LOL I was just chuckling over Calliope 84's remark about the 72 yo at uni and my son (18 yo) asked what I was laughing about. Then he said 'You never stop learning anyway.'
I skipped about 4 pages of this as there are so many posts. But I guess I'd say that I have 3 teenagers. 2 are now 18 yo. They haven't had girlfriends sleep over - well not their own anyway! We live out of town so kids often come for a whole w/e or several days in the holidays. When the kids were around 15 yo the girls slept up my end of the house and I did torch patrols ad hoc.
When they were all 17 or so I stopped. I would give them my 'midwife lecture' ie I don't want to see any of you in my office in the next few months is that quite clear?
I decided I couldn't be expected to be birth control for teens whose parents I'd never met - and who were more than happy for their teens to sleepover with their b/f's at my house.
I'm pleased to say that no one got p/g - not mine, not any one else's. I have had lots of discussions about teenage pregnancy and no its not the end of your life, but it does change it for both teenagers.
I haven't been asked for overnight sleepovers by my boys, but I'd prob have said yes if they were going out together for a while. We've discussed often enough about commitment and sex, and sex and the morning after pill, as well as drinking/drink spiking, and watching out for your friends - or even if you don't know a girl and you see someone spike their drink. I just think talking about things is the way to go. I'd tell them I felt 'odd' about them having a partner stay over, but let's face it now they are 'technically adults' do they need to ask?
Asking teens what they think about things tho is really really interesting. They have some great ideas about all this stuff that concerns them. I've heard some interesting views raised by my teens friends. And by my teens. If you just listen to media you would think all teens are having sex and teenage p/g's and std's. But if you listen to the teens they have their head on pretty straight most of the time. Ali