I wanted to address the idea that more passion=more judgement. This is only partly true, IMO. I am a very strong (might say militant) advocate for a certain cause (think the most hot-button debate in the US
- but I won't talk specifics as to land this thread in activism :LOL).
So, I am a very extreme advocate for this one cause- always have been. I have found that extreme passion/activism- goes through stages of growth. First- you get mad/upset/angry about said cause, next you get all kinds of judgemental, then you start to wonder what good your judgemental nature is doing
(I think this is what Identity Crisis mama has been trying to say)
Then- you say to yourself- if I want to make a difference- *I* need to understand where the other side is coming from, *I* need to see the other side as intelligent and thoughtful and treat them as such, *I* need to use the least insensitive/least inflammatory terms possible so that people hear me when I talk, and- I need to listen more. I have to remember the people who are hurt by said cause- I have to be careful not to hurt them more- I need to be available to help them- if they want/need my help. I need to educate those who are at risk, instead of preaching to the choir or beating up on those who can't go back and make a different choice/decision.
You see, when you REALLY feel strongly about something, you have to do what it takes to make actual change- which judgementalism/ harsh words/ and venting just doesn't do, YK?
It's not about thinking whatever anyone else says/does as being ok, it's about caring about the individuals and working to do what ACTUALLY helps the cause.
I am working on being better at this myself- I have found it's a process and takes time to mature into (that's why I'm not quite there yet
). For a different example- I only recently became angry about circumcision, I'm still in the judgemental/ rarely helping anyone stage, I want to move on with it to where I can still think it's absolutely wrong, but I can focus on the actual making a difference part, which is much more important than my anger which doesn't help anyone.
I am hoping at least part of that made some sense:LOL