My 22-month-old daughter can only fall asleep with me or my husband lying with her, often with our arms wrapped around her. If we sneak out after she's asleep, there's a 50/50 chance she'll make it through the night on her own. The arrangement worked well enough until our son was born two weeks ago, and five days out of the week it still works. But my husband works evening shifts on Saturday and Sunday, which means on those nights, bedtime is entirely up to me. So far I've had my family sit with my daughter while I put my son down (generally a 45-minute process), and then remain on call for my son while I'm putting my daughter down (again, a 45-minute process), but this can't go on forever. Plus, I've gotten caught after my family has left, with both kids waking up, one wanting to nurse, the other wanting me to come back to bed. I've tried bringing my daughter into my bedroom to sleep, but she still insists I get in bed with her and wrap my arms around her, which doesn't work if I'm trying to nurse my son (which I usually am). I can handle every aspect of her nighttime routine—putting on PJs, reading books, brushing teeth—while holding/attending to my son, but I just can't get in bed and lay there with her for 45 minutes anymore. What is the gentlest way I can get her to transition to falling asleep on her own? Thanks so much.