If you know you're for sure having a scheduled c-section and you've made your peace with this decision, I have a few suggestions:
-Ask for the screen to be lowered when they pull the baby out so you can see the birth
-If gender is a surprise, ask them not to announce it and let you and DH discover it together when they hold baby up for you to see.
-request delaying cord clamping for as long as they will allow (the peds team can do all their evaluations while the baby is laying on your stomach & in c-sections especially, the baby benefits from delayed cord clamping. I can find you articles on this if you're interested in showing your doc)
-Request that baby is brought to you ASAP
-Request to breastfeed in the OR
These are things that I know other mamas have gotten out of their scheduled c-sections. It's the ONE benefit of scheduling because there's no rush. This can still be a beautiful experience for you if you ask for the things that are important to you. My least favorite thing about my 2 csections has been that I've never gotten to feel my slimy baby. I've never experienced that. So one thing that would be important to me would be that they bring the baby to me while it's all slimy still and lay it on my chest for a few minutes. Seems silly but it's a small "sacrifice" on the doctor's part (just an inconvenience really) and since you're paying them double for less time's work then they can accomodate you in every way possible.
Oh another suggestion, if your doc is balking at any of these or acting like hospital policy wont allow it, tell him that you understand the "need" (their word not yours. lol) for another c-section but there are lots of great surgeons in the area who would jump at the chance to have your business and who have agreed to allow this to be a pleasant experience for you. He wont want to miss out on the extra income for such an EASY and STANDARD c-section and will be more likely to accomodate. I know being a VBA2C myself how docs like to treat you like you're some special case and make you feel like every little thing they do for you is a real treat (gag) but remember that you really do have all the control here if you're getting a c-section anyway. Because honestly there's a million OBs out there willing to do one and do it well. So if this guy isn't prepared to give you the little things that make it special for you, then find someone who will. Like I said, this can still be a beautiful experience! :-)
Good luck to you!!!
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