Rant: My husband doesn't approve of my eating - Page 2

[Snowflake777]

Originally Posted by Shami 

I've tried to explain it by asking the person to imagine they have a stomach bug and are throwing up. Would you like to try and make yourself eat some chicken, broccoli and rice while throwing up? Or if they have ever been car sick or sea sick...uh, your not going to go eat a salad and some fish while nauseous. That is the only way i can explain it to the male species.

Yep, this!

I just wanted to add that my diet during the first trimester was horrible too. All I wanted was bland, salty carbs. The less nutritional value, the better. I felt guilty about it, but it was out of my control.

It's totally normal - probably something we've evolved to avoid food poisoning, which would have been a real threat for the vast majority of human history. Not much you can do about that!

Just take your pre-natals and eat what you can stomach. You'll probably be able to broaden your diet again once you get past the 1st trimester.

[bethanyclaire]

I'm glad he is so involved and wants to help, that is sweet... but he is going about it ALLLLLLL wrong on the food front! I'm sure he is concerned but I'm sure you are fully aware of what you are and aren't eating... and even talking about grilled chicken and vegetables probably makes you want to hurl!

In the first trimester, what stays down is what matters. I was so, so sick with my last pregnancy. I puked multiple times a day, every day for almost 20 weeks. I usually eat a very varied, healthy, whole food diet but that went out the window by 6 weeks. I finally figured out that the ONLY 2 things that would consistently stay down were Stouffer's frozen mac & cheese (could that possibly be any LESS of an actual food source... pretty much just salt and pretend cheese...) and apple pie. That was it. That was ALL I ate that stayed down for months. I did the best I could. I baked my own pies from scratch and used whole flour and organic apples... but I just needed to eat! DS is perfectly fine! Yours will be too!!

You are doing your best, don't worry!!!

[Jaimee]

Originally Posted by radicaleel 

In the first trimester, the baby will take everything it needs from the stores you had in your body before you conceived. So as long as you were somewhat well-nourished before becoming pregnant, the baby is a-ok. Whatever you eat now is more for yourself than the baby, so eat whatever you can. The baby is so so tiny right now! By the time it is big enough to literally "eat what you're eating" you should be feeling better and eating better. Just tell him nature works perfectly that way.

Originally Posted by bethanyclaire 

In the first trimester, what stays down is what matters.

You are doing your best, don't worry!!!

I'm with you and the McDonald's fry craving.  I had that with my first.  Morning sickness aversions and cravings are so hard to explain to people who have not gone through it.  My MIL had zero m/s and totally didn't get what I was talking about and why I was doing what I was doing.  I could only eat applesauce followed by fried eggs every morning.  For lunch the only thing I could eat was mac and cheese from a box.  Dinner was a crap shoot.  And when you suddenly see or envision the perfect food, that is the only food that you can eat- it's the only thing that will stay put.  Sometimes it is so specific that it has to be a certain dish from a certain restaurant and attempting to make something similar at home just will not do. 

I hope that he learns to understand.  This won't last forever and then you can eat all the organic greens and lean meats you need to.  Hugs!