having had an epidural with my last VBAC, I cheated my way through pushing by looking at the monitors and listening to the nurse tell me when and how hard to push while lying flat on my back.I don't want that again... so I've been reading stuff. Intuitively I would think you let your body give you signals and push when you get the urge. But then I keep reading stuff about natural labors and midwives telling you not to push yet, or to hold it, or to push bla bla bla... Can people comment on how they pushed while not on meds? Did you get an urge or just push with every contraction? What is normal?