He expects me to go back to work when my maternity leave is up. I definitely don't want to, but we cannot pay the bills without my income. DH is definitely a spender, won't sacrifice anything to make ends meet.
I'm scared to death. I don't know what to do. I know he can't take care of an infant, let alone 2 at the same time. I know he will just let them cry, cry, cry, while he sits on his ass & watches TV, like he does every night. I don't know when he'd expect me to get enough sleep to take care of all the kids and work fulltime. I think he's completely delusional.
What hurt the most was when he said, "I'm looking forward to you going back to work, so *I* can take care of the babies for once". Yeah, that made me feel awesome, thanks DH . You really don't want me there, great.
He's also said he won't get another job, or sell any of his "toys" to help pay for stuff, or just to have some security in the bank. I have nothing of value to sell, or I would.
I worry about the all the time. I don't know how we'll make it if he doesn't open his eyes and realize how selfish and stupid he sounds.
I'm so scared. I've told him while in tears that I don't think I'd be able to leave my babies when they're so little, and he said that I need to not be so selfish by wanting to stay home, and think about what's best for the whole family, not what *I* want to do.
What can I do?? Don't most men want to step up and try to provide for their family as much as they can??? *AM* I being selfish??