Originally Posted by anothermama
I can only speak to my experience......I didn't push until I REALLY had to , and at that point I'd been at 10cm for nearly 4 hours. I pushed my 9+ lb daughter out in about two pushes.....less than 5 minutes.
Wow, I think this is totally interesting because I feel that if I had rested rather than pushing when I did, I would have had the homebirth that I wanted rather than ending up with a c-section. I was at 9 1/2 cm and my midwife told me that I could push when I was ready. Well, an hour passed and I still had no urge to push, so she asked if I wanted to do a couple of "practice pushes". She thought that maybe pushing would help bring my baby down far enough to give me the urge to push. Well, I ended up pushing for 6 hours with no urge!! I got him down pretty far (he was about 2-3 inches inside of me. I could feel his head), but I couldn't get him out all the way. So, we decided to transfer to the hospital and I ended up with a c-section.
After that experience, I truely believe what BlueViolet says, about it being a myth that pushing should start at full dilation. With my next birth, I'm due on 6/16/04, I am not going to push until I feel the urge!! I have a planned hospital birth, but I think my husband and I are going to switch to a planned homebirth! I have a feeling that if I go to the hospital and don't feel the urge right away, the hospital staff will give me a limited amount of time to wait for the urge and because of that, I will be tense and my body wont be able to do it's thing! I swear, I wish hospitals would be more patient and allow women's bodies to do what they're designed to do without pressuring them for time!!
anothermama ~ Did you birth at home or in the hospital? If you birthed in the hospital, were they giving you crap about waiting until you felt the urge?