How do you make another baby?

[hasya]

We bedshare and am now wondering - how do you find the privacy to make another baby?

[annettemarie]

Assuming you're clear on the basics you don't need to limit yourself to the bed.

[hasya]

But if baby's in the bed, how do you go to a different room? Or is it floor of the same room? Our room isn't very big :-(.

[annettemarie]

Oh, I see. We have a crib sidecarred to the bed and so we have the option of the baby being in there. Or you can use siderails for safety. Or move the bed up against a wall. How old is the baby? Is she/he never in the room alone now?

[hasya]

No, pretty much, we're always in the room. Or, put her in the crib, where she'll sleep for an hour at most even at night. We just worry that she'll wake up and see us, and that's a mood killer. She's 11 months old. 

How did you sidecar the crib to the bed? Would you know what kind of rails are safe and good?

Thanks for your responses!

[Chloe'sMama]

We would leave DD1 alone in the bed (or at that age, on the floor so she wouldn't crawl off), and go to different area's of the house.  When she was younger and we just didn't want to leave her alone in the room, we would venture onto the floor.

Now that we have 2, DD1 is usually in the bed and we have DD2 on the floor in our room or even out in the living room with us and asleep in another part of the room.  There is always the chance that either can wake up, but gotta chance it to spend time together.

[MommyofHero]

Spontaneous lovemaking doesn't really happen anymore (at least for now), but putting a little planning into intimacy isn't so bad either... one parent can put the kids to sleep while the other sets up the living room with a big blanket on the floor, candles, music, etc... In some ways it's even more romantic this way :)

[texmati]

we managed, adn we were living with mil at the time (so sofa, etc was out. ) We both worked, so it was sunday morning nap only. we'd move ds to the crib or floor. We also would have 'dates' in the guest room after ds was asleep in our bed. He is a terrible sleeper, so normally we'd only get the 2-4 hours between sleep and first waking.

We'd have a monitor, and check in on him at first peep. What is your solution for naps?

[CherryBombMama]

Originally Posted by texmati 

we managed, adn we were living with mil at the time (so sofa, etc was out. ) We both worked, so it was sunday morning nap only. we'd move ds to the crib or floor. We also would have 'dates' in the guest room after ds was asleep in our bed. He is a terrible sleeper, so normally we'd only get the 2-4 hours between sleep and first waking.

We'd have a monitor, and check in on him at first peep. What is your solution for naps?

haha, we were too!

and i have to say, the times that we were too lazy to move out of the bed to DTD, we just did it VERY QUIETLY and neither of our boys noticed. they are 2 and 7m, and if they by any chance saw anything, would have no idea what was going on. so i say try it quietly in bed! if anything, the rocking motion of the bed keep our boys asleep. when we ventured to the living room, someone almost always wakes up, then i have to run butt naked to soothe one, or breastfeed the other, then the mood is seriously killed. lol.

[LittleBirdy]

DS likes to sleep in short little stretches...ahhh... 8 month olds... gotta love 'em.  He's also the lightest sleeper ever on the face of the planet.  Honestly?  DH and I try to "go home for lunch" once a week (we both work, DS goes to daycare).  Otherwise it would not be happening!

Of course we are absolutely positively for certiain in no way TRYING to make another baby, lord help us.  Mark my words, DS will be close to 4 before he gets a little brother or sister.  I don't count on STTN until at least age 2 and I want a year to recover before jumping on this crazy ride again!

[Munchkingirl]

I forget that this is something that others really put a lot more thought into and it made me lol.  Not to be disrespectful of what your feeling, it's just that we are so on the other side.  All the above ideas are great and I would recommend them.  We are expecting #5 this summer, so it has worked out pretty well over the years ;).  I see your siggy says you want to get back to nature, what better way to make this a normal part of your relationship and life.  I know it can be awkward to have kids near by and certainly if they wake up and they are "older" (2/3 and up) it puts a damper on the mood.  However, think about other cultures and times past....they were usually very communal and that is an aspect that had to be navigated so to speak.  If you are all in the same room....put little one down (however that has worked out for you) and make sure you and your man/hubby are ready at the first sign of her being out.  We have a king and side car crib, so we have some room to spare, but it can still be managed with a smaller bed--we have a tendency to set a pillow next as a divider from sleep side and the fun side.  Up to a year or so, if babe would wake up and we were not ready to be done, I would be willing to nurse during, but that is a comfort level not all are at.  I promise it gets easier the more we have (strangely enough).  

[AllyRae]

We've been co-sleeping since 2003.  Since 2003, I've been pregnant 3 times.  It's possible.  Bed rails, bed rails, bed rails. :lol:  Pop a bed rail up, and leave. :)

[To-Fu]

We do it elsewhere in the house.  We put foam bumpers on the bed in case, but we also have a video monitor that we take with us wherever we go so we can see AND hear what he's up to.

[hasya]

Thanks for all of your responses. I looked into bed rails in the past but gave it up, because I couldn't find any that cover the full length and width of the bed. She does tend to start crawling out of the bed if she doesn't see me when she wakes up. I noticed this behaviour when she's on the floor, which is why I never leave her alone in bed. I worry that she'll crawl out of the gaps.

I found this link:

http://www.thenewparentsguide.com/baby-bed-rails-1.htm

Which on do you use/recommend?

I have this bed:

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/S19849804

The mattress sits inside the frame. Thus, there are two flat surfaces on each side of the mattress. Which rails do you use, and will they install onto a bed system like this?

Thanks!