No thank you.

[Amatullah0]

Are toddlers capable of this? and I don't mean necessarily verbalizing it. 

Situation: 

Random person(friend, stranger, aunt, whoever): "OH, want a piece of chocolate" (assume DC likes chocolate)

DC: (takes and eats chocolate)

same random person: "oh wow, he gobbled that up!" "(dc) do you want another one?" (holding it out)

DC: either pushes it away, says "no," "no, thank you," or takes it to save for later

Is that actually possible? or is it some crazy ideal I have? LOL 

If it IS possible, how do I teach DS to be like that? hahaha

[physmom]

You meant to reject a second piece of cake?  Umm... sometimes DD will do that but it depends on her mood/if she's eaten/how good the cake was.

If she's full (and that's not always an easy task!) she'd limit herself but that's it. 

[sapphire_chan]

All the toddlers I know are like that. If they want the second piece now, they'll take it (or demand it!), but if they don't want it they push it away, and if they also need a nap they'll throw it on the ground and cry bitter tears about how anyone could be mean enough to try to give that to them.

What you really want is to train the adults around you to ASK THE PARENT FIRST!!

[sapphire_chan]

How the situation plays out with adults who have a clue:

Random person(friend, stranger, aunt, whoever):quietly "Can I offer your DC some chocolate?

You: Yes he'd really like that.

Person: OH, want a piece of chocolate" (assume DC likes chocolate)

DC: (takes and eats chocolate)

same random person: "oh wow, he gobbled that up! (quietly) can he have another?"

You: some variation of yes or no

Person: "(dc) do you want another one?" (holding it out) or moves on to other topics depending on your answer.

How you work it with adults who don't have clue is to jump in at the moment they're starting to reach out with the chocolate, and say yes or no as though the adult had asked permission. "Yes, a piece of chocolate would be fine." or "No, thank you! We need to have lunch."

[pranava]

The only thing my DS will say "No thank you"  to is the question "Do you want to go potty"