Saturday night I couldn't sleep. I went out to the grocery (which is near my daughter's friends house). I decided to drive by her friends house to make sure my daughter was where she was supposed to be. Over the last several months, my husband has insisted that she has been "up to somthing". We've had some rather unpleasant arguements over this topic. I actually thought he was going crazy.
Anyhow, I was shocked to find her car WAS NOT there. I called her and the lies just rolled out of her mouth. I let her go on for a bit before I told her that I was outside the house she was supposed to be at. She then tried to say "my car's on the side of the house" and "it's in the garage", then finally she said she was out and about (at 1 am) with another friend.
The next morning I demanded her Facebook password, phone, car key, etc. Most of the messages had been deleted in her fb and phone, but I found enough.
In message between her and the boy that asked her to his prom (she is a sophmore) she said she had been smoking "3-4 blunts every Friday and Saturday, for two months straight". She apparently has been hanging out with a college freshman and his buddies. This guy has been GIVING my daughter pot, for free. She also said she has been drinking, fooling around with guys, etc.
She admitted to my husband (I cannot even look at her) that she started drinking recently but did not like it, and that yes she has smoked pot. She says she is still a virgin, but I am not so sure about that.
I cannot not even look at her, talk to her, etc. My heart is broken. Never in a million years would have I thought she would be lying and acting like this. She has had a nice life, we give her everything she needs, she has a car, she is a varsity cheerleader, and a very sweet girl. She is stunningly beautiful, has good self esteem, and up until this point has had no behavioral issues.
I know this is long, sorry about that. Any advice on how to deal with this would be appreciated. So far we've taken her car, phone, and computer away and have grounded her for a month.
I know what I was doing at 16, I'm just SHOCKED that she is doing these things