 hours and DH had some pumped milk to give to the baby. The baby was not happy the whole time but DH is great about keeping trying different things and not getting too frustrated (although he seems to think that constantly stimulating the baby by showing him things etc is the way to go... good when older but right now Max just wants to sleep a lot on not be over stimulated). The more time they have the better DH can do. I like to not be around occasionally cause it is so hard not to hover and want to grab the baby and do it the "right" way. DD behavior and mood were better for a few days after each outing and I enjoyed have some time to focus on her again, I feel bad with all the time baby gets.
My daytime saviors are my slings and wraps etc. I use them all the time. I just got the Sakura Bloom and am liking it. I got lots of compliments on it at Easter. My favorite is probably the Moby now that I know how to use it right but it gets sooo hot for me and DS so I know it won't work for summer (if summer ever manages to arrive her in MN).
Someone had asked about pumping.. I think 2 oz sounds really good for now, especially if you pumped that at a time when you had not been gone and skipped a feeding. If you consistently pump once a day that will likely increase (but you will then need to keep pumping once a day and gradually decrease the amount pumped if you want to quit - otherwise you will be a bit full). DH has been giving DS a small bottle once a week for a few weeks (we started a bit early) when I take DD to her swim class. I am not gone long and so DS normally doesn't drink more then 1-2 oz during that time.
I have currently built up to pumping about 4-5 oz total during the one time I pump in the morning (DS does not nurse a ton a night and then has a good morning nap and so I am usually pretty full at that time). I freeze it in 2-3 oz batches right now and I have a couple ounces just waiting in the fridge for tonight.
So I managed to comment/reply to a whole bunch at once there I think! Hang in there guys - we are all getting through the toughest baby time and those smiles are coming soon!