So my ds1 is not quite 3, and it seems rather early for him to be retracting, but he is a little bit. Totally on his own. He hates wearing clothes lately, so whenever we are home, he's pretty much naked. He explores and tugs at his penis sometimes, but isn't obsessed with it. I guess I'm wondering what is normal at this stage, and what is not. He has complained about his penis itching and also has come to me asking me to clean it after he's been picking at it. When he does this, he'll come to me with it already partially retracted, and he points to where he wants it cleaned. This evening when he did this, I just took him to the bathroom, and used a washcloth with soap and water. I made sure to have him tell me when/if it hurt (since I was holding back the foreskin to clean it). Does this sound normal to anyone?? He has never been forcefully retracted, and I thought that this would all just 'happen' on it's own. Nothing seems infected, maybe a little irritated, but I think that might be from him playing with it. Anyway, and advice or information is welcome!
Natural retraction in toddler
My son retracted naturally and fully between 2.5 - 3 years old. He was never retracted at all by anyone other than himself. I think some kids retract earlier than others and any time is fine.
Personally, I wouldn't use soap on anyone's genitals but my own. Some people react badly to soaps, harsh or mild. I'd think at his age just washing with water would be fine.